Well if the amount spent isn't an issue and our only hangup is the fact that he bought her a gift, then I still see it as a perfectly o.k. situation.Originally Posted by Sergent D
He bought her this because she has obviously done something that has bought him some joy--- or the very act of buying the gift for her bought him joy. While it may be that her work persona and the sc fantasy is the thing that has bought pleasure to this man's life who are we to judge what pleasure should be worth to him?
None of us know this man's circumstances--he may have just lost a loved one, gotten out of prison, or gotten over a depression. He may be in a state of mind that he just wants to GIVE (and not even necc. monetarily), and it isn't for the rest of the world to decide that he has given too much. IF she has done something that in his mind warrants a $3000 bracelet so be it.
He may just be after her cookie, (and if he is he offered the gift without specifying that it was a prepayment for her services which means she is under no obligation to give it to him if she doens't want to) but the hope of recieving isn't the only reason people give.
I've found that when I'm in a suspicious, hording, taking state of mind that they assume that others have the same motives......When I'm relaxed, giving open and generous I expect that others feel the same.
For the record I've always loved giving presents (I'm very good at it if I do say so myself!)
I love agonizing over what the perfect gift might be, saving my $$ for it finding the perfect wrapping paper or fabric and accompanying card or poem. But the best is when the person gets the present and smiles because they are happy that someone thought of them-It's even better than when they finally open it and like it.
Oh BTW I'm one of those people who believes everyone is an equal-- the homeless guy downtown and the owner of my club and I are all the same once this ride is over.



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