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    So it's strange, I have thought on and off about quitting for the last year but was never really serious about it (apart from doing courses etc to prepare myself). I went in one night two weeks ago, lasted one hour freaked out and went home.

    This has happened once or twice in the passed but I usually get over it in a day or two. But this time, since it happened I have had no desire to go back and I can't even imagine myself dancing anymore (well until I get a pole in my living room at least ).

    It is like my subconcious just went "NOPE!" and shut down. I have never had such a strong reaction like this before..... anyone else had anything similiar?

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    I did, I went through the same motions exactly...I had been working for 5 years, San Francisco, Vegas, Dallas, New Orleans...and right in new orleans I just realized I couldn't do it anymore, I wanted out. I started skipping work, I brought a book with me when I went, sat there and read, turned dances down, and finally I didn't go anymore.
    Now...I am back in my Country ( I am Italian), I have a regular job as a call center operator, that took me 3 months to land and pays 600 euros a month AARGHHH !!!
    Guess what? I am moving to London in July to dance again!!! Nothing like dancing will give you the freedom to do exactly what you want and when you want it. And it's not only about the costant cash flow which we are all used to, but the possibility of not going if we have something better to do, the comrady among girls, we are all in the same boat..life in an office is much different and it sucks major massive A$$...can't wait to go back...put me dancin shoes on and enjoy that life again. Like many other I wasted away all my money...I am going to be smarter much smarter now, because living on a regular paycheck is a nightmare, virtually impossible after you have been spoiled and you are used to pulling this kinda cash...Maybe you just need a break...I know I did, and I ready to hustle again!!! Good luck honey!!!

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    Yup, this happened to me as well. I had an identity crisis I think. It happened to me a lot earlier though, after only a year and about 3 months of dancing. I am now doing a job that pays a lot less, but guess what..... I'm a lot freakin' happier! There's a part of me that really craves dancing and that part has not died in me yet. I'm extremely confused right now! Should i go to school, should I stay in the crappy ass job I have now or should I go back dancing. It was really really stressful to do a regular job after not having one for about a year and a half. It was just really weird, something I wasn't use to. Dancing can be like a drug that you get addicted to, you've gotta get off the drug sometime, but while you're on it enjoy the ride because it's not going to last forever.... Unless you want to be a lifer. It's really good to think about your future.

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    Quote Originally Posted by krys
    So it's strange, I have thought on and off about quitting for the last year but was never really serious about it (apart from doing courses etc to prepare myself). I went in one night two weeks ago, lasted one hour freaked out and went home.

    This has happened once or twice in the passed but I usually get over it in a day or two. But this time, since it happened I have had no desire to go back and I can't even imagine myself dancing anymore (well until I get a pole in my living room at least ).

    It is like my subconcious just went "NOPE!" and shut down. I have never had such a strong reaction like this before..... anyone else had anything similiar?
    Hi Krys, long time no speak! I can't say I have, so probably not much help! But I've only been dancing for a year (almost) and only work 2 or 3 nights a week. Have you been able to work out why that particular subconscious response occurred that night? Is it related to custys, money, work environment, society's opinions of us (yes I read your really cool post on being a dancer and I remember it), or just need a change of career? Have you been happy dancing over the last year?

    Sorry to ask so many q's but I'm doing Psychology at uni, so the q's come naturally I suppose.

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    Yes and thankfully I am quitting. Use to be I LOVED my job, the people were cool and I got along with everyone. But here lately, it's my co-workers sniping and the cutsy's stupid questions that have made me think long and hard about going back. I'm so close - perhaps two or three trips back to work for me. ( I work in another part of my state so it's a week on week off thing ) Then I will be DONE .. I can't wait.

    Miss R.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ashara
    Hi Krys, long time no speak! I can't say I have, so probably not much help! But I've only been dancing for a year (almost) and only work 2 or 3 nights a week. Have you been able to work out why that particular subconscious response occurred that night? Is it related to custys, money, work environment, society's opinions of us (yes I read your really cool post on being a dancer and I remember it), or just need a change of career? Have you been happy dancing over the last year?

    Sorry to ask so many q's but I'm doing Psychology at uni, so the q's come naturally I suppose.
    Hey Hun,

    It has happened a few times before ... I feel like work isn't the REAL me and at times when I am thinking too much and the REAL me does make an apperance I freak out. I get really sensitive to the surroundings and it makes me sick to watch it. I have had a few border line panic attacks over the years (I have been dancing on and off of nearly 6 I am afraid to admit!!!) But they seem to pass and I am ok after a few days off.

    I have been thinking about moving on and delving into my new career but have been a little scared to let go..... dancing has served a big purpose for me in many respects. And without sounding too "out there" I find spiritually work really effects me. I can not deal with the energy of the club sometimes.

    I shut down alot from it but I feel my life is "opening" more and it is harder to shut off from the mental, emotional, physical aspects of work as I have had to do over the years..... I guess perhaps my subconcious had enough and said, "ya know what?" "I quit, right here right now I quit" (slams door walks out )

    So yeah that is the long winded version of it ... thanks for taking the time to advise ... oh and I am glad you liked my little piece Hope things are picking up in Syders for ya xo

    (P.S Look out for me on the cover of Australian Natural Health Mag this month coming out June 20th!!!!)
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    I think you need a break. Besides you have that job here in the states to look forward to. How many days a weel have you been working? Im just guessing you may be close to your limit. Sometimes over work ...when you spend more time being a stripper than yourself you can get confused and well what youre experiencing now.

    Sometimes its hard for the real you to take a step back and become your other self for a few hours. I guess this would be a good time to get away and be you for awhile.
    you live like an ivy vine
    you can only survive by clinging onto trees
    that's your flaw
    put down some roots so you can stand on your own
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    Oh that guy in Florida turned out to want way more than I was bargining for....!!!! Hopefully something in the health/fitness arena will pop up for me in Cali

    I don't think it is a break ... I have had plenty of them. The job is not me, I think it is time for the end.....

    You have a point TM... to much time being a stripper not enough time being ME... gotta get out before I forget who ME is...

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    I'm where you are, only with alot of money greed keeping me going. I have to take a deep breath and psyche myself before walking into the club---turn into a numb bulldozer getting as much cash in as little time as possible. on top of resisting the temptation of responding to haters' gossiping and jealous games. Yet it's a decision--is it worth the money...for me yes! Because I have plans for the money, I think of it as temporary drudgery. Not perfect, but what are your other options...to live with less but perhaps have more sanity.

    I'm so jaded I'm thinking of starting a Buddhist meditaiton retreat so I can make money and clear my own head at the same time.

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    Ashara? Miss Psychology...? What are your thoughts?

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