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    I whisper into the customer's ear while dancing for him. "You smell wonderful." "This is sooo gooood, isn't it?" Blah, blah, blah. Basic innocent staples. Nothing too sexual.

    I watched another dancer. She talks dirty, phone sex dirty. She's a top-earner. If it works for her, she can bank all she wants.

    I can't talk that way because I'd come off phony and awkward. Also, I don't want stalkers.

    I'm curious: What do you seductively whisper?

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    I do like you. OR I do some Dancer wealth statements . . . .THis is fun, isn't it? I'm having a great time, aren't you? blah, blah, blah. It can't hurt to get them primed fo rthe next pitch: I'm having so much fun, lets jsut do one more, OK?

    PS, I do phone sex sometimes, too. But I can't do it in person. It jsut sounds too corny!


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    I can only do the dirty phone-sex talk if the customer initiates it, otherwise I feel silly. But occasionally I get the guys that want to have a Penthouse Letter conversation and I can roll with it then. In general, I suppose I try to mirror how the customer's tone, if they want to talk at all. Sometimes they want sweet talk about emotions and crap, other times they want sex talk, other guys prefer to be quiet and enjoy the dance.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jayln
    I can only do the dirty phone-sex talk if the customer initiates it, otherwise I feel silly. But occasionally I get the guys that want to have a Penthouse Letter conversation and I can roll with it then. In general, I suppose I try to mirror how the customer's tone, if they want to talk at all. Sometimes they want sweet talk about emotions and crap, other times they want sex talk, other guys prefer to be quiet and enjoy the dance.
    A custy viewpoint: I seldom get much talk at all, but a little sigh or moan in my ear does wonders. Subtlety works best.
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    I refuse to dirty talk (a la phone sex) a customer ..... and get mega creeped out when a customer (esp. one that isn't attractive) dirty talks me!

    I actually prefer to whisper nothing in their ear at all..... instead I will breathe on their ear with my warm breath or allow my nose to brush the outside of their ear or allow my mouth to brush (no nibbling!) their ear lobe (outside of their ear).... breath on their neck... and so forth... depending on the rules of what is and is not allowed at each club.

    The dirty talk I can only do with someone I genuinely want to do it with.... I can't just "switch" that on and off. Good on that girl for doing so however I personally can't do it and don't like it when a customer does it to me


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    i whisper stuff like that. i know girls who talk dirty. problem: customers respect you less and get WAY more grabby and out of line. if you talk dirty. i like to be erotic not pornographic.
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    This topic always brings a little smile to my face thinking about that one guy's dirty talk line:
    guy: "and he's sooo big..."
    me: "mm, yeah."
    guy: "like... soo big he blocks out the sun!"
    me: "really?"
    guy: "uhm, er, yeah!" [he sounded like: "maybe she won't notice that was a stupid line"]

    I'm lousy at phone sex, even when the guy initiates, especially when we're not alone, like if there are other customers/dancers/waitresses within hearing I feel weird and don't say much. I can say "ooo, yeah baby" "mmm, yesss." otherwise, too awkward. Otherwise I keep to heavy breathing.
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    I hate it when custies talk dirty to me. I just can't do it back - I feel so stupid -it's just so phony. When I was still new I got a dance from a customer who was a regular @ my club. He was all, "Oh yeah, you feel my hard cock against you? You wanna fuck me right? You want me to fuck you in the ass!?" I turned around & said, "No, not really." He still comes to the club all the time & I never approach him for a dance. Ewww. But I will pretend to play with myself & make little moans in their ear. They love that! I'll also allude to bisexuality (I've found that saying you're a lesbian doesn't work because than you're Completely unnatainable, in their eyes) so I'll say, "My best friend makes the hottest noises when I eat her pussy." A lot of guys like that raunchy stuff - but if/when I (accidently) offend(?) them I'll giggle & apologize for my "potty mouth". Have fun. You're putting on an act, but don't do/say anything you're not comfortable with.

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    From a customer's point of view, I really don't like dirty talk. It suggests a level of emotional intimacy that we all know just isn't part of the transaction.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grove542000
    From a customer's point of view, I really don't like dirty talk. It suggests a level of emotional intimacy that we all know just isn't part of the transaction.

    I'm sorry, but this is really funny to me. Everything in a strip club is orchestrated so that the customer feels that the interaction he has with his stripper of choice is somehow "authentic." That's the whole point. Maybe "dirty talk" seems fake to you, but so is practically anything action or behavior a stripper does with regard to her customers.
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    I've long been friendly with a dancer who likes me for company when she works certain venues she feels a little uncomfortable in. She'll generally send me a text and ask me to pop along. While there I generally give her a couple of private dances because it boosts her earnings, but we've always had a private agreement that it's never to be taken seriously. As a result we try and crack each other up.

    One of her favourite devices is to do her best impression of a guy talking dirty to her. I can't believe that men think that dancers are turned on by this sort of conversation. I think my record for keeping a straight face is about 90 seconds.

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    Talking dirty rules, and can make you money ifyou know which buttons to push. It doesn't have to be all "I wanna fuck you hard". You need to hold back a little too. There are just as many, if not more, grabby guys who are quiet about it, in my experience.

    Perhaps Pam can throw down some good suggestions?

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    I don't do this at all because it leads to the customer asking you if you will really do the things you said to him.It's the perfect way to set yourself up for headaches.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl
    I actually prefer to whisper nothing in their ear at all..... instead I will breathe on their ear with my warm breath or allow my nose to brush the outside of their ear or allow my mouth to brush (no nibbling!) their ear lobe (outside of their ear).... breath on their neck... and so forth... depending on the rules of what is and is not allowed at each club.
    Oh yes, that's the ticket!!! It's the impression, not the actual words.
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    It is very interesting, I think, that it is so much harder psychologically for some people to "talk dirty" than to actually do something (strip, grind, whatever). And, indeed, it is not just that way for dancers, I have met MANY escorts who have no problem actually giving their customers BJs or fucking them but who hate it when the customer asks them to "talk dirty". Nor is it an issue just for women and just in commercial sex situations; personally I feel stupid, phony and very unsexy talking dirty to a lover/partner while having sex (or otherwise) even if she asks me to do so and obviously enjoys it.

    I guess it is because different parts of brains are involved in doing a thing vs talking about it...or something along those lines.

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    The sole dancer I will talk explicitly to, (not talk dirty to), is a dancer I bump into at intervals. She is that very rare beast, a dancer with a very strong exhibitionistic streak. There is a certain mode of behaviour she finds extremely pleasurable during a private dance, (and to put it tactfully, she shows the physiological response to prove it.)

    (I must confess to finding out what that mode of behaviour was by pure accident, and to the best of my knowledge this particular dancer does not volunteer the information.)

    Wwanderer put up a thread about Special Ethical Arena's some time back, and this is a classic case of it. She and I go off for a private dance knowing there are specially agreed rules between us that apply only to that dance. I have taken some pains to find out exactly what she enjoys, and I know the physiological response that will result, (which she knows I enjoy).

    I do feel a slight uneasiness though - the nature of the conversation she enjoys during the private dance, (and it is explicit not crude), is not one that comes naturally to me. However, the pleasure this dancer gets is genuine, not faked, and now I'd actually feel discourteous if I didn't behave in the way she wanted during a private dance. (Go figure).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wwanderer
    It is very interesting, I think, that it is so much harder psychologically for some people to "talk dirty" than to actually do something (strip, grind, whatever). -Ww
    This is very very true. I can stand half-naked in front of my teammates, and walk around with no shirt on, but I can't say the "P" word. I have a weird innability to talk dirty or say vulgar words. It just makes me feel weird.
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    A post was made about subtle breathy noises. I've found that a few well timed erotic moans or a gasp in it's place. Not a lot, just a few make more of an arousing good time for all instead of the phone sex sort of thing.

    On occasion I do cater to a couple of regulars of mine that enjoy the harsher side of life in a soft BSDM sort of fashion. There's the usual commands and such, but they do not like me to get graphic with them and I in turn like it that way.

    I only will get graphic and naughty if asked and then it's sort of a leading event, that lets them run with it and I simply embellish the fantasy. To simply plop down and start talking about sexual acts in great detail seems to take away the natural-ness of sex itself and make it into something that is just well.. everything propaganda makes it out to be. Yucky.

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    LOL!!!!! I see a girl at my club constantly "Whisssspering" into a customer's ear and I always wonder what the hell she's saying to them. Whatever she says it certainly does the job......she always seems to be in the v.i.p. room. I really don't know if shes a clean or dirty dancer, or if what she says really works for her.
    I am usually very quiet during a lapdance and keep a lot of eye contact with the customer, and throw in a sexy smile and giggle. I kinda think that talking during a dance ruins the intimacy of it, but ive honestly never have tried the dirty talk thing.

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    There are women at the club that I used to work at that talk really dirty to get dances and I am sure they do it during dances. They are hardcore hustlers and they make money, maybe even more. However, I have no shame in my game in saying that I cannot talk dirty to a customer, hell I couldnt even do it when I was with someone. Oh well, to each their own.
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    i can't do it. tried and failed. i just start laughing hysterically and while i'm sure there's a market for that, none of my customers have appreciated it much.

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    Went to a club and had a girl whispering, whispering in my ear. She did that with a bunch of guys. She was so breathy, I couldn't understand a damn thing. But she was also sweet and affectionate, and when she wasn't whispering, we had a nice but short conversation, and when it was her turn for the stage, she went up, and I followed her, along with 15 other guys. Later I'm talking to two girls who are dancing for "the first time," and they say, "Blondella whispers all that stuff to guys. What's she saying?" I had to plead ignorance, which didn't help.

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    Dirty talk does nothing for me. It might for other guys. I guess you try what you're good at, take your chance, gauge the reactions, and adjust accordingly.

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    I think it depends on how it's done and if it seems consistent with the mood. I do it when the guy's turned on and seems to like it. Sometimes guys laugh at what I say...time to stop I'd say.

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    ear moaning works wonders. I make tons on this. Or get on your kness in front of the custmer and lye your head on chest give him baby doll eyes right at the end of the song aned the say would you like anthor dance. You won't get an no trust me.

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    i LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE it when my so talks dirty to me! ahhh, what a turn on!

    But i feel freaking stupid doing it to a customer. I can do it well, i just choose not to do it at work b/c it feels so fake to me. But i will brush up against his ear and make sexy (not corny) sounds.

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