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    What have you learned about men?

    Ok, if people can be serious, this can be a really interesting thread more appropriate for "Hustle Hut" so lets see what happens...

    What psychological insights have you gained either about men in general or SC customers from working as a dancer? (tangents regarding specific types of customers are ok too). I'd be fascinated to hear anyone say anything which is not commonly known by the female population in general.
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    There is nothing more powerful than a smart and pretty woman. Charm goes along way when it seems very genuine. Brain fart...Ill think of more later.
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    Oh, boy. Get ready Jay, here we go...

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    ^ O jeez.


    MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP

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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz
    ^ O jeez.
    Fragile Male ego makes this one a flame war waiting to happen, hun. No doubt about it. Not that the original poster meant to post flame-bait, i don't think, but this one has gasoline on it.

    Luckily the ladies don't seem to be taking the unintentional bait...

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    that most men are weaker, and they enjoy being controlled by a woman, if you look at most, all it takes is boobs and ass and suddenly everything is handed over to them

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    That men ( and women ) when not in the environment that they feel safe and secure in will try to puff up and see who is bigger, or will revert to the intelligence test - to make themselves appear more so.

    That men when not within sight, hearing or talking distance to their ole' ball and chain ( don't blast me. I'm being very general with my terms here ) will try and pack as much naughtiness in one night or evenings adventure out as they can. Plus, if they are in the company of friends it only gets worse.

    That men who don't get out much without "the little woman" and in the company of their peers often tend to act dorky. Calm down, we understand this. Some dorkyness can be cute. Work with it.

    That men have a hard time being nice in general to the weaker sex if they think they are not in control of the events and situations and that everything their Mothers taught then about their selves is true. IE: Your the MOST handsome, wonderful man alive. Ect.

    That younger men have no manners. Period.

    That there are some men out there that are NOT controlled by their smaller head.

    That there are some men in there that can talk to my face first before they even get to my chest.

    That there are some men who understand STRIP CLUB rules and can play the game WITH me.

    That some men think all women are stupid, useless vessels there only to amuse him and that I had better get to it. Quickly.

    That rich men are assholes. Period. Plus that money entitles they to be treated differently by strippers and people in general because.. well they have money. Sad to be them. Hundred dollar shirts and silk suits do not make you a man. They just make you a rich jerk.

    That some men understand what I do is a JOB and it is ENTERTAINMENT and no, I wont "let them slip it in" real quick for X amount of cash.

    That men , eighty percent of the time when they enter a strip club think they are going to "get some" or be able to take the stripper/dancer of their choice home with them.

    That some men are cheap - period.

    That some men, no matter how nice, sweet, pleasant you are will always piss you off.

    That some men are always trying to get that extra bit, that last little squeeze, just to see if they can.


    I'll add to this as I think of things - Ladies? Did I cover it all or did I forget some things.

    Miss R

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    Hey now, I tried to add good and bad things. You all know we love you!

    Miss R

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    Maybe it would be a better idea not to sound the alarm until after the fire starts...
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    yoda, I want you so bad it aches in the swimsuit area.
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    Sophia_Starina is a sensible stripper...Naked all the way.....
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    Double team! 2 latinas with big tits!!

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    It depends. I find that you generally learn the one dimensional, possibly even more secret side of men (i.e. the side they will only expose in the SC which they probably will not expose in their ''real'' lives) and these one dimensional sides differ from man to man (although of course there are general patterns).

    I have learned that all men pull funny faces when they are turned on.

    I have learned that men cannot keep their tongues in their mouth when a pussy is staring straight at them.

    I have learned that a lot of men have the same insecurities, but think their own is rare because they never really ever confide in such things with their buddies (a difference between the sexes - women talk about most personal things to their friends).

    I have learned that a no matter what profession they are in, when they come into an SC with a group of lads, they all act like teenagers

    I have learned that men obviously like female company (and that includes gays - you see the amount of females that swarm them? And I have met a few inside the club)

    I have learned that men are people and that they all have feelings (stating the obvious, but I've met some who were really sad after 'tame' stripper abuse or things more serious.


    Just a few things. I will think of more later. But you do learn some stuff.
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    Aha! This is what I'm freakin' talkin' about people! There is some good stuff here already.

    I'm well aware that I am on the pink side and asking for negative comments as well as positive. But I'm a person who actually asked the president of my company if he drinks his lunch so no lack of ball here. LOL If you immediately answer a thread with troublemaking comments especially after I politely asked you not to then I do think you are out of line but I am not surprised.

    I'll ponder the comments made already further to get back with more thoughts. They are too deep to respond to off the cuff.
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    From a male point of view working in a SC inevitably, (and understandably), makes dancers more cynical about men, both inside and outside of work.

    It's a fact of life but I find it a little saddening because, if you become friendly with a dancer outside of work, you have to be so, so careful not to touch a work-related nerve. And sometimes they are short tempered with you for work-related reasons OTC, then realise seconds later what they've done and feel wretched for having done it.

    As I say, saddening.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Crow
    That men ( and women ) when not in the environment that they feel safe and secure in will try to puff up and see who is bigger, or will revert to the intelligence test - to make themselves appear more so.

    <snip>

    Miss R
    Are you referring to groups of men that come to the SC together or even customers with each other?

    Second question, what percentage of customers do you think don't feel safe and secure? I have had people tell me they can't believe I go to SCs alone but I feel much more comfy doing that then going to a dance club alone. At a SC, no one is going to ask me to shake MY booty! LMAO
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    I always go alone. Too many of my friends have embarassed me over the years by hitting on dancers. Some guys can handle hot naked women and some can't....
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    yoda, I want you so bad it aches in the swimsuit area.
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    Double team! 2 latinas with big tits!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us
    I always go alone. Too many of my friends have embarassed me over the years by hitting on dancers. Some guys can handle hot naked women and some can't....
    I know what you mean. I've been humiliated by people i've brought doing worse than hitting on the dancer, though.

    I was like "Craig who? I don't even know who that dude is!"

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    I've learned that my life isn't nearly as screwed up as I thought it was. It seems like I'm downright balanced compared to some of the customers I've met in these places.

    I've learned that men naturally want to "buy" women, and very few women are comfortable with that concept, but strippers are at least confortable with being "rented" for a little while. I also think that the guys don't relize conciously that they are trying to buy a woman.

    I've learned that there are a lot of very lonely married guys out there.

    I've also learned that there are no absolutes. I've seen as many different kinds of personalities as I've seen customers. Each man is unique. I have met really sweet wealthy men, and big cheap broke ass jerks. Everyone gets something different out of his strip club expierence, even though they are all looking at the same dancers.

    I also know that I have a soft spot in my heart for everyone. Even though some people annoy me, I know that we are all sharing a similar expierence (the human condition), and it is facinating to me to see how others deal with their humanity.

    *I wanted to be an anthropologist when I was in elementary school

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    I also know that I have a soft spot in my heart for everyone. Even though some people annoy me, I know that we are all sharing a similar expierence (the human condition), and it is facinating to me to see how others deal with their humanity.

    *I wanted to be an anthropologist when I was in elementary school
    I totally agree, psychology is fascinating and I think human bahavior is the biggest source of humor hence romantic comedies. Cartoons like the Far Side can effectively use animal behavior because animal behavior is a boiled down version of human behavior. I do think it's fascinating how much power the opposite sex can have over you and that as you get older you normally can learn to fight it to some degree.

    Note to Jay: thanks for the link to the similar thread. I think there's value in rehashing, if for no other reason, due to newbies who may have further wisdom to shed. Also, I think people tend to hang out in certain sub-forums.
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    Re: What have you learned about men?

    honestly... when I finish to work I don't want to see men at all!!!
    At the moment in my private life I don't want any man, I see too many at my work, got enough!
    But where I work is also different, in US people behave much more than in Europe, here men treat us without respect, they think we are prostitute in stead of dancers sometimes, sometimes they are rude to us, the security doesn't give a da*n about it... I hate these big groups of drunk people in the week ends they can make me hate all men!!!
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    Fragile Male ego makes this one a flame war waiting to happen, hun.
    The fragility of the male ego is greatly exaggerated.
    Idealism is fine, but as it approaches reality, the costs become prohibitive.

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    I don't think I've learned anything that any smart observant woman wouldn't have learned eventually. I think strippers just learn these things quicker than civilians. We're exposed to more men being themselves in a week than most women are exposed to in a lifetime.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer
    The fragility of the male ego is greatly exaggerated.
    I enthusiastically disagree. It is a RARE man indeed who doesn't prove how fragile the male ego is daily.

    Quote Originally Posted by pheno View Post
    When you lead a nontraditional life don't try to measure it with traditional milestones.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Malak
    Are you referring to groups of men that come to the SC together or even customers with each other?

    Second question, what percentage of customers do you think don't feel safe and secure? I have had people tell me they can't believe I go to SCs alone but I feel much more comfy doing that then going to a dance club alone. At a SC, no one is going to ask me to shake MY booty! LMAO
    groups of men that come in and even groups of men and women that come into the SC.. together. Like a boys night out thing or a two couples gone to see the strippers..

    I think that ninety percent of the patrons don't feel comfortable at all about going to the Strip club, why are they there you ask.. That one is a mystery to me. But, I've nearly made people jump out of their skin by going up to speak to them.
    My two cents worth of observations.

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    Men typically don't let the little things bother them.
    Men spend more time on the quest for 'fun'
    Men keep friends longer.

    I've only had two men in five years tell me they're getting married for love.
    I can tell you're married by the way you compliment my dress.
    Men will never know what women want... Unless we tell them.

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    Wow, so much to comment on...

    Luna - I was stationed in the middle east with some dutch soldiers. Was always jealous of their mini-machineguns. Forget if they were Uzis or MAC-10s. LOL Perhaps you should move to the US where you will be treated better? Say Connecticut?

    Crow - hard to believe so many custys want to jump out of their skin. Perhaps they are the voyeur type? If I want to do that I can do so from the internet so why bother going to the club? Damn, I would never turn down free body contact with a dancer. The only issue for me is I don't like turning a bunch down for a dance.

    Jay and Yoda - I disagree that you can't learn anything different about men in SCs. The comment about accelerated learning was excellant and I do think you can tap into new things because it such a unique and extreme situation. This chick you barely know is sticking her cookie in your face! Hello! (knock, knock) LMAO Yoda, you said it yourself that some of your friends act like asses when they are there. I would bet that they don't necessarily act that way at picnics.

    Underestimated - If the men are not marrying for love then why are they? I do think that whole segments of the male population would never enter a club so you are getting a skewed sample. I never went till I hung out with a dancer first, and now I'm divorcing and it's a stopgap before the next girlfriend. I did marry for love and WILL always love her but I just can't live with her anymore. It took a lot to get to this point because she is some hot arm candy let me tell ya. :-(
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    Men are animals.
    The object of psychotic obsession.

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