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    What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    Ok, how many times has this happened. You're on a roll, nobody can say no to you, your garter is busting with bills, and some guy with a Rolex just asked you to order him another drink while he goes to the ATM.

    Then, it happens. She appears. Another dancer, totally bummed out, long face, slouching, walks over to you.

    "How's your night going?" she asks, clearly hoping that yours sucked as much as hers, so you can bitch together.

    What do you say?

    This was me last night, and I really fucked up. I was like 'My night is going really good". Duh. Even more dejected, she gets up and leaves the table.

    What's the best way to answer this question?

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    Default Re: What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    I dont usually ask how someone elses night is going even if Im having a good or bad night myself.

    But, if it is a fellow dancer...I just try to say something positive (to keep my spirits up as well) like "oh well this is just ONE bad night then next WILL be better". If I know a night is bad (say and hour before I leave) then I chalk it up as a bad night and move on to see how I can make the next night a better night.
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    Default Re: What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    I always say, "I'm doing OK. I'm going, OK?" As bratty as I am, I can't encourage pity-parties at work...then it's all downhill from there.

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    Default Re: What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    My response is "it's still early" even if it's a half an hour before closing. I hate to see girls disappointed since I've been there quite a few times myself. Even if I have $800, I just keep it to myself unless it's someone else that's having a real good night also. I'm sure she'll get over it the next time she's having a good night and you aren't.

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    Default Re: What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    I usually shrug and and say "so so," and then I either walk away or puton lip liner.
    I don't want to know that anyone is doing better than me so I don't tell anyone that I am doing beter than them. But, then again I don't want to know that they are having a bad night either.
    If it's in the dressing room I say, "let's go make some money."
    If she sits down I say, "okay, but I'm waiting on someone to make it better."
    If I'm alone, I usually do just shrug and look away.
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    Default Re: What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    Buy a dance from her. Or tip her a $20 on stage. Doesn't matter if you're a dancer or a customer.

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    Yeah it does; we're not at work to spend money! But if it's a friend and you can get your customer to buy a dance from her or tip her, that's always a nice gesture. I'm not really subject to this much since I don't spend much of my time at work talking to other dancers--unless it sucks for me too, then I have all the time in the world to commiserate.

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    Default Re: What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    I'll say something like
    "Get it together girlfriend"
    or
    "If you smile, they will come."
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    "It's still early"
    or sometimes I'll point out a custy I'm finished w/, or tell them " Oh puto nthat really pretty yellow dress you have--the crowd always goes gaga over you in that!"

    But I won't stay w/ her and have a pity party---negative energy never attracts customerrs!

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    Default Re: What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    I always say "GOOD"

    because it doesn't imply that I'm making money, just that I'm okay.

    simple as that... no need to get too descriptive

    that way i'm not a gloater or a loser...
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    Default Re: What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    If it's a slow night I'll say not so good, even if I'm doing OK. If one of my friends asks I'll tell them them that I'm doing good but I had a regular come in. My friends don't get upset by that, they're usaully like "good for you" or "I wish one of mine was here".

    I don't like to let people know how much I'm making. I remember one really slow night whan nobody was making any money this one girl comes in the dresing room and gets on her cell phone and starts talking about how much moeny she's made "so-n-so just tipped me $200..." That's just rude to rub it in peoples faces.

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    Default Re: What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    i always say to stay positive and keep asking around- it only takes one guy to make your night.

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    Default Re: What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    I usually don't say. But I do sigh and say something like "It comes with the job". I know I have been the one to ask a few times.

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    Default Re: What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    no matter what the circumstances, always say your nights going all that well either!

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    Default Re: What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    i would tip the girl a $20 and try to help the girl get a dance from the guy i was getting a dance from....and tell her we all have been there having good nights and bad nights ,

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    Default Re: What to say to a friend whose having a BAD night?

    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward
    Yeah it does; we're not at work to spend money! But if it's a friend and you can get your customer to buy a dance from her or tip her, that's always a nice gesture. I'm not really subject to this much since I don't spend much of my time at work talking to other dancers--unless it sucks for me too, then I have all the time in the world to commiserate.
    Most of the girls I know are friends (only a couple circles at each club), and will often tip each other if things are slow. They help each other out. Good for morale too.

    If I see a girl having a slow night I'll go up to the stage and hand her a $10 wad (of $1's ). It might get the other guys to start tipping.

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