So I have this friend who used to be a customer. He's a great guy and he takes care of financially so i don't have to work anymore. I am really thankful for this. I am using the money he gives me to go to school and enrich my future. After the other thread I posted here (Life after stripping) I realized that even though I may not be as competently "certified" and "educated" as some other women, I know there are still options for me. So I am turning my life around thatnx to all your wonderful ladies' advice!
So this guy is one of those "I'd rather give you MY money so you don't have to strip" and I'm not his only "dependant". He has another girl he takes care of. I've met her and let me tell you. This girl is older than me, but her head is only half-way there. She's wasting her life away with useless people who take advantage of her. She comes in to the bars me and my guy hang out at so that he can give her some cash so that she can take her friends out. She drives his car, lives in a house he owns, and takes care of her child. I know it's gotta be hard to be a young mother, and I'm sympathetic to her cause.
What really bothers me is that she doesn't realize what she's doing with her life. I know it's not my place to judge, and I'm not. My problem is that she "abuses' her priviledges with this man. She calls him when she needs something, whenther it's money or a shoulder to cry on, on someone to bitch to.
I know that's what real friends are for, but come on. Every time they get together he calls me afterward and transfers all that complaining and bitchiness to me. I don't care if he loves her or what not, I just don't want to hear about her. I can't believe that he just takes it. I'm a greatful to him for what he does for me AND on her behalf, as well. But he doesn't have the heart to pressure her to smarten up.
I've tried to bring it up with him, but he got defensive basically saying in polite words that he doesn't need my opinion on the situations they face together. I know, I shouldn't get involved. But I don't wannt to hear this shit about her problems. I wish I was a closer friend to her so that I can have some infuence, but we don't get along.
I don't know what kind of a responce I'm looking for here, I guess I just needed to vent (as politely as possible) about how frustrating and emotionally draining it is to hear about someone else's shit. I got off MY lazy ass and stopped complaining. Why can't she?



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