Paige, to domme by webcam you need to understand the following about Domination.
1. All successful domination is psycho drama [i.e. Your getting in someones head to reenact a past trauma the sub need's in order to feel loved].
2. You must know how to use infliction with your voice in order give orders and show interest in the activity. A Domme that just goes through the motions without showing interest, just bores the sub to death and loses possible repeat buissness from that Sub.
3. Never treat a sub like a number (ATM with a Pulse). Sub's catch on quick to that and will drop you once they realize, you don't care at all and they are just a number to you.
4. Make the Sub feel wanted/needed by your act's of degradation and humiliation--that is what he is there for, that is what he needs, that is why you must appriecieate him. If the Sub doesn't feel apprecieated by his Domme, he will go elsewhere.
5. Keep doing #4 well and you'll have major repeat customers for a longtime.
6. A session is only as good as a Sub, if the sub doesn't want to interact (i.e. he just sits there and listens without feed back) the session will never be good.
Now to learn Domination.
I suggest subsrcibing to
www.whippedass.com, and
www.meninpain.com and watching Chanta Rose, Audrey Leigh, Mika Tan, Dragon Lilly, Jazmine Byrne, and Harmony topping their sub's. They all have different styles, pick out what you like from each of them and make it work for you.
2. Alway's have a Do/Don't list ready for a Sub to give input before a session along with the Green, Yellow , Red safe word system in place.
3. Work with the sub's do list and make his fantasy come true, while making him work for it.
4. Alway's make the Sub ask/beg for permission to cum, touch, or touch himself and deny him at least once until he begs for it.
5. Anytime a sub violates an order you've given him, makes a mistake, or does anything you don't want him to do, with /without asking for your permission first to do it. Punish him immeadeltely and without hesitation, and tell him why he is being punished . This will show the sub who's in control and will endear him to you for life as a customer.
6. Ask the Sub if he has anything lying around the house to hit, or put in himself for punishment and make him use it while putting the phone close so you can hear it.
Hope this helps and have fun....
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