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    My boyfriend has slept with a considerable amount of women. I'm fine with that. What bothers me is that they are all on his MySpace profile. He never intends to see these women again.

    It bothers me.

    I highly encourage being on good terms with exes. If you remain friends, terrific! Put them on your profile! If they were one-night-stands, why bother? If you are never going to hang out, I see no point.

    He says it's good to know people. What about me????

    I hate the comments that they leave: miss u much! i'm keeping my bed warm 4 u! i luv u! here's a pic of me masturbating!

    One psycho made a website shrine dedicated to him.

    We had a conversation about it today. He said he sees nothing wrong. Am I being jealous? A little. I'm more pissed off at his lack of consideration.

    I'm thinking about letting him go. There's more to it than this.

    Anyway, what do you think about situations like these?

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    Out of sight, out of mind. This is why keeping a relationship in the bar business is so hard, the social level of a job. To equate that to your problem: if they're on MySpace, they all know where to find and leave messages, and he can broadcast his whereabouts.
    If you both can't compromise, let him go. It sounds like you're having a hard time with this.

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    I think you are being jealous, but I think you are right to feel that way. I think it's kind of unfair of him to not be more accomodating in this situation. It almost sounds like he's trying to "boost his property value" for his own ego or to have yous tep up your game. Either way, it's kind of immature.

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    I couldn't have said it better myself!! MadMaxine is full of good advice!

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    Thank you XDiablaX.
    I have kept in touch with many guy friends, but if they meet someone, I back off. I respect them enough that I don't want to ruin a good thing for them. But I let them know if things don't work out, I'm still a friend.
    You should be wary, a lot of women are dog-eat-dog, they just won't say it to your face. "A man will punch you in the face and a woman will stab you in the back."
    I think your guy wants to feel like a "Baller" LOL. Hey, at least he put it out in the open early & didn't waste you time.
    EDIT: typo
    Last edited by madmaxine; 05-12-2005 at 04:01 PM.

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    I'm sorry but this behavior kinda shows that he isn't ready for a real relationship by keeping all his previous lays in close contact.

    I may have many faults, but being wrong ain't one of them.

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    He does not let them know that he is unavailable. That's what gets me.

    Yep. The relationship has run its course. For the most part, I had a lot of fun. It sucks because I really liked him AND he had no problems with my job.

    Thank, y'all.

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    You have to ask yourself why you think you deserve this. Why are you attracted to someone that wants to maintain a 'stud farm with bodies coast to coast' style player aura about him.

    This isn't appropriate relationship behavior. If he's your boyfriend, you have to begin by fixing your own house first (i.e. you). Anyone that feels they deserve such treatment back from someone they love (or supposedly loves you) is missing something inside.

    This kind of behavior invalidates the main relationship by defying trust, hurting intimacy and reducing exclusivity. While on the surface it may be played off as some sort of internet prank/fun, in reality it's an ego boosting game he's enjoying and it defies attachments of exclusivity to you on a daily basis (i.e. read- slap in the face). It's also a red-flag for behavioral problems on his part, and your anxiety in this matter is directly tied to this behavior.

    It's obviously getting to you, and for VERY good reason. Go with that feeling and explore the many reasons why. It's hurtful and abusive to your person.
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    Lizette,

    you are a beautiful woman... worthy of putting "in a relationship" on his profile.

    These women would still speak to him if he had.
    I put Married on mine.. guys still talk to me.

    There's nothing wrong with being flirtatious... especially online
    But, if he's giving the idea that he is available
    Maybe that is exactly what he means, that he is available.

    It sounds like you feel that it may be that way for both of you.
    You obviously would like it to be a more serious relationship...
    but, some just won't pan out.

    Hope you feel better sugar.
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    Your BF is full of BS and is keeping you around because he knows he can BS you.He keeps a profile on myspace to spare poontang around.That is the bitter truth.I wouldn't trust him as far as I can throw him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest
    Your BF is full of BS and is keeping you around because he knows he can BS you.He keeps a profile on myspace to spare poontang around.That is the bitter truth.I wouldn't trust him as far as I can throw him.
    Sorry, but you don't score "poontang" from the internet. It's bluster and posturing, nine times out of ten it's total bullshit. The guy's bragging. I can't say i blame Lizzy for dumping him, but i bet this dude's full of shit from the get-go.

    Maybe he's trying to score online, but it's a dumb way to do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Madcap
    Sorry, but you don't score "poontang" from the internet. It's bluster and posturing, nine times out of ten it's total bullshit. The guy's bragging. I can't say i blame Lizzy for dumping him, but i bet this dude's full of shit from the get-go.

    Maybe he's trying to score online, but it's a dumb way to do it.
    Either way,he's full of it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Madcap
    Sorry, but I don't score "poontang" from the internet.
    fixed
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sh0t
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    Doesn't happen, dude. And when it does it's more like King Kong meets the bride of Frankenstein.

    Turn to the real world to score...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Madcap
    Sorry, but you don't score "poontang" from the internet. It's bluster and posturing, nine times out of ten it's total bullshit. The guy's bragging. I can't say i blame Lizzy for dumping him, but i bet this dude's full of shit from the get-go.

    Maybe he's trying to score online, but it's a dumb way to do it.
    He's already hit that(s)! Every women he has slept with is on his profile, even the ones who didn't mean shit to him. His ex-fiance is on there, and that's cool that they keep in touch and still wish each other happiness. Everyone else has to go.

    The point is that I don't want to read his little black book. No righteous man would let his s.o. be put in a situation where she can not escape jealously and suspicion.

    What's worse: He's in the military! In Thailand! Where there are whores!

    OTB, I can't throw him that far. Perhaps I should reignite that crush on the DJ. Cute DJ and I would never do anything because it would cost us our jobs. The flirting would tide me over until I feel comfortable being single.

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    Yeah,forget his gigolo *ss!!!!!

    Post his link,so we can see what this loser looks like.
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    yes. I would move on!

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    Dump him. He's nobody's bf - he's a playa.

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    I'm more pissed off at his lack of consideration.
    You're pissed because he's being crass, tacky and disrespectful.

    I have pics of exes en masse on my machine, but they're not for public display, only private consumption. No need for your man to rub his past in your face if it's a point of contention.

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    ditto et al
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    The term "attention whore" runs both ways. What a dick.
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    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic
    Dump him. He's nobody's bf - he's a playa.
    ditto
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    Quote Originally Posted by Madcap
    Doesn't happen to me, dude.
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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest
    Yeah,forget his gigolo *ss!!!!!

    Post his link,so we can see what this loser looks like.
    It's too embarrassing for me! I can't put myself through such shame.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lizette
    It's too embarrassing for me! I can't put myself through such shame.
    Oh come on, it's just the net.... give us a little entertainment.

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