I went to one of those Girls Gone Wild on tour things a while back. The dancers were from a local strip so I wnet over afterward. I went back a few weeks later for amateur night and met a stripper I really liked. (Pros are on stage before and after amateurs.) I came back mostly as her regular, though it's not like I was exclusive.
I came to check out male amateur night once and met another dancer I also took a liking to (at the this point, female pros worked day shift on male amateur night). She suggested I compete. I started doing so the next month and just did my third last week. I'd love to go pro, but pro opportunities for males are rather limited here plus I'm not very good.
I do seem to have endeared myself to the staff. Last time I was there, the general manager gave me three free admission passes and put me in the VIP section free.
My concern is that I mainly want to make friends with the dancers. This isn't to say I want to go out with them. With one exception (more on that later), I really don't. I just greatly enjoy hanging out with them and want to make their jobs as pleasant as possible. I very much want to be the ideal customer. Unfortunately, I really can't be the ideal customer as I'm far from wealthy. I make about $30K a year. I really can't drop more than $100 a trip or so. I very much don't want to be the customer they complain about in the dressing room.
Here's what I do so far:
Always try to be reasonably clean. I generally come straight over from work, so there's no chance to take a shower, but I work a desk job, so I'm generally still good.
Brush my teeth. One of the other customers made fun of me for this once when I did it in the club. I think it's basic courtesy.
Dress presentably. I see lots of guys in there in t-shirts that are dirty, sweat-stained, stretched or otherwise gross. I generally wear my business casual work clothes.
Courtesy. This is strict observance of no touch, getting out of the way when needed, getting someone's attention by methods other than finger-snapping, etc.
If I want to chat with someone, I try to catch her when it's not very busy so as not to cut into her income.
If I enjoy speaking with someone, I'll buy a dance.
If someone is on stage and no one is tipping, I'll try to get things going. I don't mind tipping fully clothed women.
I will try to say complimentary things to all the dancers, (more than nice ass), but not take up much time unless buying.
I especially like women who enjoy talking about themsleves including discussing their personal lives. I don't pry into their real names, other jobs, etc. I'm more interested in their motivations and feelings. If they ask me personal questions, that's also good.
I'm in Cedar Rapids, IA. This isn't exactly a small-town, but it's far from Vegas. So while you don't see anyone dropping $10,000 (at least, not making a show of it), I see plenty of people go in the private dance area and not emerge until 4 songs later.
Is there anything else I can do here short of making more money? Am I misunderstanding the purpose of stripclubs? Is my behavior unusual?
My other related problem is I seem to be falling for one of the dancers. She's the one who initally got me doing male amateur night. I think she may share my affection. She doesn't strike me as a good hustler. In fact, I heard the manager saying as much to someone else. She'll come and sit with me even knowing I'm out of money, etc. An OTC friend of hers who's also a regular has told me she talks about me OTC. Even if she does like me, asking her out would put her in an awkward position, which is the last thing I want to do. I made my feelings as clear as I could without coming across as the pathetic man who comes in to hit on the strippers. I didn't come looking for a girlfriend, though I was hoping to get to know some dancers OTC and was really caught off guard when I started feeling this way. Do you have any advice here? I realize that unless Nikki reads this you don't know the people involved, which makes it difficult/impossible to judge the situation.



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