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    With kids you get what you put into them and unfortunately it sometimes seems like the majority of people just don't give a shit anymore. I've got three kids; a son age 14 (Freshman in HS) and two daughters aged 13 and 10. It never ceases to amaze me how over the years I continually run across parents who pawn off their parenting responsibilities. It's not THEIR fault their kids are shitheels, it's TV, it's video games, it's bad school/teachers. Pass the buck right?

    I actually had someone tell me about their daughter who is 15 and is going to be in the 8th grade again.... because she won't go to school.

    ?????????

    Won't? Am I the only one who realizes PARENTS are the boss? WTF is with kids running their parents?

    Argh. See, it isn't just you kidless folks who get tired of the crap.



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    No apologies necessary, Susan.

    I myself am childless. That is, I'd like to have children. It makes me really sad to think that I might miss the opportunity to be a parent.

    OTOH, I've been very closely involved with some of the children in my circle of family and friends. I've also taught preschool, tutored kids in grades K-12, and worked as a caregiver for children with various developmental disabilities (autism, cerebral palsy, MR, ADHD, etc.)

    Though I haven't experienced it myself, I think most of the parents on this board would agree that parenthood is infinitely more difficult and more wonderful than you can ever imagine before you have children.

    I'm sorry, but it makes me furious when people who don't have a clue what it takes to be a parent feel entitled to judge other people's parenting skills--often based on an encounter that lasts a few moments. Most parents are really doing the best they can, and there's no such thing as a perfect parent or a perfect child. I really think the old exhortation to walk a mile in someone's shoes before judging or condemning them applies in the case of parenting more than anything else.

    Also, while I agree that ADHD is overdiagnosed, I do believe that it is a real diagnosis with a distinct neurochemical profile. I believe there are environmental factors that are leading to the increased incidence of ADHD, autism and other developmental disabilities. Parents of children with these disabilities face incredibly difficult challenges, and they really don't need ignorant folks judging their kids and their parenting abilities during a harried half-hour trip to the grocery store when the whole family is struggling 24 hours a day just to deal with the disability as best they can.
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    Quote Originally Posted by hardkandee
    Oh that doesn't end in childhood. I can give you lists of hundreds of names of kids who try to pull that at my university. Once they play the "I've got a learning disability/ADD" card, they get someone else to take their notes and double time to take tests.
    HK, do you just believe that learning disabilities don't exist?

    I have an ADHD diagnosis, but I've decided not to ask for accomodations at school because of attitudes like yours.

    If you do have a diagnosis of LD/ADHD, you're only supposed to ask for what you need. For instance, I'd never ask for help with notetaking, because I take pretty good notes, but I've always had trouble finishing exams on time, even when I know the material very well.

    Still, like I said, I've decided not to ask for extra time on tests (it's usually time-and-half, btw, not double time) because I know that there are so many people who think it's "cheating", and "nothing but an excuse."

    Mostly, the diagnosis just helped me to understand my behavior better. I don't think I've ever used it as an 'excuse.'

    Sorry, I know this is off-topic.....I just wanted to point out that there are people with these diagnoses who choose not to "play the LD/ADHD card." Likewise, I think there are parents who use their kid's diagnosis of LD or ADHD or high-functioning autism to help the child rather than to 'excuse' their child's 'bad' behavior.

    (See post above for more on-topic comments....)
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