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    Sad breakup killing hustle

    I just went through an extrememly upsetting breakup this week and it has murdered my hustle. I could barely force myself to go up to 10 customers last night and barely made any money. I can't afford to take time off or to go to work and not make money. Ladies what can I do to snap myself out of it?

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    you just have to go in bound and determind to make money and and have a good time when you go in to dance you have to enter in to another world nothing else is going on in your life then after you make your money enter back into your world
    you have to keep the two seperate or

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    In the movie For Love of The Game, Kevin Costner's character, a baseball player, used to engage a mechanism every time he pitched a baseball. He would start to clearly begin focussing on what he needed to do in that exact moment. He would tune out the other players, he would tune out the fans screaming, he would tune out every single possible distraction so that he could focus on the task at hand in that exact moment.

    You should do the same thing. Don't focus on the challenges at home or things that bring you stress at work. Tune out the music, tune out the other dancers, etc. Just focus on one guy at a time and that's it. Just one step at a time. Focus not on how many dances you need to sell in that night, just focus on one dance. Just one. That's it. Get into the focus of mind to sell one and sell it. Then move to the next one. Just focus on that second sale. Nothing else. Stay focussed on the moment rather than the whole picture and that will help you greatly.

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    ^ That is great advice DW!!

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    I have to second what DW just said. Tune everything out (hard I know, but it can be done) when you're at work. Focus on what you're there for--making money and making guys feel good. Smile even if you don't feel like it, you will by the end of the night.

    I will add one thing to DW's advice though. DO NOT talk about your break up. Not with the other dancers, staff, and especially the customers. It's far easier to focus on work when you don't have 20 people a day asking how you're doing. Trust me on that one, I speak from experience. Keep your private life private and you'll find it much easier to work and to hustle in both good times and bad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyM
    Keep your private life private and you'll find it much easier to work and to hustle in both good times and bad.


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    What works for me is the mentality that I am two entirely different people. When I'm not i the club, I'm (insert real name here). The moment I walk through those doors though, I'm Taylor. All my problems were left the moment I took those first steps in. Taylor doesn't leave until I'm in the shower and wash her off

    I've forgotten this lately though and my income has suffered. I got too close with a few customers and they knew the "real" me. So, it was more chit chatting than dancing and we all know talking doesn't pay the bills

    I also know how you feel as I've just gotten out of a very long relationship and sometimes it's hard. If you need to PM me...I'm a shoulder to cry on and I won't hassle you at work asking how you're doing!

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissTaylor
    What works for me is the mentality that I am two entirely different people. When I'm not i the club, I'm (insert real name here). The moment I walk through those doors though, I'm Taylor. All my problems were left the moment I took those first steps in. Taylor doesn't leave until I'm in the shower and wash her off

    I've forgotten this lately though and my income has suffered. I got too close with a few customers and they knew the "real" me. So, it was more chit chatting than dancing and we all know talking doesn't pay the bills

    I also know how you feel as I've just gotten out of a very long relationship and sometimes it's hard. If you need to PM me...I'm a shoulder to cry on and I won't hassle you at work asking how you're doing!
    I too have been through a breakup in which used to make me cry thinkin bout it. What I realized that, I too did what Taylor did.......that I was 2 different people.....mercedez and (real name)......I still do this to the very day...it helps me stay focused ........When I was goin through this tough time, I learned I could either sit at home and be depressed or go to work to keep my mind off things......

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    Im also going through a break up. Uh..It is the worst! But it does the opposite to my hustling. I do much better. Simply because when I am out of work, I am focused on how much I miss my man. But when I am at work, I am somebody else; I see my girls, they cheer me up, I am more focused on my goals in life; it adds a new glow to my face. Honestly I make more $ during a break-up then when I am with my boyfriend. When I was with my man, I HATED working because I could not stand the fact that other men could see my body. But the moment we broke up..I hate men so much, They were just objects to me, I was just after their loot; and I went home with a great bank deposit. : ) I hope U feel better.. xoxo (this is just my crazy advice)

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    I'm really sorry that you are going through a breakup. I am sorta in the same predicament. I actually have not been back to work for awhile...since BEFORE this thing started...so I'm not sure how I will react. It's easier said than done when someone says to separate all feelings of personal life from feelings of "work life."

    Sometimes, it's hard to get motivation to even go up and talk to people when you feel so down. They say that when one is depressed, it will also affect their physical well-being. It makes me lethargic.

    Even though you might not feel like it, try to have something to eat. If you're anything like me, when you go through a breakup, that's the last thing you want to do. However, you must keep your energy up. water helps with that, too.

    Just remember: this, too, shall pass.

    good luck

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    I went threw this to. I sat in the club and cryed for days when my jerk off x pee brain dumped me. (i am not bitter lol) It really effected my work my mangers noticed becuse i would cry in the dressing room and everthing. I finally snaped out of it. No man is worth loosing a dime over. You will learn i did. It sucks and i feel you. if you ever need anything im me becuse i will help you.

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    My BF broke up with me last week, and now there is only one thing on my mind, perhaps it's just me but all I want is REVENGE!!! He hated me dancing and so now, every time I do it I think of it as a slap in the face to him... I am a total subscriber to the whole "don't give him the satisfaction of watching you fall" (or hearing about it for that matter). I have been banking since he called it quits, now it's like "sorry 'bout cha luck you broke mother f*cker" He also hated me being around his friends, so this weekend me and some girlfriends planned a getaway to the lake, got a cabin, and a boat, and every one of his hottest friends will be there... ahhh haaaa haaa...... I'm such an evil bitch...

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    My boyfriend of 3 years, who I am still crazy madly in love with, broke up with me two weeks ago. I feel your pain believe me. I have been a complete mess, all I do is cry and sleep and drink. And work has suffered like crazy for it. I just have no energy left to put into the customers. It fucking sucks. Thanks for the advice though girls, I'm going to try to use some of it tonight and see how it goes.


    there's beauty in the breakdown





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