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    So, I was sitting here chilling out with the baby and Hubby who had just gotten home. All of a sudden, the phone rings. I really wish I hadn't picked it up, because I was in a really good mood today.

    My little sister (ok, she's 28, but she's still my little sister) was on the other end. First words out of her mouth: "Tam, Are you sitting down?" Of course, the smartass that I am, I said "Why? Ya pregnant again?" She said "No. It's worse."

    She hesitated for a minute, took a deep breath and said "I have Cancer". I fucking lost it. I started going off on her and accused her of lying to me. I bitched at her for a good ten minutes before I let her speak again.

    She told me she had gone to get some moles removed (as everyone in our family has to do every few years, just in case), and of course they did biopsies on the moles removed. She has malignant melanoma. Same freaking vile piece of shit that claimed my father's life at just 39 years old. He was diagnosed when he was just 34, went through every treatment available and still was dead in 5 years.

    I really don't know what I'm going to do. Her doctors *hope* that they caught it in time, but they did note some considerable growth and spreading. They have her on 2 medications. She gave me the name of one of them (Starts with an M, that's all I remember). The doctors are going to try the medications and see if that will stop the growth or at least slow it so they can put her through treatment, most likely chemo.

    I am passed being sad. I did my crying and screaming. Now I'm downright fucking pissed. This disease doesn't care who it gets into. Some may remember that I mentioned that my sister had a baby back in October. She's not even 8 months old yet. She NEEDS my Sister! And we need her as well.

    I just got off the phone with my older sister, after letting her know about it. We're both out for blood. But, a good thing is also coming out of our anger---we're both making appointments on Monday to get checked. My older sister has had her own scares as I've mentioned in the past, with the cervical/ovarian cancer scares. They thankfully turned out to be just that--scares.

    This post is really just meant to be a rant, but please, if anyone can say anything to lighten my mood or lift my spirits, I really really could use it.

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    My prayers are with you and your sister and family!
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    Big hugs to you I'll have positive thoughts and prayers for you and your family. Cancer almost took my moms sister, I know the pain.

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    You are in my thoughts and prayers. My sister is my best friend too, and I can't imagine anything bad ever happening to her. I am so, so sorry for your pain.

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    sigh..................my best
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    all our love and prayers Rhi...my mom has gone the cancer route (skin cancer, minor thank god) a few times

    call or PM if u need to chat.

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    Was she a regular tanner, indoor or outdoor? Sorry just wondering. Sometimes I feel so bad after I tan. I know it's so dangerous.

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    Sweetie I am so sorry! I know how you feel, I have family that went through that as well. I am now super paranoid(borderline hypochondriac), and constantly think I may have cancer (cervical/uteral/skin are the ones I too have to worry about). Just get your checks done every year and don't become a paraniod weirdo like me.
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    I wish I could give you a big hug and to say to stay strong. Its hard to watch someone go through this my aunt had her 1st baby and 2 months later she got cancer in her throat. Shes winning right now and in remmision 1.5 years later. Technology is better and better everyday.


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    I'm sorry Rhi. All the luck in the world...
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    I'm with you on this one Rhi. Hope your sister beats it!



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    Aww babe, im so sorry... know that I'm thinkin about you.


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    Quote Originally Posted by 242_fair
    Was she a regular tanner, indoor or outdoor? Sorry just wondering. Sometimes I feel so bad after I tan. I know it's so dangerous.
    Not at all hon.. Ever since our father died in '90, we've all stayed out of the Sun. We don't want to add any more to our risk.

    Thank you all for your kind words. I just really have the urge to grab someone and beat the hell out of them because I'm so angry. It took our father which was bad enough, there is no way in hell we're letting it take her too.

    If she didn't have Olivia, I don't think she'd want to fight it. I'm glad she has her to give her the strength and inspiration to keep going.

    It just pisses me off to no end. In the past few years, she's really gotten her life in order and has made me incredibly proud of her. She's battled a slew of mental problems, was institutionalized for many years, and finally beat it. Now life throws this at her? Hell fucking no.

    Words can't describe how much I hate this disease. I want it out of her.

    (Thank you for the brownies, TM. They look yummy)

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    Never give up. It's sometimes amazing the stuff the human body can do.

    All the best to your sis.

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    Oh Rhi, I am just so terribly sorry.

    Please remember that cancer treatments have progressed tremendously since your father's time.

    If you feel up to sharing it, could you post more information on her diagnosis and treatment? Who is treating her? Is she getting top-notch care?

    I have one foot out the door to Cali right now, but I will log on tomorrow night and see what updates you have.

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    Thank you for your words, TOO. I'd be happy to share the details with you. She told me that she was diagnosed 2 weeks ago. She went in about 3 weeks ago to get a few moles removed that didn't look quite right. They called her and told her that they needed to set up an appointment with her a week after. There they told her that her diagnosis was Metastatic Malignant Melanoma. (Same form that our father had. He lasted 5 years even with treatment). She was a mess when they told her, but she thinks she recalls them saying "Stage 2". I don't know how the stages go, or what they mean. All I know is that any stage of Cancer is evil. They said that even though it had spread, they *think* it's still treatable. My older sister and I plan to do research, but if anyone knows what the stages mean, please let me know. Is Stage 2 bad?

    I wish I could remember the name of one of the medications. All I remember is that it starts with an M and is supposedly used to stop the spreading, I think. They're going to give her some time and see how it reacts to the medications. If it doesn't help, they'll try radiation and whatever else they have available.

    I'm really glad that medicine has come a long way since '90. They probably have a whole lot more options that weren't available to my father. I hope that she can beat this.

    I'm not sure who's treating her. There are so many questions that I'm thinking of now that I wish I had asked her. I just got off the phone with her again about 5 minutes ago, and she said she was going to bed. I'll see if I can get more details tomorrow when I call her.

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    I'm sorry, Rhi. I hope for a happy outcome for you and your family. *hug*


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    I'm really sorry, that's an awful thing for you & your sister (whole family) to have to go through, especially after the pain of losing your father to the same cancer. I'm the last person to be spiritual/religious, but when it comes to stuff like this I've found prayer doesn't hurt. I'll pray for your sister & you're in my thoughts. Please keep us posted.
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    :: hugs ::

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhiannon
    In the past few years, she's really gotten her life in order and has made me incredibly proud of her. She's battled a slew of mental problems, was institutionalized for many years, and finally beat it.
    After overcoming all of the things she has overcome, and knowing she has this wonderful new baby to fight for, she probably has the fortitude, strength and desire to kick some serious cancer booty!

    My thoughts are with you and your family. I wish you all Peace, Strength, Love and Courage
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    I'm so sorry too hear this news Rhia.I lost my mom to lung cancer about 6yrs ago and it was horrible.But on a positive note your sister is pretty young and thankfully it was detected early.Which means the odds are in her favor. Good karma for you and yours.

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    I hope everything turns out ok
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    *VERYBIGHUGS*

    I just had some skin cancer removed last month. My prayers to your family hun.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhiannon
    If she didn't have Olivia, I don't think she'd want to fight it. I'm glad she has her to give her the strength and inspiration to keep going.
    The Universe/God works in "mysterious" ways. Sometimes it takes these kinds of things to happen to remind us that nothing is guaranteed and to really make something of each moment of your life.

    My biggest hugs to you, your sister, and your family. I'm thinking about you and sending you positive, loving, healing energy.

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    I'm sorry Rhi...my thoughts are with you.

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