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    I consistently get several lap dances per week from my ATF. I've decided to stop to get financial house a little bit back in order. Do you think it impolite just to stop coming without telling her. Or would the normal dancer not even give it a thought.

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    Depending on how long you have been a regular.. I would give it a thought.. besides, when your in the mood its always nice to have a familiar booty happy to see you again.


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    I'd appreciate it if one of my regulars told me before taking a long break...
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    just end with "i'll be back i don't know when but i'll be back"

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    I prefer to be told, especially if you communicate with her out of hours e.g. email, telephone. A reg of mine told me he'd be taking a break and it's nice to know. Sometimes girls do wait for their regs to show up, especially if they come at a certain time/day, so try not to disappoint her by keeping her in the dark.
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    If I were in your shoes, I would let her know. If you're not comfortable telling her that you can't afford the expense right now, just say you're going out of town on business or something like that.

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    I find threads like this to be very ironic.

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    How so? Madcap

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    How would you want her to handle the situation if roles were reversed?

    If she decided to go to another club, or quit altogether and you two had a set "date" of Tuesday at 9:30 wouldn't you be a tad bit peeved if you came in to see her 2 or 3 weeks and she was AWOL....no forwarding address, no goodbye hug no nothin'?

    If the above scenario wouldn't bother you (I think it would since you asked the question) then by all means just leave and say nothing.
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    You should definitely tell her ,at least hint somehow.

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    Depends on the dancer and club but it's best to err on the side of caution in this case and tell her you'll be taking a break. If she depends on your weekly visits, she can be warned to make other arrangements for that day or at least know she'll have to be prepared to hustle the room instead...

    Some girls would barely notice your absence and some would be anywhere from mildly to majorly bothered.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thepoet
    How so? Madcap
    Lets just say that when you "get" that it's a service that is provided, you also "get" the other half of the deal. You're not dealing with someone you have to break up with, here. If you get the chance and are thinking about it (and, in some cases, don't mind dealing with a sales pitch immediately after telling her) then tell her but since you aren't dealing with feelings or a GF, here, don't go out of your way. She'll find someone else, her light bill will get paid. It's all fantasy, dude. If there isn't a real honest to god friendship, there is no reason to overstep yourself.

    You're buying a fantasy remember? It's up to you (as long as you have behaved yourself) when that fantasy is over.

    One way or another, don't let things get too personal.



    P.S. I misspoke. It's not that i really find THREADS like this Ironic, just parts of threads like this.

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    Interesting point, Madcap. But I have to say I tend to get attached to some of my regulars, and I'm sad if they just don't come back. Sure, maybe the main reason I get attached because of the money, but building a regular relationship with a customer just can't happen for me if I utterly detest the person.

    I guess I shouldn't be talking since I just took a 5 month break without giving any of my customers any notice!

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    Quote Originally Posted by noelle
    I tend to get attached to some of my regulars, and I'm sad if they just don't come back.
    Yeah, i understand. I believe you. I can't really relate, since i never had anything in my life like what you had in yours, but i can see it.



    Quote Originally Posted by noelle
    Sure, maybe the main reason I get attached because of the money, but building a regular relationship with a customer just can't happen for me if I utterly detest the person.
    Understood. Keep in mind that i only can say the male mindset, and in particular MY mindset. As i said, a friendship needs special consideration, HOWEVER it tends to be in a guy's best interests to avoid having 'feelings' of any kind for a dancer, this means anyone he meets at the club, not at the mall. You meet a dancer in the line waiting for her quarter pounder with cheese, more power to you.
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    I was in sales for years and have owned my own business since the mid 80's. During that time I've developed close business relationships with many customers. I provide a product and/or service and they pay me. It works out very well for both parties. If one of those customers dropped off the face of the earth I would find it very strange. Not the end of the world or emotionally damaging...but strange. Same thing with strippers and their customers.

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    iI called.she said thaks for the "heads up". She apparently likes to pl. Thanks for all the reponses

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    Addendum: she apparently life to "plan". That Pl acroymn is sentive her

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