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    Default How to get rid of annoying dancers

    Many dancers in one club where I work think it's fine and dandy to hustle my customers while I am sitting RIGHT THERE. Usually the guy's arm is around me and his legs are crossed toward me. His body language is screaming "I'm with Lizette. Leave me alone."

    Tonight a custy tipped me to sit with him. "Tip" isn't the appropriate word. I should say "paid my summer tuition." 2 dancers continued to approach him and beg for dances. They looked like total idiots being shot down 6, 7, 8, 93 times and coming back for more rejection. Anywho, it was annoying. His friend began making fun of them, which I thought was absolutely appropriate. They heard it. Haha.

    This is becoming a big problem. It's not hurting my earnings in any way. However, I am upset that dancers can be so rude. I need to talk to management about this (again). I want them to circulate a memo stating proper dancer behavior. What should it say?

    Oh, don't get me started about dancers hustling my stage. Don't EVEN get me started. Tacky, tacky, tacky.

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    This would be most annoying as a customer. What can those other girls be thinking? Yes you've found a live one and they probably figured that out.
    However their actions are like theft, literally trying to steal your customer.
    Generally I handled this as follows. Either I only go to laid back clubs where
    one or two nos will suffice and then no longer having this problem. Or go to larger clubs where there is usually a VIP area where certainly the club rules would prohibit this behavior from other dancers, or the bouncer would act as
    a deterrent. Finally I would speak to the manager myself. The only similar
    problem I've ever had was with the "Case of the Over Territorial Cocktail Waitress." and I finally had to complain to the head watress and the manager.
    My polite nos and no thanks you turn into a more abrupt "Get Lost!" Don't usually ahve this problem with other dancers.

    To save on the inter club politics I would have the customer speak with management not you directly.

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    Default Re: How to get rid of annoying dancers

    i had an experience at one club she was just very young and annoying. plus she was sh(t faced drunk and openly high. she claimed to be bi and kept following me around making comments, wanting to kiss in front of the men, etc. It was cute at first but went on all night. It wouldn't have been bad if she wasn't so belligerant.

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    Really I am suprised it didn't effect your earnings... and I'm glad it didn't!
    are these new girls?


    It kills the fantasy that gentleman desires (to sit and have a private conversation with an attractive woman).
    Not all men are interested in having women fighting for their attention...

    As far as a memo I am not sure what would be appropriate.
    Those new "rules" could be manipulated by dancers in order to "mark their territory."

    But I don't think that HOUNDING a customer is good for club business.
    I think something along those lines might be acceptable and easy for those "thick headed individuals" to understand.
    You don't want to scare customers off!
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    Eewww..... how disgustingly desperate. Well, if management won't handle the problem (and obviously there are way more than just one girl doing this) maybe you should go to another club where the girls can hold themselves with a bit more class.
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    It seems to be a problem that no management wants to handel anymore. Back in the day that would get you a much deserved shanking in the dressing room, but no it dosent seem to matter. Just another reason why the biz is declining.
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    Oh, that's so annoying. I hate when girls do that 'cause then you're scared to go to the bathroom or on stage 'cause they will swoop in like a buzzard.

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    Whic returns me to my favorite clubs concept of marking a table (and customer) WITH A RED
    straw in a dancer drink. Or have the dancer leave her cigs and lighter. The cigs and lighter thing are pretty obvious. Another dancer would have to be very obtuse not to notice them on the table. I guess the drink thing won't work in every club and everywere due to security issues. I have had a dancer put me on standby. While I am content to be on standby for awhile as it brings peace, if she's dumped me I will do one of two things.
    One have the cocktail waitress bring me another drink and take hers away, or if its the cig lighter issue, move to another area and table of what is hopefully a larger club. This will in short order attract another dancer.

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    Default Re: How to get rid of annoying dancers

    I have worked at a club that had a list of rules one of which clearly stated the following,

    "when a dancer is sitting with a client you many not sit with the client unless you have permission from the dancer."
    Of course this is followd by what fine will be charged since this club loves to fine.
    I don't think I've ever had to work at a club where dancers repeatedly offended me by approaching the guy I am sitting with. If they had a dance already lined up then he's theirs of course! If they want to thank him for tipping them, that's great. If he says that she was sitting there first (of course this would be something I wouldn't have known.) I will move.

    Sorry you have to deal with all that.

    I know that I will tell customers that I am going to be back and say where I am going, stage or bath room and usually they will wait for me and tell other dancers this. If the customer doesn't tell that to the next dancer that approaches them I will concider it either his loss or come back when they are done talking.
    Even asking for a dance by saying, "when I get back do you want to get one?" Usually wither seals the deal or at least lets me know to let him go.
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    I experience this when I work with some hard core hustlers. Lizette, when this happens frequently there usually are not enough spending customers to go around, or in other words, business is slooow.

    I checked two girls last week about trying to sell guys from my stage, and trying to sell my KNOWN regular while I am on stage.

    I told them that I don't bother their customers when they are sitting with them nor do I approach customers sitting at their stage, and would appreciate them not doing that to me.

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    Default Re: How to get rid of annoying dancers

    I've had that happen. It's annoying and an ironclad reason not to buy any dances from them.

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    "when a dancer is sitting with a client you many not sit with the client unless you have permission from the dancer."
    Of course this is followd by what fine will be charged since this club loves to fine.
    That was the rule at Thee Dollhouse when I was there. Also if a dancer left a drink with the customer he was hands off.
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    Not that this will help... But, I've seen girls light one another's bags on fire for this sort of activity.
    Have your customer offer to buy them dinner. "You're obviously hungry if you're working that hard for a dollar. Here, let me buy you a cheeseburger. It's the least I can do since I will NOT be paying your gas bill."

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    Default Re: How to get rid of annoying dancers

    Quote Originally Posted by Underestimated
    Not that this will help... But, I've seen girls light one another's bags on fire for this sort of activity.
    Where I work this has been the cause of some serious ass-kicking in the dressing room, or after work in the parking lot. Some of these Florida dancers can be brutal.

    There is another scenario which I have seen very frequently, which is somewhat different, but equally frustrating for everyone involved. This is NOT like your situation, Lizette, where the guy clearly likes you and wants to be left alone.

    This is when some obviously unnattractive girl will be trying to hustle some guy, he wants no part of her, and he tries to get another dancer that he likes to come hang with him. The unnattractive dancer then freaks out and causes a scene, screaming in the dressing room, to the DJ, to everyone else, how the good looking girl just STOLE HER CUSTOMER!!

    This is not as common as it used to be in my present club, since they have thankfully gotten a lot pickier about who they hire.

    But it was hard to keep a straight face, and/or remain neutral and professional when some 180 lb girl was shrieking at me about how "that fucking bitch" (who just happens to be slender and cute) "stole" her customer. Right...

    Thankfully it's not my job to settle disputes like that--but if it was, I would be very strict about everyone leaving a dancer alone who clearly has a customer under her spell.
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    At my home joint the dancers all know I prefer to sit with 2 or more from the start, that way the other girls don't try stealing me when I'm alone. Somedays I will get stolen by the determined but always get returned a little lighter. Loyality to my favorite dancer is always wack like she is usually sitting with a custy that's just bought her a drink so I pine while he gets her and the other dancers are avoiding me? Daddy don't play favorites anymore. Today some wadders uppers were getting jelious of me because I was both arms full sitting front & center and they had a circle jerk going on at an empty table dance table so I sent one of mine over to work them out and she returned happier and ready for her pirvate dances from me. The other girl got hers 2 and she was a wild one, my neck still feels her bites. eow...
    What I HATE is being asked to watch someones purse. Like a reserved sign nobody else will sit down and I get the feeling she ain't never commin back.

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    Dancer Etiquette, there are all sorts of things said about such and each club has it's own form of rules. These suggestions are often used universally in every club across the country to promote harmony and peace among the masses of stripper-girls who have to work with each other on a daily basis. I hope I haven't forgotten anything and if so, please add on.

    1: DO NOT talk about your co-worker, not to a customer. This is tacky and will only wind up making you look stupid. Also do not talk about club business to the customer, what business is it of his or hers how your club does business.

    2: DO NOT try to muscle your way into another dancers hard work - as in the fella' she happens to be sitting with. Yes, we DO go to the bathroom, contrary to popular belief and if you see a drink, personal belongings at said table. Move along, such behavior is not conducive to good dancer harmony.

    3: Drunkenness and other sorts of altered states to excess is not pretty. This is work, treat it as such.

    4:Unlady like behavior is just tacky. A little playful whooping and hollering is all good if your from down south like me, but screaming at the DJ from stage, yelling at a co-worker across the music is not good. Don't make everyone's else look bad with your bad behavior.

    5: Clothing and hygiene. Stinky is not good, need I say more? Find a style that suits you. Do not copy a co-workers shtick.

    6: Lastly, Keep your hands to yourself. If it is not yours. Don't touch it. I know you little crack headed girls have to have your rock, but if you touch some peoples stuff you might find your parts re-arranged. We all make money. Get your own.

    I think these are the basic rules of getting along in the work place with everyone else. Mostly.

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    Default Re: How to get rid of annoying dancers

    Quote Originally Posted by Niceguy
    I guess the drink thing won't work in every club and everywere due to security issues.
    It's been discussed here before, but as a footnote to this topic, let's remind everyone for safety's sake, leaving a drink at a table as a "marker" is fine, but discard it after you get back because you never know what might have been slipped into it while you were gone.

    -Ev

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