Be interested in hearing comments from dancers on this one.
For several years now I've had OTC friendships with several dancers - visit each other's houses, go out for meals etc. Suits me and suits them.
I also catch up with them at work - their choice that I do so. They tend to like lifts to and from the venues and while they're working they and I tend to find a quiet corner where we can drink and chat while not actually hustling for dances. Means they can relax and not have to fend off requests for phone numbers, etc.
[Bit of an aside - this is in the UK where there are strip pubs. These are essentially bars where the dancers typically collect the equivalent of $2 from every guy in the bar before doing a walk around strip lasting a single record. There's often a small semi-curtained off area where they can do private dances for $30 - $40. Might be 2 - 3 dancers working the shift and 20 - 25 guys in the pub.]
Both my dancer friends and I feel no need to indulge in the usual BS you get between customer and dancer, so the conversation tends to be the normal one you'd get between friends. I also know they're more comfortable if I don't pay attention while they're dancing, so I rarely look at them while they're nude.
It's not uncommon for one or both of the other dancers on the shift to join us. It might be they know the dancer I'm friendly with, it might be they have a nodding acquaintance with me or have heard through the dancer grapevine that I'm an affable bloke that will treat them well.
The inevitable result is that the dancer who joins us will then refuse to let me put the $2 in her jug before each of her dances. Equally inevitably I'll take the attitude that I'll buy her drinks instead. The area where they and I sit tends to be out of earshot, and often out of the line of sight of most of the pub. It often becomes a little bubble of "reality", with the other dancers relaxing and only readopting their "dancer persona" when going back into the main part of the pub.
What I've noticed is that if either of the other dancers join us, they then start to become a little uncomfortable if I watch them when they're dancing. I now make a deliberate point of saying that I don't take the dancing too seriously and they are perfectly welcome to totally ignore me while they are dancing, and I'll return the compliment by not paying attention. They seem to relax a lot after this and clearly prefer this tacit agreement that they don't show me and I don't look.
I guess the question for dancers on this board is, do you feel uncomfortable being "professionally" nude in front of someone whom you've come to deal with on a "friendly" as opposed to a "customer" basis?
Phil.



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