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    Angry Lending lesson learned...

    OK, I'm new. But I should have known better.

    This girl (who after I thought about it, seems more and more like a skeeze) at work who is newer than I am has nothing. No clothes (maybe one outfit) No shoes (a day shift girl leaves hers there for this new girl to use.) No makeup (she borrows from everyone)

    So pitying her newbie-ness I try to be nice. This girl is not very attractive (they call her spongebob at work because she is square in the middle. ie: Chunky instead of curvy. With skinny arms and legs)

    Last night was one of the mandatory gown nights and she had no dress. I brought an extra (I'm a size 2) and offered it to her assuming that she would realize it probably wouldn't fit, I even said "Hun, I'm not sure this will fit you right". Nope. She tried it on and even though it looked bad, she borrowed it anyway.

    Later she comes up to me and says "Heaven, I'm sorry. I sat on something gross...I'll have to take your dress home and wash it" It was cool becasue she said sorry and she is going to try to fix it. But I also told her that the dress cost me 25 bucks and she could just give me the money if the stain didn't come out.

    The other concern I have is customers associating me with her skank looking ass. She's nice but she is an unnatractive pest who borrows crap from everyone. I would rather the other girls who are alright, also not associate her with me. I guess after I get the dress or cash, I'll quit helping her out.

    NO MORE LENDING, UGH! (...unless it is a very good friend and the item is something I didn't want back anyway LOL)
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    Yes, this happened to me before with a girl I actually got along with at a club. She was columbian, so she had the thick indigenous thing going on. She borrowed one unique and expensive dress that looked nice on her because it was loose in the middle. She managed to get it stolen but helped me get it back from the thief. So she got another chance. This time I let her borrow a $12 dress I got at Ross. I never saw that dress again and left the club not long after. But I really liked it and could wear it out AND to work. Oh well....never again have I lent anything to anyone.

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    I've lost numerous items to "new" girls that never came back. Of course these were always items that I either rarely wore or didn't care too much for anyway (not saying they were crappy by any means.)
    I've lent a pair of shoes that I didn't wear to a dancer that went to work at another club so she took them with her, these were rare beautiful shoes that were too short to wear at the club I was at, but would be perfect for the one I just started working at. Grrrrrrrrr....
    \Just because we lend them to you and say you can hold on to them, doesn't mean they are yours to keep.
    From now on I only lend out stuff I don't expect to get back (short black dresses, that I never wear anyway.) Or I MAKE sure I get back the outfit that night, dirty or not, I can wash it myself, at least I know it's going home with me.
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    I seldom loan anything to people to the people I work with, unless I've known them for a long time and I know I can trust them.

    We had a DJ some time ago who asked to borrow some of my CDs so he could burn copies. I told him that I never loan anything and he seemed okay with it, though he was disappointed. He didnt have a lot of music that seemed appropriate for a strip club. He used to DJ at a Waikiki dance club and he had a lot of techno and rave music.

    Well, right after he quit, it was discovered that he had helped himself to a lot of CDs without the permission of the club or from the owners.

    One of the DJs puts his CDs on a rack in the back of the club in an out-of-the-way place where few people go regularly. He'd never have some one take his stuff, until then. He found, at least, fifteen of his CDs missing.

    When people, dancers or DJs, quit and leave CDs behind, we have a CD book we put them in just in case there's anything good on them that others can play. Not a lot of good stuff, but occasionally I'd use them. We found twenty of those CDs missing.

    We also found-out about some scams he was pulling while he was here and pocketting a lot of cash that would have otherwise gone to the club.

    So, that DJ has moved to Florida and he's their problem now.

    I've never regretted my decision to not lend-out my CDs to anyone at any time. Finding-out some one is a thief can be very inconvenient and very expensive.

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    Default Re: Lending lesson learned...

    I think we all been in this boat. I have lent stuff that never came back as well including shoes...

    Quote Originally Posted by Heaven777

    Last night was one of the mandatory gown nights and she had no dress. I
    brought an extra (I'm a size 2) and offered it to her assuming that she would realize it probably wouldn't fit, I even said "Hun, I'm not sure this will fit you right". Nope. She tried it on and even though it looked bad, she borrowed it anyway.
    This is funny thou, it reminds me of a time i had...

    This chick at my club bought a new dress which was black and only had a colored g-string or something that looked tacky underneath it. The dance mum told her she couldnt wear her colored one it cos it looked like shit and if she wanted to wear that dress it had to be a black one. Anyway this chick ((who is size 14 when i am 8 - no where near close)) comes up and asks if she can borrow one of my black g-strings. I'm like you gotta be kidding me? But sure enough a black g-string is sitting right on top of my bag, she picks it up and she says: "please can i just try it to see if it fits? I really wanna wear my new dress". Friend next to me giggling under her breath goes "go on let her try it to see if it fits" ((Im still standing there in disbelief while she proceeds to try it on))

    "Oh yeah it fits she says" ((it is cutting into her sides so bad it it cutting off the circulation to her arse)) she walks off informing me she will wash it and give it back tomorrow. My friend is laughing in tears on the floor beside me. And i tell her she owes me a new black g-string tomorrow. Bitch.

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    Default Re: Lending lesson learned...

    As many dancers will probably agree, you should NEVER lend out your g-strings. It's not sanitary and the possibility of getting a disease is very probable.
    Next time just tell her you don't lend out thongs. I NEVER do, even with best friends.
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    ha "borrowing" a gstring?! Wrong in so many ways...hah


    im a sucker for lending.im too damn nice sometimes. 90% of the time tho, i get my stuff back.
    when i was in aussie,on my last night ( i was flying out the next morning) i lent out my brand new never been worn black stockings to another dancer,who i trusted, but i left work early that night,and compleatly forgot to get them back! i was halfway to the airport when i remembered.ha she got lucky!! that was my fault tho.

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    Only my close friends can borrow my outfits and never my t-bars! That's just gross! As for newbies or new girls, no way can they borrow my stuff. I'm a costume whore and have a ton of stuff and I spend alot of $$ on it so I'm not taking a chance of not getting it back.

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    2 bras and a dress is on my list of things i never gor back

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    Yeah, I gotta get better about not lending. I have a pair of shoes out right now, though she has been there a long time and I'm not worried about her running off with them, just that eventually "oh I didn't know you needed them back so I loaned them to..." A blowdryer has also been lost to the depths, another girl that has been there awhile said "oh I set it down when I was done with, didn't you get it?" le sigh.
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    As a DJ I have learned that I never loan my CD's that I bring into the club, not to a dancer or another dj, now I have gotten into the habbit if a dj or a dancer wants to borrow my cd's I tell them I will burn them a copy and give it to them the next night. I have had 10 cd not returned to me and 3 that have been stolen.

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    I use to sell shoes, clothes, whatever instead of lending out. And if they don't want to buy oh well no skin off my back.

    I may have many faults, but being wrong ain't one of them.

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    That's the one nice thing about having either a housemom or another vendor in the club - one vendor has even started renting gowns for the showcase, where the girls have to wear gowns on stage.
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