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    I never had a problem in the year I've been dancing, even guys that would try not stick to my boundries I could usually scold back into line appropriately. I now totally understand how some of you girls were in so much shock when sexually harassed by a customer, and I retract any of my hardassed comments from before.

    This slightly drunk guy bought my most expensive show, and as soon as we got in the room he starts trying to kiss me and grab my crotch. I still had control of the situation and pushed him away while explaining all the rules. I tried to finish the dance, but he just kept trying to grab me. He then pulled out his cock and actually touched my butt cheek with it, and I freaked and told him to get himself off. I stalked out, curtain closed, with him yelling after me to come back.

    I should have gotten a manager to throw him out immediately, but I was in such shock that I bolted straight to the dressing room. I told a couple of girls I was frazzled since I just had to walk out on a show but nothing else. I just sat there for fifteen minutes drinking water before I felt confident enough to go back down and face the customers and possibly that guy. I ran into one of his friends and the guy starts yelling loudly that I said I would have sex with him and didn't - where is his money? I stood my ground, told him I would never promised sex, and would he like to take it up with my manager? He obviously didn't want to be kicked out and was all like, just keep my money.

    I was about to get my manager, but another customer came up and politely grabbed my waist, asking for a show. He felt he was saving me and mentioned that the guy had been trying to start fights with the other customers. About forty minutes after this happened, I finally spoke to my manager about it, and the party the guy was with was leaving anyway. Their bachelor apologized for the guy but was still asking for the money back. I thanked him for his respect but told him to take it up with the manager. Asshole tax, as far as I'm concerned, since he violated me and deserved what he got.

    I was just so grateful the club was so supportive. My manager told me that next time I should grab him immediately so it could be taken care of. Thanks for reading my rant ::hugs:::
    ...and the day came, when the risk it took to remain closed in a bud became worse than the risk it took to blossom.

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    Default Re: I had to walk out during a private dance

    I had something like this happen to me in the Champagne Lounge at my club. It's not fun...but there is no reason that you should have EVER let this guy get away with it. In my case, I told the CL host...who was told by the manager on duty that he couldn't be kicked out because he was "very close friends with the owner."

    But, at least you know your club supports you...and that is always good. Congratulations for walking out and standing your ground about the money. Next time, beeline straight for a bouncer/manager.

    Sorry this happened...but I'm glad you handled it so well.

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    Oh, sweetie, I'm sorry this had to happen to you. Just don't dwell on it and let it freak you out.


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    I've gotten so jaded with this sort of behavior from men. So tired of going home feeling like shit over it. Next time someone pulls their dick out, stop what you're doing and point blank say, "Put it away. Do it again, I'm pulling the fucker off." It's amazing to me, when this happens, they normally buy another dance.
    It's awesome your club supported you. I hope they continue doing it. But, if they're not around, and you have to fend for yourself, always remember you have the upper hand. No person in their right mind is going to say to the cops, "And, then, I pulled my dick out. And, she kicked me in the nuts! I mean, she wouldn't have sex with me for my $."

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    I've had this happen in a champagne room in Florida. Except I was a little wasted and the guy pulled my shorts to the side and was trying to get it in. Oh I sobered up real quick and got myself out of there. When I went to the manager, she actually told me it was my fault 'cause I was drunk and sending off a wrong message. Be glad you have a club that stands behind you 'cause it sucks when you are treated like a whore.

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    this happened to me the first night i worked nude. I was initially so taken aback that it took a second for the situation to register - I just stood there staring. Then, when I snapped back, I sort of tilted my head and squinted my eyes and leaned in like I needed a closer look to see what it was, and simply said "that's IT??"

    I proceeded to walk out - I had, of course, got the assholes money upfront.

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    Default Re: I had to walk out during a private dance

    Quote Originally Posted by Underestimated
    I've gotten so jaded with this sort of behavior from
    men. So tired of going home feeling like shit over it. Next time someone pulls their dick out, stop what you're doing and point blank say, "Put it away. Do it again, I'm pulling the fucker off." It's amazing to me, when this happens, they normally buy another dance.
    It's awesome your club supported you. I hope they continue doing it. But, if they're not around, and you have to fend for yourself, always remember you have the upper hand. No person in their right mind is going to say to the cops, "And, then, I pulled my dick out. And, she kicked me in the nuts! I mean, she wouldn't have sex with me for my $."


    Great advice !

    Gerina,
    I also want to say sorry this happened to you. Just be prepared that it might happen again. If/when it does you'll be more equiped to handle the situation.
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    Keep your head up girl! After being in this businnes for any amount of time it will happen. Think about it and "if" it happens again you will be prepared better.

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    Well, after a good night’s rest, it isn’t bothering me too much anymore – no major trauma I think what really had me frazzled was that I hadn’t done anything about it immediately. Well, that, and a customer had managed to touch me with his bare cock – ew!

    It wasn’t the first time I let a customer get the better of me. When I first started dancing, a customer ripped me off $20 for a dance (it was his third one, so I said he could pay afterward), and he was all like, “What are you going to do about it?”. I did nothing. I later learned that the club would have kicked him out and given me $20 from the “asshole fund”.

    Last night, I was just really mad at myself for being in too much shock to react.
    ...and the day came, when the risk it took to remain closed in a bud became worse than the risk it took to blossom.

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    I am very sorry this happened to you, hon. I live and work in Memphis and we are very infamous for our "risque" lap dances, so of course there is a lot guys who push it, to say the least. I have been dancing for two years and I would say I have had about 50 guys stick their hands where they don't belong, about ten pull out their "item," been bitten three times, had a $1500 ring tried to be ripped off my finger, and about 10 guys try to lick my pussy and when I mean try to lick my pussy, I mean me being nude on stage and a customer trying to go muff diving. And before anyone even starts, I work in very upscale club that is rated #3 in the country. If anyone does anything like that to you ever again (I assume you get your money up front) stop the dance, go directly to security or a manager (in my personal experience security usually works better than a manager in these situations, they have been sitting around doing nothing all night bored so to them what is more fun then dragging some guy out by his nuts and tossing him out head first through the back door?) and let them handle it. If a guy trys to touch me downstairs, I usually give one FIRM warning, and after that that's it. And that is only sometimes, if a guy sticks his hand under my thong it's over and he is gone. If a manager ever tells you to give back money to a customer because you won't finish a dance because the guy did something inappropriate then I would tell him to go screw himself, clean out your locker, and get out of there.

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    Touch wood I've never experienced anything like this and so sorry you had too! Like everyone has said - at least next time you'll be more equipped to deal with it.

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    I've always been in control of a situation even when the guy was out of control...but once, I got totally tricked by this guy who insisted all he wanted was a nice slow grind without touching me at all. After each song we put a token in so break contact. Well when I sat back down on his lap I felt something warm down there and the motherfucker had taken it out. I actually made contact with my pussy because it's a fully nude dance and I was so in shock, disgust, rage, that I was beside myself and couldn't speak for a few seconds. Then I found myself uncontrollably punching the shit out of him. He didn't hit me back and my manager didn't send me home either. Unfortunately, they do little to protect us at this club. Never will this happen again though because now I check with every guy.

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    It is regrettable, but one of the first things you learn in this line of buisiness is that most men are like butterflies, with ego and self-image to match. Once their self-image is ever so slightly tainted, they scream bloody murder.
    Personal experiences aside, some of the butterflies, I have met, needs stomping!

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    I can % empathise. Unfortunately, in the nearly 4 years I've been in business.... I've only had a guy pull out his "item" on me twice. The first time I got re-dressed so quickly I surprised myself at how fast I was able to do that! I can laugh about it now however at the time I asked to go home early as it really f--ked with me. I was in tears and physically dry wretching (never vomitted... just that the incident replay-ed over in my head I would react that way).

    Anyway.. the second time.. this bastard managed to gain my trust. The previous two privates he had with me.. he just massaged me and massaged me well (he used to be a massuese so he knew what he was doing and I could tell)... anyway.. the third private dance... he starts to massage me with just one hand.. then I feel this something on my butt cheek (I still had my G on at that point).

    I was in shock plain and simple. I didn't react for a few minutes... then I got up and started to get re-dressed.

    Just like last time.. no amount of money in the world would get me to continue! (Yeah the first time guy I mentioned was "throwing" more money at me to let me allow him to have his dick out and play with it whilst I danced away from him).

    It ALWAYS catches me by surprise. Why? These are two incidents out of the prolly near hundreds of private dances I've done in all my time as a dancer.


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