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    There's this girl I work with that I really don't like. I've been ignoring her and when I do that she goes out of her way to bother me more. When I first started working at the club I'm in I was sitting with a couple of Hispanic guys and they didn't know English that well and I don't know Spanish that well but they were asking me if I wanted to have sex with them. I said no and got up to go dance and didn't go sit with them again. They were getting way to touchy feely too. Then this other dancer came over and sat with them (I'll call her Theresa.). About five minutes later she came up into the dressing room and yelled "Sasha, did you just tell those two guys downstairs that you sleep with them for some money?" There were alot of girls in the dressing room too! I told her no and that's why I got up and left..and she said "I was asking you because I asked them to start tipping me and they said why should I start tipping you if the other girl said she'd have sex with us for money and I said well she doesn't sound like a person that'd do that but if she did then that's messed up." That was really low class to come up and yell at someone like that..I'm thinking don't come at me like that.
    Then another time I was sitting with a customer and he said he wanted to talk to "Theresa" first and I said okay and left. Then later on that day in the dressing room she says "Oh I was sitting downstairs with that customer John and he said to me I'll give you $100 if you take off your panties and rub yourself against my penis. I said not for $100..Then he said well she treats me good. He said that about her or whatever (she pointed to me) and I said well that's messed up.."
    None of that was true and it made me really upset and I walked away.
    After that I didn't talk to her at all and she kept talking to me when I'd see her again and I'd just answer her and say nothing else. That's what I've been doing since then. Now, she does little mean things to me..for example one time a waitress was joking around me with because she knows i'm shy and said good ahead and make your booty pop Giselle when I was on stage and the girl Theresa started snickering all loud and she was on the other side of the room. She laughs at me alot and makes mean little jokes.
    I don't say anything because I don't want to make matters worse because I know that with her that will lead to a verbal argument..and her treating me even worse.
    Has anyone else been in a situation like this? Would would you do about this?
    I'm sorry for making this so long.

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    If you're the only person that she does this to then I figure you've got two options.

    1. You decide that you don't want to put up with it and you go find another club.

    2. You stay at your current club and try to ignore her as best you can.

    Now if she's doing this to other girls as well, then you've got some leverage to work with here. Get the others and go to management and tell them that you want her behavior to stop or you want her gone.

    If you're the only one though, you can still go to management, BUT in general I've usually found that the girls who are the most annoying and/or bitchy are usually never fired because they are in good with management for whatever reason. (They're usually either the top earners for the club OR they're not so good earners but are doing favors, sexual and otherwise, for the manager.)

    Whatever you decide to do I wish you good luck and lots of $$$

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    She's picking on you because, she can.
    Apparently this is something that she needs to validate herself (which I'm sure by now you already know)

    If you hang in there and focus on work, sooner or later she WILL leave you alone.
    She will never be nice to you... BUT she will find someone more interesting to f*ck with.

    Just calmly breathe and chant an inner mantra... smile; just a little.

    People will see that she is the twit and you are the mature dancer.
    Girls like her create problems for themselves.

    Just sit back and be prepared to see a good show
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    omg. I can't believe that. Well, you have many options... obviously tell management... of course make sure the other girls know that she has issues with you and you DONT sleep with the custys for money (although I'm sure most have figured that out). And, just for fun, mention to the slimy custys (the ones who never come in and never spend money or are known to be grabby) that so and so told you that this girl gives high mileage . Sure, it will come back to bite you in the ass... as you play dumb or say you really did hear that..... OR I guess you could be mature and complain to management . It depends on the club I s'pose. Gosh, I"m being mean tonight... sorry girls... I should just go to bed... but I can't!
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    I would talk to the house mom, or manager first.

    • Don't even bother uthering a word to her, she will just twist things to make you look bad.

    Tell them that she is tainting your reputation, and making it hard for you to work, because she keeps harassing you.
    The manager should talk to her about it. Someone will straighten her out.

    • I would avoid her, and step over her, by going to managment first.

    Definetly don't leave the club because some bitch is fucking with you. That's your job, your money, and no one has the right to take away your support system!!

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    She's probably playing mind games with you. Don't leave the club because of her. Just ignore her. She'll hate it.

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    Wow, what a bully. You must be pretty damn special for someone to go out of their way to make you look bad. Find out what days she works and stay home those days or find another club. It must make it miserable to work around her.

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    How about,

    "Oh, no, THeresa, you have it all confused. I told them I wouldn't sleep with them for money, but I was pretty sure YOU would!"

    Catty, yes. But it would probably be the last time she tries to humilate you in the dressing room!


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    haha collen!!!

    theres a dancer at my club like this too ( although,ill give her credit-shes not as low as to accuse the sex for money thing- well...maybe behind dancers back..??! ) yeah it sucks,yeah its a hassle, but at the end of the night-shes still a top earner and im sure to hell no threat,so i never do understand her problem.

    best to just ignore it, dont talk to her,she wont talk (directly at least) to you. if she says anything snarky to a custy ,ignore her comment,its only gonna make her look like a bitch to the custy.say soemthing nice about her to your customers
    watch her reaction..lol

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    Unusual? Not at all. Any non-newbie will have dozens of stories like this. Unfortunately, a large percentage of dancers are non-professionals with no business sense at all. I'm only surprised she didn't shout this out in the front. I've had dancers accuse me of the most ridiculous things... like cutting the price of a dance. Why in the world would I cost myself money?? Completely illogical, idiotic things that are provably false... but why should I bother debating lies? Dancers that make claims that this or that is completely illegal (or legal) when they haven't the faintest idea of the law and when I've got the legal statutes right in my bag to show them. Dancers that claim I did something and management that refuses to replay the video tape and allows the slander to stand. Management is often just as idiotic. Men who have never held a job in their lives claim they can manage a club because they know what pretty girls look like and obviously only pretty girls make money (what does hustling have to do with it?), right? Or that don't care if a dancer leaves the club after a shift with a dime as long as they sell their over priced drinks. Dancers will accuse you of drugs or theft with no proof at all simply to get you fired and cost you your entire income that supports you and your family simply because you don't party with them (take drugs). Its a cruel world where following the rules, being a professional, being the club's top earner (and therefore the customer favorite) is not enough. Don't ever expect management to back you up or see things your way. They don't care if all their girls are unprofessional loudmouth whiney loosers. They don't care if a false accusation means you can't pay your rent or buy groceries. The best you can hope for is that this girl gets a life lesson of her own or gets out of the business.

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    I've been through ALL of this.. After long miserable nights I decided to make sure all my belongings were secruely locked up, foind out who the queen bee was and either tried to win her over and if that didn't work, win over her rival, have one on your side and this will help you out conciderably. We don't go in to make friends, but it helps to have someone "on" your side.
    Ignore the crap and try not to let it get to you, chances are it really isn't going to hurt your money too much, or help hers either, mot money guys don't like girls that tell tales.
    Eventually she will bore of it and either accept you or atleast ignore you back.
    Good luck!
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    And myssi righr, management never helped, some managers will try to appease you by pretending to be on your side, but few use their power for the greater good.
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    I've been through it all because I'm always a top earner at every club. It's because I never sit and I smile and flirt with the customers while the other bitches sit around with their arms crossed talking shit about you. There are all kinds of tricks they'll pull and you should stand your ground because chances are, there will be another bitch waiting to torment you at the next club. I had a bitch pour a drink over my head and we ended up in an all out brawl. Trouble for her was that even though I'm only 5'3' and have a thin build, I weight train and do martial arts. In a nutshell it was very satisfying to kick her ass in front of everybody in the club and make her lose face. Girls laughed at her for losing the fight and she couldn't take it and changed clubs. After that, they fucked with me less. At the new club I'm at now they don't directly try to punk me but since they talk about me behind my back, which I don't mind because it doesn't interfere with my flow. In the beginning they were all cunts and tried to do little things like bark "EXCUSE ME!" if we bumped into eachother accidentally. I think you MUST stand your ground because if you don't they won't stop. If they percieve that you're 'taking it' from them you are weaker and lower on the food chain in their eyes, therefore they have the 'right' to prey on you.

    I would tell the manager in terms he can understand: trouble=distraction from working=less money for you as well as the club. Then throw in a pat in the back emphasizing your utility to the club ( never late, top earner, popular on stage, don't drink...)

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    Fucking jam your 6 inch heel into her face - and see if thats doesn't change her attitude.


    Okay, well, maybe thats not for everyone...


    You've gotten some great advice - so, keep us updated as to how it turns out.

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    Well, I ended up working with her again tonight and she was a pain as usual. I was upstairs fixing myself up in the dressing room and someone's cellphone goes off and she says Sasha is that yours and I said no. Then she said that thing sounds retarded and it went off again and she said Sasha that is your cell phone and I shook my head and kept getting ready..and then she snickers at me. Then she starts saying mean things about a few of the other girls that work there to the other dancers in the room..and when one of them would come up there she would smile in there face and would act as if they were cool. The rest of night was stressful for me.. Plus it was a slow tonight. She ususally snickers like I'm nothing when I ignore her. She has a sister that works there too. Anyhow, she's just one of those dumb bitches that thinks she's got it all because she's one of the girls who makes the most money..She tells everyone how much she makes..and what she buys..That's really dumb..I never let anyone know how much money I have on me. I don't need to brag on what I've got.

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    Everywhere you go theres always at least 1 bitch. I don't think you should ignore her, because she will think you are 'weak' or a target as you just take it, and will keep on being mean to you.
    I have had this before, and I'm also a bit shy, but I make sure I stand up for myself. Its all games, some people test others to see what they will put up with. If you do nothing then she will keep going. If you say something - even if you just say the smallest thing then she will likely stop.
    Also you don't have to explain yourself to this person when she is accusing you of things. You should take the offensive, and tell her she needs to grow up.
    Don't leave the club, try to stand up for yourself - once you start you will see how easy it is.
    Theresa obviously has some problems, perhaps shes insecure and has to put others down to make herself feel better. She sounds like a loser.
    Good luck

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    Beaming moral support your way! Fortunately, this girl can't read your mind, so she has no way of knowing that she's actually getting to you unless you show it, and it sounds like you've remained resolved not to. Good for you. You can go home every night and have a good cry, come here and launch a good rant, but I think you're on the right track to hold up firm in front of her. I'm all for taking the high road. The high road to slyly putting her to shame by outperforming her, that is. If the bitch wants a reaction, give it to her, namely, get mad enough to ignore her mechanizations and concentrate on making money. (Who the f**k snickers besides George W. Bush? That's a ginormous libido killer.) You're the one who will survive here or there or anywhere, long after she's hung herself with her own rope, so stay confident in your power to endure. Lots-O-Luck!

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    This story just reminded me of what happened at the club I went to about two years ago.

    There was the big money maker and she was EVIL. She came across as nice to me, but as soon as she found out I made money she went bullistic. She started to do exactly what this girl does to you, snickers, says things about me while I am standing there and then tris to say that I do things or say things (sexual or against her) just to get guys to get dances. Of course, all of this was NOT true. So I started to lock up my stuff, I got a big tool box and chained it to a table. I started to say nice things to the girls in the room when she was there, little things like, I like your hair, or nice outfit.
    Of course they all laughed behind my back, but it's hard to hate the one that makes you feel hot. Finally I found out that she had been trying her hardest to get girls to beat me up, childish I know. I found out what was happening and wrote little notes to the girls that had either been cool with me, or had denied being part of the scheme. It was just a small card for each of them that I taped on the mirror with their names, thanking them for their kindness tot he "new" girl and understanding how it was hard not to buckle under the pressure. Of course I DID NOT give her one.
    It worked like a charm. These girls actually apologized for siding up with her and although we may not be friends to this day, they no longer try to say anyting negative about me.

    I just wanted to say that I "sort of" stood up for myself and gained allies. I told them that I heard what she was saying about me and that I wanted them to know that I earn my money the honest way because I wouldn't want to be cheated either.
    I don't know if this would work for you, but something along these lines of undermining the bitchy one might work faster than trying to ignore it out.
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    Have you been dancing long?( LEss than 6 months). Because maybe she is preying on you because you aren't as experienced as her. Also, usually girls who brag about what they make are lying. I know plenty of girls that claim to make $600-$700 a night yet have no cars, don't do drugs, no kids and always have ratty outifts, bad hair and chipped nails. Right now I am one of the top earners at my club and some girls notice because of the number of rooms I sell but other girls don't- which is fine. I don't need people to be jealous of me or try to "work with me" or to talk shit about me to customers. WHatever u decide to do about this girl DON"T Talk about her to customers (they don't want to hear bitching, they'd stay home for that). DON"T talk to the other dancers about her (it'll make you look just as bad as she does) and DON"T let her or any of the other girls see that this behavior bothers you because they will walk all over u. Next time she gives u shit roll you eyes at her and tell her to get over herself or to leave u the fu*k alone or just just laugh at her and say {"whatever"} once she sees she isn't getting the desired response from u she'll prolly bully someone else.
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    Look, if it comes to where she starts getting in your face, defend yourself. I KNOW if her sister didn't work there, she wouldn't dare do all this stuff. She's assuming a lot, though- it's only 2 girls against a whole club full of dancers who'd rather they not be there.
    True story- I worked at a club where one of the top earners was CRAZY, sometimes she would jump other girls without provocation- but she stayed around because she made the bar money. The day came that a crazier dancer walked through the door. The top earner got her a*s beat good by the new girl, and ironically she couldn't handle being there anymore, too afraid of another as*whipping, and quit.
    I'm sure other people are sick of her too. Find out who that is, and get together with them.

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