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    Default Did I commit a no-no?

    A few months ago when i was dancing in Georgia i was doing a tabledance for a group of guys and their girlfriends. Halfway through the song one of the girls decided to crawl up on the table and dance with me. It was a little awkward because she was pretty drunk and almost knocked me over a few times, but I didn't want to aggravate the customers so I just smiled and finished my song. After I'd gotten down from the table and went into the back room to change, the dancer who was up on stage came in and proceeded to scream at me. Saying I'd disrespected her and "stolen focus" from her. I apologized and tried to explain that I didn't pull the girl up on the table or anything and that I didn't want to piss off my customers by telling her to get down. Did I do something wrong or was this dancer's complaint unfounded? I HATE drama. I always did my best to avoid it at work. Sometimes even to the point where the other girls would talk about me and say I was a "little weird" and "too quiet". I'm there to work, not gossip.. you know? Anyway, can someone offer me some insight so I can avoid any future offenses?

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    Hmmm...I think that drunk girl needed to get her ass off the table. Next time just say "hun, I could lose my job if you don't get down..." or something like that so that it doesn't seem like you are the one being crappy.

    As for the bitch who yelled at you. Damn...what a brat. I think she had the right to say something. But nor ream you out in the dressing room. It wan't even that huge of a deal. If she was worried about the spotlight being on her, she should juice up her stage show. Not expect everyone else to tone down for her benefit.

    And being the quiet one is the BEST way to avoid being a target.
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    I think the dancer that yelled at you was off her rocker. Somethin must be loose with her, because I dont see how you "stole focus" from her. She sounds like an attention whore anyway. I dont see that you did anything wrong.

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    Being quiet really does seem to work. I've always been the 'weird one' so it never bothered me. Living in Georgia everyone seemed to know everyone's business, I figured it was best just to not give them any business to know! haha.

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    Ok,you stole her show.

    Her fault,and yours.

    You because the show is on stage and anything out of the ordinary should be taken into the LD room or vip room.
    When on the main floor,its best not to engage in something that will draw attention from the whole room and divert mass attention from the stage.
    Two girls dancing on a table together,specially if one is a drunk civilian,will always get attention.
    She has a right to be pissed.

    Its her fault because her show didnt keep the attention of the room and then she acted like a bitch in the dressing room.(im sure she was a uber bitch on stage while it was going on also lol)

    But make no mistake,she was a performer who got "showed up"while she was on stage and anytime that happens,all hell breaks loose.

    Not for nothing,but did you know in alot of clubs,entertainers are not allowed to sit at perv row with a girl on stage??
    Theres a good reason for that.

    Its no big deal what happened,it happens alla time,dont worry about it.
    Just dont do it again and all will be ok.

    Whoever is on stage,thats the star of the room,not the girls on the floor working the room.
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    You can't control other people.

    Not your drunk custy's or the psycho bitch in the D.R. Don't let her control you by taking her dramatic yelling personally.
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    Seems to me you made a simple mistake. Your posting means you're concerned, didn't mean any harm, and want to know whether or not it's ok for the future. Probably not too kosher to keep this a practice, but it was a mistake. It won't happen again, lesson learned. The bia needs to get over it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by RetiredDancer
    I think the dancer that yelled at you was off her rocker. Somethin must be loose with her, because I dont see how you "stole focus" from her. She sounds like an attention whore anyway. I dont see that you did anything wrong.
    Some girls are just bitter that they can't put on a good stage show and will find any reason to blame someone else. It sounds like she just didn't do well up there and you were an easy target to blame. Don't worry about it. Ignore crap like that and continue to do your thing!



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    And if it was a table dance, like, actually at the table, and they didnt want a lapdance, it wasnt your fault. Like HK said, some girls are bitter and cant put on a good stage show. Too bad for her, but tell her next time to keep her mouth shut to you unless she has something to say that makes any sense.

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    are girls allowed to dance at your club?? no customers are allowed to dance at our club. but seriously, that chick that yelled at you has got a huge stick up her ass. she sees you having fun in her miserable little world and wants to bring you down from where you are. i hope you stood up for yourself, cuz it sounds like bitches at your club are miserable and jealous. keep your head up and don't listen to them, do whatever is right and gets you $$ in your pocket

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    Basically I would just say, "sorry, she climbed up," and move on.
    She probably wan't making money and you were the last straw, it happens. Let it go this time, try not to let it happen again.
    If the same dancer tries to curse you out again for something so small, I think I honestly would tell her that her show should have kept the attention on her. I'd had dancers try that crap on me when a custoemr asked for a dance and I took him from the stage, of course I made sure he tipped her well, but dancers will get bitchy about the smallest things. It probably wasn't you this time, just adding up a bad night for her.
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    Default Re: Did I commit a no-no?

    yes, it was at a table. the club i worked at was no contact whatsoever.

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    candy_parfeum_gurl, yes actually they ENCOURAGED us to get girls up on the tables / stages. though i never pulled any girls up because they were usually drunk and/or couldn't dance and it was just weird/awkward.

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    Quote Originally Posted by prairie
    candy_parfeum_gurl, yes actually they ENCOURAGED us to get girls up on the tables / stages. though i never pulled any girls up because they were usually drunk and/or couldn't dance and it was just weird/awkward.
    In that case, double the shame on Miss Priss!!! She should know better.



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    ah, let it slide this time, be benevolent, but next time tell her where to stick it, and smile as you do!
    Well, I'm glad you are such a dancer that doesn't beat her up over it, I've seen a few brawls over stuff like this. Let it go for now, she probably was having a bad day, we all have them, it's no excuse butit happens.
    Just don't let her slide again or she'll think she can push you around.
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    Of course it stole from her stage. Any female customer getting up and dancing would divert attention from anybody... no matter how great her stage was. Guys just like the concept of amateur girls. Now the unasked question is: did she take for her top or anything? Believe it or not, I've had female customers get up on STAGES and take off their clothes. How would you feel if you were on stage then?? Every guy in the world would stop tipping you and rush over, hooting and hollering, etc. In any case, I don't see it as your fault unless you asked her to get up... but it is the fault of management for not putting a stop to it. I don't know the rules at your club, but I would personally discourage it. Did you get any more tips out of it?? I doubt it. But the dancer on stage probably did lose a little. The fact that the DJ, bouncer, etc. did nothing shows that management doesn't care how well the dancers do. They just want customers to party and buy high priced drinks. Too bad if a dancer is cheated for whatever reason. The entertainment ought to be provided by the dancers who get the tips, not customers who are free. The dancer is there to work to pay her bills. The party customer probably works elsewhere and has paid her bills already. She ought to allow the working dancer the same right. The dancer is probably depending on that money. She ought to be allowed to do her job without having to compete unfairly with a customer. Would it have been okay if the customer went and served her own drinks? I think the bartender or waitress would have objected to that as well.

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    But, she didn't need to take it on the new girl, did she? If that's what the club allows then that's just how it goes. I've worked in clubs that allow female customers to walk in at midnight get on stage and do lap dances. IT sucks and I don't agree with it at all, but I can't take it out on the dancer that had to dance with her, now can I?
    If the other dancer had a problem with it she shouldn't take it out on the dancer that HAD to deal with the drunk chick.
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