hi board members...
i am going to be single forever. ive been seeing a guy and i text messaged him and told him i was a stripper in the past...at first he said it was fine..and he thought it was kinda hot and that he wouldnt care as long as we were monogamous if i stripped(right now we are just seeing each other anyway)Then imm after he starts with all of these stripper comments....I talked to him today and he said he could never be serious with someone who was a stripper or who was thinking about being a stripper...THIS JUST FUCKING SUCKS> we are not even a couple yet!!!!!!!!!!so basically it would be ok for me to go fuck someone else right now -(I HAVENT EVEN SLEPT WITH HIM OR DONE ANYTHING SEXUAL) and obviously i wouldnt have to tell him about it... but if im a dancer he just writes me off....i screwed myself. i really wanted to have an honest relationship for once and not have to hide what i do. i tried to be honest and he said now he cant trust me. he is always going to think that i am off stripping somewhere. and now if i wanna dance behind his back its probably even worse if he finds out....and it would make it harder to dance behind his back anyway because he'll always be suspicious and could even go around looking for me. oh and he called me a liar because i hadnt told him right up front - (whatever we hardly even knew each other) and was wondering what else id "lied" about and if i had any std's -- and then went on to comment that hed always felt bad for strippers....yet it was ok for him to get many a lap dances in the past!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what the fuck is up with the double standard. i dont know what to do. he was in total shock when he found out cause he never would have suspected that from me, and now i guess it has totally changed the way he thinks of me. did i make a mistake by tellling him???Probably...but i want to have a boyfriend that is going to accept me for mei dont think ill ever find that though because i m not sure id wanna be with the type who was totally cool with it. its just fucked up cause if i got naked at mardi gras that would be ok...and if id had a bunch of partners in the past that would be ok...and if i was in a girls gone wild video that would probably be ok too....but STRIPPING???and u know, if we worked out, i'd quit for sure -- but right now we are just seeing each other & why should i stop dancing for someone when he could just dump me and then i would be out alot of money. I do like him though and i dont wanna stop seeing him. anyway, im sitting here waiting for him to call me so we can discuss this and obviously not working....what should i do!!???? love is hard enough to find, will this job hurt my chances even more?
Airella



i dont think ill ever find that though because i m not sure id wanna be with the type who was totally cool with it. its just fucked up cause if i got naked at mardi gras that would be ok...and if id had a bunch of partners in the past that would be ok...and if i was in a girls gone wild video that would probably be ok too....but STRIPPING???and u know, if we worked out, i'd quit for sure -- but right now we are just seeing each other & why should i stop dancing for someone when he could just dump me and then i would be out alot of money. I do like him though and i dont wanna stop seeing him. anyway, im sitting here waiting for him to call me so we can discuss this and obviously not working....what should i do!!???? love is hard enough to find, will this job hurt my chances even more?
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