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    Okay ladies, have you ever found yourself being "that bitch" at your club? You know how we always talk about the cattiness and a lot of us have been on the receiving end. Who's been on the giving end...lol? For example we have a lot of threads about vets being mean to the newbies, and yes I have been guilty, but I had a reason..lol. This new girl came in and I was 1 of 2 "head dancers". We sat her down, explained all the rules to her, and when I say rules I mean club rules, newb no-no's,etc. I let her dance with me until she was comfortable, gave her an oufit or 2 to start out with. Then she starts ignoring the rules. I let it go, but she keeps doing it. When I approach her she says "I know we're not supposed to, but I'm making more money doing things MY WAY" I'm like "hmmm your way..you have no way you just started... while I'm thinking no she didn't "..lol. That's when "That Bitch" came out of me..lol. So....any of you have any experiences to share??

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    Only occasionally.....usually it was because I felt like I needed to say something.

    The last time was kinda funny, a pottymouthed girl from a big city working at the tiny club I was at. She didn't understand the customers were country people and she had to be patient with them, they weren't city folk. She got mad at me for trying to explain this to her.
    But, I shouldn't have bothered, she was too dumb to listen. You can't help some people.

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    Nah, I ignore everyone. As much as I want to say something to stupid dancers and retard waitresses, I just keep my mouth shut, smile, and move on. I can't deal with drama and headaches.

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    Haha, yeah, because I /always/ followed up if a customer asked me for a dance, even if he was at the stage or another girl had jumped in his lap in my absence [since we had to go outside to get to the other club to do lapdances, I /did/ have to get my coat pretty frequently].
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    new girl: your club: giving you attitude? i'd kill her!

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    Never ever ever. It's really hard to hate someone who likes you (or who you THINK likes you)
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    Yep! Since I can't get the extras girl fired to save my life, I am just making her life as difficult as I can. I am normally nice to everybody, but keeping my workplace nice and clean is important to me!


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    Oh I just remembered a story from way back. I danced a hotel bachelor party with two other dancers. Right when we had to leave, I couldn't find one girl. Everyone said they saw her go into the bathroom with one guy. We needed to leave, and I was worried something bad was happening to her...so I knocked on the door, and asked a friend of the guy to open the door. She said she'd "be right out," & she was all anxious and sweaty.
    I didn't say anything about this until I heard from the boss she was making up sh*t about me and did not want to work with me anymore. I mentioned the hotel incident and figured out, Duh, she was smoking crack in there.
    She wasn't that sharp so it wasn't too hard to edge her out. The boss wasn't thrilled with the crack smoking on the job either. Oh well.

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    i just keep to myself when im at work...i go in do my job and go home that's it..minding my own business and never medel into others business.....im friendly n polite to everyone but i don't hang out ,chat,etc... ....im strickly professional while im there.

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    I've been doing this too long to let anyone get to me. THe only two times I ever opened my mouth were when other people's safety was in jeopardy (Once a girl had bleeding track marks and the other time some chick was blowing some guy in a champagne room that wasn't totally private (the couches were turned away from each other but you didn't have your own room) and I thought it was totally apalling. USUally though, if someone is just being rude or catty or trying to be cut throat I laugh it off because my positive attitude gets me really far.
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    No. I have often been called a bitch, no big deal. I got into dancing as a dare anyway. Other than that, i did not get involved with other dancers. Too much drama.

    I did focus on staff for business, i.e. male staff. They helped alot, just tip them well you will get more customers! I would never have asked any dancer at the club i was working about anything, especially customers.

    I am a believer in watching the money makers, and taking notes! Extras...not for me. High contact was do-able.

    Seemed i seen more fights between dancers that i thought liked each other, than anything else in the clubs. Except the "extras" dancers that flit around.

    My motto: Stay away from the other dancers. Do you're own thing.

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    I can't stand girls who police other girls. It's mostly out of jealousy anyway. There's ALWAYS going to be girls who break the rules and if management allows it it's not up to you to worry about it. I can't stand the jealous ones and when they start blasting another girl I make a note to stay away from that person because it's likely they talk about me too, plus their negative vibe takes away from my own hustle and if you sit and listen empathetically you feel uncomfortable being nice to the person that's talked about. It just gets complex and draining.

    There's a girl I used to be friends with who never tried to compete with me but recently she has because I've been getting more customers and she would always try to take me away from my focus and get me to drink liquor with her in the locker room. Some friend. Now I don't listen to her bullshit about so and so and I immediately cut her off when she starts complaining about what girls do, even innocuous things like how they dance on stage. She's an idiot.

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    at my current club, i am THAT BITCH because i don't do extras, don't charge more than the posted dance price of 20$, honor 10$ floor dance specials and don't allow contact for floor dances. and i outearn most of the girls calling me THAT BITCH. but then i also don't sit around drunk in the dressing room for three hours a night, or sit with guys not spending for an hour in hopes of selling them extras. i don't start any drama (i never speak ill of any girl to any other dancers, staff or customers), and because of that, i get to be the lightning rod for everyone else's discontent. joy of working in a small club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Angel1112
    i just keep to myself when im at work...i go in do my job and go home that's it..minding my own business and never medel into others business.....im friendly n polite to everyone but i don't hang out ,chat,etc... ....im strickly professional while im there.
    Ditto, I'm polite and friendly.. I'm still called the bitch because I tend to do beter than others. I DONOT do anything extra and refuse to get accused of it, but then they usually won't say it my face.
    I've taught many a new girl how to dance only to have her become my enemy later on with the other dancers that sit around and bitch about not making money. They'll sit there smoking whne I come in to change because I AM sweaty from giving dances and they'll ask how my night is going. Of course I do the shrug and say it's all right, I'm not about to add fuel to the fire.
    I will lend out pasties, scizzors, and shoes (if I can guarantee I am getting them back.) But I am still concidered a bitch and some one to complain about. Puhlease, I have met much bigger bitches than ME, heck I've had a knife pulled on me before and been 'confronted" by two of the top stars who threatened to beat me up just becaue I was new.
    I no longer let it bother me that "no body" likes me, let them bitch in the dressing room and to the new girls.
    I have two dogs to support and that's why I am there. They need their toys and treats and I won't let some catty dancer take that away from them.
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    Oh I've been The Bitch..... My name was Babette at one club and I found out that evreyone was calling me Babitch behind my back!

    Notice noone had the balls to come to my face though...... I think 1/2 the time I'm justified in being a bitch, 'cause I'm actually pretty nice and keep to myself, but my tolerance for sneaky, cut throat, bigoted or disrespectful girls is zilch....... There have been a few occasions when I've had a little too much scotch or champagne and I'm a total terror!

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    I have learned in my home clubs not to, pardon my bluntness, not give a shit about what anybody else thinks of me and try to be nice to others. I mind my own business, and worry about #1. I have 0 time for other girls or their crap(at times). I am often misunderstood,but that is ok with me because I wont let a backstabber(most girls) near me or into my business. I ignore girls who are bitches and worry about myself. If other girls do something they arent supposed to they usually do it behind my back, I am too clean edged. I am not concerned with them anyways.

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    Oh HELL YEAH!!! I love being "the bitch" ... Ok so i am going to hell. I accept that fact and openly admit it. Im not a super bitch thou i usually am a nice fun loving girl. Just a bitch for a-my own amusement or b-the law needs to be laid down. Let me paint you a picture of wot im like...:

    9 out of 10 times i make it to the podium on time to take over from the last girl, so i feel this gives me the right, that if the next chick after me is late i cut her the fuck down . Usually something along these lines: "Why the fuck were you late to my podium?, (before she has a chance to answer) i dont know if you do this to any of the other girls but you sure as hell dont ever wanna make me wait again or i'll get your shit all fucked up, do you hear me!?"......

    (((Now let me give you a visual of me: 5 foot nothing, cute innocent looking thing that can act quite classy until you get me pissed off then i turn into this little, nasty, yapping, snarling Chihuahua - do you have that pictured? ))) Girls usually look at me is disbelief over what they just hard come out of my mouth and are too shocked to do anything but jump straight up as now i am usually smiling again and delicately (and cutely, mind you! ) hoping off the stage (no one usually see's anything! I am stealth! ).

    Keep in mind i would never do this to any of my mates in the club or the older girls for the matter that have been there as long as me, hell they can be as late as they want, we all got our reasons right? But if a newbie (or someone i do not like) is late thats when i unleash my cattiness ((I think this is what makes me "the bitch"))

    Positives: Usually sees me get respect from newbie’s and if they respect me i respect them back and there is no more troubles from then on in with them getting in my way or stepping on my toes.

    Negatives: If i get attitude back from a newbie i have to go to the extent of getting her sacked. Sometimes this occupies a bit of my precious time but i will not have someone in my club that i deem as "unworthy" (AKA= dose not respect me! fuck the managers and other dancers... its all about ME!!!!! LOL!!!)


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    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^truce in my club you would NOT fit in, lol.

    seriously, we police each other. some chicks need more policing than others. i have been corrected in a nice way when i was still considered brand new about being late, but if you jump in a girl's face about being on time, there are several girls at the club that will purposely be late for the rest of the night and not give a shit. the best thing to do in my case is just correct the girl calmly and keep it moving. wow, i can't believe that works for you.

    i dunno know how the girls REALLY feel about me. i guess they like me, i havent sat down and dedicated any time toward that thought. i have a few that i am really cool with, and for the most part, my reputation is that of a responsible, laid back, uncatty chick. for real, i think i am "that bitch" to the customers. of course, hearing dumb comments are part of the job, but i have NO patience for people who act remedial.

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    I stay away from the drama at work as much as possible. I am polite to everyone, but I am definately NOT trying to make friends. It's too easy to start "hanging out" at work instead of hustling. Admittedly, I have told a girl or two off, but they deserved it. I used to be nice to the new girls, then I realized they were trying to steal my customers away. HMMMM guess I've changed a lot over the last two years. Maybe because I know I am almost done with dancing and I don't care anymore. The harder I work when I am at work, the less I have to go in...... and the happier I am.

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    Being head dancer, it is my job to police the girls. Management gave me that position because they didn't want to deal with all the girl drama..lol. I never tell anyone to do anything just for the sake of being a bitch. If they don't listen....that's a different story...lol.

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    what kind of stuff was this new girl doing anyways? Extras, or what type of "rule breaking" ?

    As for me, not a bitch. I can be, but most of the time everything is just dumb shit. Since I do parties (most of the time) I only come into contact with other dancers when doing two girl parties. I'll cut them some slack if they're breaking "rules" the first time, but if they're always like that (smoking pot in someone's house, bitching out customers, not doing the specified time, or being late) then I'll talk to the bosses. Since I'm reliable, I usually get a response back--and the bosses know they don't have to worry about me when I'm out, because if I have to be a bitch, I'll wait til the party is over and we're not with the customers.

    As for working club, I'll give attitude to the management sometimes (but when they're giving me shit about tipping when they've done shit, or when they're trying to enforce a punishment that isn't in my contract--beware Deja Vu, they love to enforce two eight dance minimums instead of the one eight dance min. for punshiments as stupid as not faxing in that you're not going to work the next week, but calling instead). But, I've grown up very PR and spin savvy, so even if I'm a bitch, it's balanced out with the business talk so they know I'm on top of my shit, so they'd better be on top of theirs.

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    We're not a high contact club, and that's what she was doing and then some. She also kept trying to get naked on the floor, which is a huge no-no.

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    When I worked at Wizzards last year, there was this bitch named Monique who was cool with me at first but after a few months she started ignoring me to my face but interrupting my convos to insult me, or laugh at me in a mean way. So one time I entered the dressing room on my way to the bathroom, and the dressing room was empty except for Monique. I said "hey what's up" and she routinely ignored me, so I walked with heavier stomping steps, then SLAMMED my money bag against the wall so it made a loud noise, as if I was insinunating how hard I would blunt-force-trauma slam her head against that wall.

    Considering how she always hated how much I talked, I'm sure she loved the loud noises I was making when slamming my money bag against the wall.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella21
    Never ever ever. It's really hard to hate someone who likes you (or who you THINK likes you)
    Also i have been called a bitch, as i heard it...because i would keep to my business. Dancers come and dance, fine. They are told the rules. That was not my job.

    Also it is VERY hard to hate people who you don't know!

    ON a side note, i had a few newbies ask a question, and i did answer if i was not busy. But please, if you are old enough to do the job, you should be smart enough to "watch and learn" as well. Leave other dancers alone! We are there (many of us) to work, not have drama. People that break the rules, are catty, etc. don't last. So why would i give then my time. I never did.

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    When I danced, at my home club, I know was considered a bitch by a few girls, when I danced at other clubs, I just kept to myself and stayed away from any drama. The reason for the "bitch" title at my home club was because I was the head dancer, and it was my job. Like if I saw you doing extras that werent allowed, I would tell you after, I saw you doing whatever, I'd better not see it again. If I saw it again, I'd bring them to the manager were we would discuss their second warning. Rule was third strike, your out.. meaning out the door, out of the club and not allowed back, period. There was one new girl who had been there like a week and had paid to leave early every night, I went outside about 10 mins after she left and found her blowing some custy in the parking lot. Yeah, that was her last night at our club. I know this one girl Janna thought I was a massive bitch. But you know, there are unwritten rules to dancing, and one big one would be you dont fuck with other dancers boyfriends or husbands, and she fucked another dancers fiance on the dressing room table but didnt think anyone knew about it. She came in the next night, acting like nothing happened, and I stood waiting for her, then when she came in I asked her to come help me fix my top in the bathroom. The dancer who got cheated on was waiting for her in there, and I stood back and watched her kick he chit out of her. She looked up at me as she laid on the ground asking me to help her, I flat out told her, you should know better then to fuck somebody elses man, and left. Oh and as for the dancer who got cheated on, you should have seen the black eye she gave her now "ex" fiance. So yeah, I was the bitch on more then a few occassions, but only when called for and only to those who didnt care to follow the rules set by the club.

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