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    Is it wrong that I barely speak during a lap dance? I had a dancer recently get upset with me that I didn't speak much during the dance. I spoke to her a little between songs, but not during. I told her that I did like the dances she gave me, and that I am just naturally quiet by nature, especially in a new surrounding where I am the only person I know. She said she understood, but I knew she thought I was lying. Is it really a big deal when someone doesnt speak?

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    It's not uncommon to not speak during a dance.So long as you're paying her,I don't see what the issue is.

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    She's working for you , as long as you tip accordingly dont worry about it she may have had an off night .

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    I like girls who are talkers but save it for before and after the dances. If she yaps during the dance I'm going to stop at one and she's off my list.
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    Did you non-verbally communicate you were enjoying yourself? The poor girl isn't a mind reader, and she may simply have wanted some indication you were having a good time (and inclined to buy more LDs, of course). I once had a superb series of dances by a biology student--the entire time we chatted about stem cell research. But then, I'm a pushover for a sensual dance coupled with intelligent, non-sexual conversation. This combo feeds both of my fundamental pleasures.

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    Talk? You mean shout don't you? You are, after all, in a stripclub (average decible level 9000). I don't say anything, unless she says something to me. For starters it throws off the dance because she has to then lean in and i have to repeat myself twice to be understood over AC/DC.

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    Hmm, I was wondering the other day if I was talking too much during a champagne room [he'd paid upfront for the half hour] so I'd shut up for a song or two, and then he'd ask or say something, so I've no idea. I was dancing the entire time [so talented, can grind and dance at the same time! ] so who knows? *shrug* I usually ask if they prefer dances or talking during rooms, but he was a regular so I wasn't sure. During individual dances I just go with silence with the breathy "so, would you like to keep going?" thrown in.

    Anyway, I think it is normal that you want to enjoy your dances rather than talk.
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    my new one doesn't talk during the dance. she gives the most sensual dances
    i've ever received.
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    LOL @Jay
    I hardly ever say anything during a LD sounds like she might be just a bit sensitive.
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    I hate it when guys try to talk during a dance. It means they are not paying attention to my supurb dancing and erotic sensual entertainment and jsut want to hear themselves yap. These are the same guys who usually want extras and/or can't get into a dance b/c they never shut up!

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    I'm just in from the club, and all the girls I bought dances from tonight talked at some point or another, be it at my initiation or their own, and it certainly didn't affect my enjoyment of the dances. Given the chemistry, it's not really surprising. It's also not like I'm asking them for a dissertation on Keynesian economics or anything so it's not really a big deal...though if she could do that, she would score big points.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Madcap
    Talk? You mean shout don't you? You are, after all, in a stripclub (average decible level 9000). I don't say anything, unless she says something to me. For starters it throws off the dance because she has to then lean in and i have to repeat myself twice to be understood over AC/DC.
    I'm with mad on this one. It is loud in all the sc's I have been in and I'm not a loud talker. Nothing messes up a lap more than repeat myself and I don't know if she really hears me or just acts like she does. I sometimes tell the dancer that I don't talk much just so she knows. I do tell her she is going a fine job between dances. You have to let her know, the dances are better that way.
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    I feel wierd now when I dont talk giving a dance. I hate "silence" eventhough SC's are not silent just us. So, I make him laugh or tell him a sexy story but if they want me to shut up then all they have to say is "I just want to relax and enjoy". Kinda like if you were getting a massage...I just tell her that I really need to relax she gets the cue everytime.
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    My old atf used to talk with other dancers in the couch room. I really hated that. one of the many reasons she's my old atf.
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    Except for counting, I usually just keep my mouth shut, unless of course, my entertainer has found one of my magic buttons. Once she's found what makes me weak, I gotta give her encouragement to repeat it intermittently, and do so without mercy.
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    I'm not much for talking during a dance, although I like to talk before and after (and I am not mindful of the fact that this is also working time for the dancers, and act accordingly). I really get pissed when, in VIP, dancers talk amongst themselves, bum cigs from each other, etc., when they should be dancing.

    I once had a dancer tell me that I was "hard to read." Like an earlier post-er, if a dancer hits one of my sensitive or preferred spots, she will know it.

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    I don't talk much during dances either. Although, I will tell her that I liked a specific move or something that feels good.

    But, if we happen to hit on an interesting topic to both of us, I don't mind talking about it during dances; even though, it does stop the flow.

    In fact, I was at a club last night and the dancer and custy in the next booth were talking so loud and so much during the dances that it was really getting annoying. Both my dancer and I were laughing about it during the dances and we were leaving the dance area.

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    personally i keep my mouth shut during the dances.

    i hate when they talk to another dancer while she's dancing for me.

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    Well....I am glad I am not the only one who doesn't speak.

    Maybe the dancer in question was just having a rough night.

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    For me, I prefer a man doesn't talk very much during dances. I think that the girl who danced for you might have been feeling a little uncomfortable (for her own reasons, having nothing to do with you), and so she turned it around on you. Whatever the case, I wouldn't take it personally.
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