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    How do you interupt a guy when he keeps talking and talking? By the way, never bring up politics.

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    Just excuse yourself. Pretend you have to be somewhere. Like the "Oh, I totally forgot, Ill be back later! I know those types, they just want to sit there and yack without tipping you anything for the time you sit with them.

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    Being called on stage for dance rotation has saved many a dancer. Out of desperation perhaps you could pay to be called onto stage early rather than pay to have the rotation pass you by. (This would be a desperate move for only a desperate situation).

    A large enough club to disappear is always helpful. Bathroom or consulting with the manager floorman is always helpful. Having to change your dcostume because of spilling something on it is helpful. Finding a "safe harbour" when you come back is helpful.

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    Say "Excuse me for a moment, I need to go to the ladies' room. How would you like to spend some one-on-one time in the lap dance room when I come back?" or say "Excuse me, I need to talk to the DJ about something" and then when you come back, before he has a chance to start talking again: "You know, I'm having a lot of fun talking with you, but I'd really like to be alone with you, away from all these wandering eyes. How about we go spend some fun one-on-one time together in the lap dance room?"

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    Quote Originally Posted by dances4u
    How do you interupt a guy when he keeps talking and talking? By the way, never bring up politics.
    Us guys could have a finite budget for the visit. Perhaps we're talking because the tide is going out quicker than we anticipated in our wallet and a visit to the lap dance room will deplete it below safe limits.

    Phil.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blondhottie
    Say "Excuse me for a moment, I need to go to the ladies' room. How would you like to spend some one-on-one time in the lap dance room when I come back?" or say "Excuse me, I need to talk to the DJ about something" and then when you come back, before he has a chance to start talking again: "You know, I'm having a lot of fun talking with you, but I'd really like to be alone with you, away from all these wandering eyes. How about we go spend some fun one-on-one time together in the lap dance room?"
    Yep, that's what I do. They can't say no to either one, and sometimes it's true.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil-W
    Us guys could have a finite budget for the visit. Perhaps we're talking because the tide is going out quicker than we anticipated in our wallet and a visit to the lap dance room will deplete it below safe limits.

    Phil.
    Sorry, I think you know the answer to that. I'm not trying to be rude.............



    We don't work for free, do you?
    Heck, most of us have to pay to work there.
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    Yeah, if you're running out of money.........leave. You aren't doing us any favors by sitting there chewing our ear off.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gypsy_girlchild
    Sorry, I think you know the answer to that. I'm not trying to be rude.............

    We don't work for free, do you?
    Heck, most of us have to pay to work there.
    True - just giving you the famed male perspective. If the tide's out in the wallet, then we ain't going to the lap dance room.

    It's where the "custy" and "dancer" mind sets start to diverge a little.

    The dancer mindset says "your wallet's empty, you're no use to us, go."

    The customer mindset says, "I've spent my budget, I've paid my dues, I'm entitled to stay a little longer before I leave. Cos I can't afford a dance, I'll try and chat to you."

    I'm not saying it's right from a dancers point of view, or even trying to excuse that sort of behaviour. I'm only trying to show that guys think in different ways from the way dancers think.

    Nothing you can do in circumstances like that other than cut your losses and leave.

    Phil.

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    sounds to me like he's just wanting to take your time up, and not gonna pay for ti, flee the scene!

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    Yes...when they don't shut up, run away and don't go back! If you happen to pass by them, be cordial and smile, but don't dare sit with them anymore.Phil-W, customers are allowed to stay after running out of money, yes, but it is totally and completely rude to waste a dancer's time by talking to her until your mouth falls off.

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    Feed his dumb ass a drink.

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    You can grab his hand and say "I'd really like to dance for you now, you're ready aren't you"? You're going to love my dances. If your club has tableside dancing, lightly push him back in his chair and start dancing. If he hesitates, tell him, "I really enjoy talking to you, but I need to be paid for my time. We've been sitting here for 4 songs. You wouldn't mind paying me let's say $50 for my time would you?

    If your club has a private dance area, get up, grab his hand and do what I said above, or say "I'd really like to talk to you more. You're wouldn't mind gioing in the private dance area or VIP room where it is more private, would you?

    If he balks at that say, "I must go now, I'll come back and check on you later.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tina
    If your club has tableside dancing, lightly push him back in his chair and start dancing.
    I don't know if this is such a good idea. What if you do the dance and he doesn't want to pay you because you just start dancing for him without an aggreement first? Then what?

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    Quote Originally Posted by dances4u
    How do you interupt a guy when he keeps talking and talking? By the way, never bring up politics.
    You can always hit them in the head with a ballpeen hammer. That frequently can cause the effect of silence to descend upon a person.

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    Quote Originally Posted by exotica17
    Phil-W, customers are allowed to stay after running out of money, yes, but it is totally and completely rude to waste a dancer's time by talking to her until your mouth falls off.
    Hey, relax. One thing I don't do is waste dancers time - I know dancers well enogh not to. The only reason I posted, (slightly tongue in cheek), was to give you a potential reason why us male customers do talk till our mouth falls off.

    More seriously, the last half dozen posts do illustrate a fairly fundamental difference in how dancer and customer do percieve a strip club.

    A dancer is there to earn an income and is obviously trying to get the maximum number of dances with the minimum necessary amount of time spent in "sales pitches". Similarly a customer is there to be entertained, expects to spend money on dances, but also expects a degree of "flirtation"/"sales pitch" before buying the dances.

    Unless you get a reasonable balance of "flirtation"/"sales pitch" time between dancer's needs and customer expectation, one side or other will feel short-changed.

    From a dancer's point of view it's clearly frustrating if us male customers talk and don't buy, and I can fully understand you need a strategy to push things to a conclusion - if you don't you are not earning. However, if you do this too aggressively, you risk alienating your customer.

    From a male customer's POV, strip clubs/dancers are in the business of selling a degree of fantasy, and a dancer with too obvious $$$ signs in her eyes can rather shatter the illusion - and if the illusion goes, then so does the potential for a sale. One way to shatter the illusion is to try and close the sale before us custy's have had our expectations met in terms of "flirtation time".

    Unfortunately, every bloke entering a SC will have his own interpretation as to what constitutes an acceptable amount of "flirtation time" - the trick from a dancer's POV is to ask for a dance just over the customers' flirtation time threshold and not before. That way you've got the dance and a happy customer. Ask slightly before the threshold, and you've given the impression of $$$ signs.

    I know I've kind of digressed away from the original point of the thread - how do you deal with guys that just want to yap - but dancers and customers do see things through slightly different eyes and I've tried to give you an alternative POV.

    (Hope I've explained my thoughts properly - and sorry if I've waffled).

    Phil.

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    I hate these talkers. I had a guy who (like all of them) thought everything about him was great, that he was a king. All he did was talk about how great he was in bed and then started massaging my legs saying that his massages makes girls horny. So I played along and acted like I was real horny and that got him in VIP for 2 songs.

    Afterwards I tried to move on, there was a customer waiting for me. He insisted on telling me a stupid joke. I thought it was going to be a quick one, but it turned out to be a long story about him and 3 ex girlfriends. I tried to excuse myself and just told him "I'm sorry I am at work and need to work before the manager gets mad." I got up and walked to my customer and this guy got up and literally pulled me back to his table saying he was almost done with his story. That was the worst talker I ever had.

    But in most cases I'll just apologize and tell them I have to get back to work, or the manager is getting mad, and having to use the ladies room always works.

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    Is that really you in the icon? Do Perfect Ten magazine.

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    If he's yammering on and on at a fast clip, tap his nose and whisper: "Watch it with the coke, baby."

    This shut me up faster than a slap in the face. (Not saying whether or not her assessment was accurate.)

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    Customer: yap yap yap yap yap yap yap

    Me: (laughing at whatever stupid thing he said) So tell me.

    Customer: what?

    Me: Can I dance for you?

    Custy: Uh... um.... not right now...maybe later. SAY, what's....

    Me: (interrupting) You know I've really got to get back to work. (as I'm walking away) Have fun!



    Occasionally I get a dance, but mostly it's just a quick way to make my exit. No need to waste any time or effort on these guys, they're mostly just space-wasters.

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    I like to say, "Oh, gosh, here I am talking your ear off while you're probably waiting for me to ask you for a dance." Hee.

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    A responsible customer, if he's thoroughly enjoying the banter, shouldn't wait until the poor woman has to redirect the conversation. It much, much cooler to say, "I really like talking to you but I know you're working. Can I tip you?" Or you can suggest she take you for a dance. I've done both.

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    Yeah, those guys are the best! "I know you're here to make many, so here's something for your time," or "So let's go do some dances." They are obviously experienced customers, though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward
    Yeah, those guys are the best! "I know you're here to make many, so here's something for your time," or "So let's go do some dances." They are obviously experienced customers, though.

    I just open my wallet and hand her a $20. When she asks, "what's this for?", I say, "because you're sitting here with me instead of out there dancing."

    Only the newbies ask that. The other girls just smile and say, "Thank you".

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