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  • Men cheat more than women.

    15 31.25%
  • Women cheat more than men.

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  • It's all pretty damned even.

    23 47.92%
  • If you cheat, God hates you and you will die a slow painful death.

    5 10.42%
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    Default Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    I did notice the headline "Do All Men Cheat" in the Ladies' Lounge. NOOOOO, I did NOT venture in there. Rather, one of the lovely gals on this site was asking me some questions. So I thought I would pose this question in here where others could comment/vote on it.

    Personally? Yes, I think the VAST majority of men cheat - not necessarily physically, but emotionally. This is where women really have a hold on us - you're more emotional than we are. For example, if I meet up with a woman for dinner without my wife knowing...but I don't have sex with her - to me, I'll be thinking "Hey...I didn't fuck her!" Whereas she'll be thinking, "Well, you might as well have."

    It's an interesting situation, because research claims (note the use of the word "claims") that relationships that stay together are often stronger after a case of infidelity. Does that hold true for BF/GF situations? Probably not.

    As for my own experience - yes, I was involved in an extramarital affair. The result? Indeed, my relationship with my wife grew...because she learned she wanted me around....and I learned that the grass that looked greener on the other side...was actually weeds.

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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    Quote Originally Posted by MojoJojo
    I did notice the headline "Do All Men Cheat" in the Ladies' Lounge. NOOOOO, I did NOT venture in there. Rather, one of the lovely gals on this site was asking me some questions. So I thought I would pose this question in here where others could comment/vote on it.

    LIAR

    Personally? Yes, I think the VAST majority of men cheat - not necessarily physically, but emotionally. This is where women really have a hold on us - you're more emotional than we are. For example, if I meet up with a woman for dinner without my wife knowing...but I don't have sex with her - to me, I'll be thinking "Hey...I didn't fuck her!" Whereas she'll be thinking, "Well, you might as well have."

    It's an interesting situation, because research claims (note the use of the word "claims") that relationships that stay together are often stronger after a case of infidelity. Does that hold true for BF/GF situations? Probably not.

    As for my own experience - yes, I was involved in an extramarital affair. The result? Indeed, my relationship with my wife grew...because she learned she wanted me around....and I learned that the grass that looked greener on the other side...was actually weeds.

    DISCUSS!!!!
    I don't think meeting with a woman for dinner is cheating, hell I don't even think fucking someone is cheating as long as both parties know. What is cheating to me is when someone does something then lies about it or withholds the truth. So, the truth is, cheating is defined as different things to different people. Do I think all men cheat? No. I think that some people have healthy relationships with defined boundaries. Regardless of what those boundaries are, this is what I find healthy and understanding and respectful of one another's needs. I do find the need to be with other men when with an SO, but I would never cheat. It comes down to being with someone who will understand and accept you for who you are, and not try to change you into someone you are not. If one feels the need to be with others, they need to be honest about it with their mates. It's often not a choice but a compulsion to do so, and if not acted on, it leaves the person hungry and unsatisfied, and therefore unhappy with their lives.

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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    Yeah, lets violate LO by copping shit from there (Against the rules, and has caused major flame wars in the past). Have fun, folk. I'm outski here. I'll tell you now what the answer will be. "No, not all men cheat" And this answer will come from a flood of males.

    Real answer, from experience is this: "Most men cheat. Some do not." It all depends on both the man and the situation. I won't bother voting.

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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    Quote Originally Posted by EroticTonic
    LIAR
    Nope nope - I'm absolutely serious. It happens.
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
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    "Sir, if you were my husband, I would poison your drink."
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    "Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it."
    -His reply

    "If God had intended us to drink beer, He would have given us stomachs."
    -David Daye

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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    Depends what you define by cheating.

    I've never slept with a second woman when I've been in a relationship - kind of goes outside my principles. Nor will I get seriously involved with a married woman, with the one exception detailed below.

    Confessions coming up....

    I'll plead guilty to the odd kiss and cuddle with a married woman at the moment, (I'm single), but her marriage is breaking up, (nothing to do with me), and she wants the affection. We do have a cast iron agreement that kiss and cuddle is as far as it goes - I guess she's cheating in a minor way on her husband, but within limits we're both comfortable with.

    I did sleep with a married woman once, but that was a slightly sad story. She had one of these muscular wasting diseases and knew she would be confined to a wheelchair in 5 years time. She was having fun while she still could. She was cheating on her husband for sure, but did the end justify the means?

    I do do dinners, etc., with several women I have friendships with. These relationships are platonic, with nothing more than pecks on the cheek by token of affection. At least one of these women has not told her SO we meet up from time to time. Is she cheating on him despite the fact our trysts are friendly only?

    As I said, depends what you define as cheating.

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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    I think women cheat just like men. My boyfriend's ex cheated on him a few times. He never cheated. Now he's sort of jealous of a lot of the guys I work with. But yet he called me drunk when I was out of town and had gone to a club and gotten loaded and then went to a full nude strip club to see a girl he's friends with he'd seen at the previous club. I wasn't jealous. Now if I'd have seen one of the guys I work with dancing around nude I'm sure he really would have been upset. Jealousy and cheating work both ways. It all depends on the person and the situation.

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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    Do I think all men cheat - no

    Do I think most men cheat?
    Honestly, I don't think there is a big disparity between the number of men vs. women that cheat. But I don't have any emperical evidence to support my feelings, other than my personal experience. I'm sure the group of people that I know or come across do not resemble a true sample set of the overall population....

    if it does, then it's 50/50 and most men do NOT cheat

    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic
    I don't think meeting with a woman for dinner is cheating, hell I don't even think fucking someone is cheating as long as both parties know. What is cheating to me is when someone does something then lies about it or withholds the truth. So, the truth is, cheating is defined as different things to different people. Do I think all men cheat? No. I think that some people have healthy relationships with defined boundaries. Regardless of what those boundaries are, this is what I find healthy and understanding and respectful of one another's needs. I do find the need to be with other men when with an SO, but I would never cheat. It comes down to being with someone who will understand and accept you for who you are, and not try to change you into someone you are not. If one feels the need to be with others, they need to be honest about it with their mates. It's often not a choice but a compulsion to do so, and if not acted on, it leaves the person hungry and unsatisfied, and therefore unhappy with their lives.


    I was going to say the same thing, but I probably would have screwed it up.

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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    Haven't studies been done that show women are actually much more prone to cheating? Something about wanting to get a good sampling of the gene pool...whatever.

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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    Quote Originally Posted by Rebuildme
    Haven't studies been done that show women are actually much more prone to cheating? Something about wanting to get a good sampling of the gene pool...whatever.
    The last study I saw indicated that women were catching up to men, but I have not seen much that claimed they were "much more prone"...which doesn't mean it doesn't exist, of course.
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    "Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it."
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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    I'd say it's about 50/50. I think that given the opportunity, a lot of men couldn't resist cheating. If another woman was coming on real strong and it was just the two of them, he'd go for it. I believe the same about women. Women however, are a little different, because we get that whole emotional attachment thing, so that may cause some of us to cheat rather than it being about sex. Most men (not all of them!) don't care where it comes from, as long as they get it.

    I don't think having fantasies about cheating is a form of it. Sometimes it adds something to the relationship, a sort of excitement. It's normal. Doesn't mean that the person will run out and act on them. That's where the whole "trust" thing comes into play. Without it, you don't have a relationship to begin with.

    I had numerous opportunities to cheat with my first marriage. He was always gone on the ship, and I was dancing. Didn't happen, but I'll admit that I did think about it--quite a few times.

    Me and Dan have the same agreement that me and the ex had. If one of us wants to cheat, fine. But, we'd tell the other person first.

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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    I've read in newsweek that it is like 60/40 with the guys in the lead, but women are catching up pretty quickly.

    Women are starting to cheat more because they have less to lose then in times past. Just think about it, if a wife in the 1950's cheated on her husband, and got caught, she would lose it all. She would probably have to leave her community, her children, her whole life would fall apart- for deciding to have an affair. A cheating husband on the other hand was tolerated if he took care of his family financially, and was not abusive to his wife and kids. It was a boys will be boys attitude.

    Today, if a woman has an extramarital affair it no longer means that she is socially ostricized, hell, it may even improve her current marriage by opening the lines of communication to what is the root of the marriage problems. Women today have the ability to earn a decent income (still not equeal, but better), and aren't risking homelessness and destitution by giving in to an affair.

    So in the future you may see it where more women are cheating on their spouses then men, but we aren't there yet. The 60% of married men that cheat on their spouse is a huge number in my mind. 60%!!!


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    I don't personally honestly because it's far to much work.

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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    All men don't cheat. But all men want to.


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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    Quote Originally Posted by Gendai73
    I don't personally honestly because it's far to much work.
    LOL! That's the truth!


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    I say it's pretty damn even.
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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    I think of people as people, everyone's different, or we atleast want to be, he he.
    I tihnk cheating is different for everyone.
    Some men and women will flip if their partner even pseaks to someone of the opposite sex.. ick
    My Bf and I think of others as something on the menu, we can look at it, but we aren't going to try it.
    I just learned a few of my friends have started to swing. They think it makes life more exciting. They love their partners, but it's that much more to go back to them after trying out something new.
    Cheating is all in the eye of the beholder. As women we think you men are cheating, lying, pigs... As for what men think of women, hmmmmm, I think sometimes we're the kinder sex (hey, just my opinion.)
    I guess the whole thing if cheating is, if you are going to do it.... DONT GET CAUGHT.
    *This is just an opinion of others and in no way effects my relationship with my fiance*
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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    i think for the most part they do, they cant resist temptation.

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    ...they WON'T resist the temptation...imo...they're not that weak...they choose not to be faithful...most of them anyway...
    why do some people still have to fight to get the same opportunities that are given to others?

    reclusiveness...is a good thing.

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    I prefer sharing to cheating.

    I think women are probably ahead of men
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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    I dated my first GF for a few years and broke up. Then I dated a stripper 4 years older than me. I ended up breaking up with her and dating my first GF again. We remained friends.


    Well, I met her out for a drink one night with all her friends and she got hammered and pounced on me. I banged the hell out of her while her BF was at work (night shift). Then I went home to my GF.

    I felt like a total piece of shit. It was the most guilty, lowly feeling ever. I never did it again, ever.


    Karma was a bitch though. She cheated on me a few years later, but she threw it in my face (where I hid it and she never found out). I got what I deserved.

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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    13 Years of being behind the bar tells me that woman and men cheat up a storm. However, most men seriously consider it, even if they do not ever carry it out, while women fantasize about it in an abstract way (and of course this is a generalization for the purposes of this thread. There are always exceptions, of course).

    In my experience, very many men would cheat if they could get away with it. Also in my experience, a vasy majority of those men realize that they can;t get away with it, so they don't do it. I base this on all the situations and conversations I have heard over the years where alcohol has loosened the defensive barriers and people's guards are down. Some talk directly to me, but most talk in my presence as if I wasnt there. Rule of Thumb - the bartender hears everything.

    For my part, I have never cheated, not once, not ever. In the four committed relationships I have had in my life (one being a 5 year marriage) I never strayed, even for a brief moment. Did I look at another woman during those times and though in an alternate world I would have loved a chance to be with her? Most certainly. As the saying goes "I am married, not Dead". However, I have always been a person that it was extemely difficult to get to know and to get close to. If I became committed to someone, I was entirely into her and entirely satisifed with that. It meant that the relationship was something I drew constant satisfaction and enjoyment from. I was SURE of it. The few moments of pleasure I could have experienced with another woman in the course of cheating would not be worth losing the relationship I had, even if I had the desire to look outside of it. The Bigger Picture would always trump the hypothetical few moments of indulgence.

    When my marriage ended, infidelity was not a factor on either of our parts. It's one of the few things I can be grateful about the whole thing.

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    I have never had sex outside of a committed relationship. I've had chances with ladies I was attracted to, and declined.

    However, I wouldn't go so far as to say I've never cheated. There's levels other than sex.

    I don't know who cheats more. However, I believe that just about anybody is capable of just about anything at just about any given time. Anybody. Anything. Anytime. It keeps me from being so surprised anymore.

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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    I see gasoline everywhere - who has the matches? why i do !!!

    I suggest a new poll.

    "Have you touched, or allowed yourself to be touched by another person (animal sex, and blow up dolls excluded in this poll) in some way that you know your SO wouldn't approve of, and you haven't told them about? "

    (Yes, you'd have to include the drunk times and those upsey/downsey fight periods. You choose to get drunk, so if you fuck up while drunk, it counts. Also it counts after a fight, cause some people have an ?unconscious? need to push their SOs away so they have an excuse to cheat. Basically if you've been doing stuff you know your SO wouldn't approve of, regardless of the reasons, it counts).

    Exceptions? One...

    You were forced, or it was not consenual, and can't face telling your SO for fear of how your SO would react.

    The stats on males vs females - who cares. Stats about a subject like this are unreliable, and utterly pointless. Nobody learns jack because it's focusing on the wrong thing - what someone else is doing. It is much more beneficial to focus on your own fuck ups in life.

    I don't know know how to start a poll or I'd start one like that.
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    Default Re: Do ALL Men Cheat? (the LOUNGE version)

    MOST men cheat, they just hide it and don't tell anyone.

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    Yeah, we all get it. So you dig up a 9 yr. old thread just to say that


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