Once a WEEK!Originally Posted by WestTXHottie
Once a WEEK!Originally Posted by WestTXHottie
Wow, you guys really railed on dlabtot. There is nothing wrong with what you are feeling.
But remember, just say no if she asks you to go shopping, or for a car, or something like that...
"Have you ever been to American wedding? Where is the vodka, where's marinated herring?" - GB
"And do the cats give a shit? No, they do not. Why? Because they're cats."-from The Onion
Originally Posted by Mia M
Or for dental work!Originally Posted by Katrine
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How's that any different than any other male-female relationship?Originally Posted by screaminpeachez
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"He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"





You guys are pretty cool.... it's all good, I'll work it out; made it through the rapids upright today (yeah!), got an invite to audition for a new band (double yeah!)... life is good... I'll keep you updated....
What do you play labtot? I'm a percussionist.
I can identify myself with your point Lab, and its the human side of a shady business that sometimes leads these girls to a worse place. I detest some of the guys comments here that look at dancers like a Texas rancher looks at cattle.....dollars for meat.
Lab brought a good point here......some of the dancers are really good girls that look forward to a normal life with somebody, its not going to be flesh and money all the time!?
Maybe you were putting too much affection into that girl alone, should have kept her at a distance for some time. A good partner will come at you and will identify with your personality, it will just click. I go to SC and treat all the females, dancers and servers with respect and give them a pat on the back encouraging them to go forward with their lives. Some of them are realy positive and you can identify with them, others have problems, deep mental problems.
Keep trying Tot and you'll find a fine girl within the group, It takes time and perseverance.
It's TOO BAD SHE'LL won't LAST, BUT then again WHO DOES!?




Originally Posted by Silverback
Actually it's any relationship male, female or whatever.
We see whatever we want to see.
And we alone are responsible
"may your work like you don't need the money, love like you've never been hurt, dance like no-one is watching, screw like your being filmed and drink like a true Irishman "--anonymous
"GOD is LOVE, but get it in writing"- Gypsy Rose Lee
http://www.myspace.com/screaminpeachez





Yep, that's the point. So, if a guy wants to think a stripper is his friend/girlfriend how is that any different than a guy who thinks any girl/woman is his friend/girlfriend/wife when the relationship may be based on little more than his ability to provide shinning baubles, a nice house, a car, sense of status, business advatage, or other image fulfillment. (and, of course, whatever the reverse expectations are). Life without delusions is a very bleak place. Be very careful when staring into that abyss or suggesting a peek to someone else.Originally Posted by screaminpeachez
"He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"





If someone wants to believe that I'm deluded, or projecting or whatever, it doesn't really bother me... what I do find funny though, is the contradiction inherent in believing that 'we see whatever we want to see' in people as an absolute, and also believing that you can say something insightful to someone about their situation or feelings when all you know about them is a few anonymous postings they made on an internet message board.![]()





world's full of ironies, huh?![]()
"He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"





and the answer is ... no, she hasn't ruined anything.... all she done is help open me up, my eyes, my mind, my heart... I'm just happy I met one of the coolest people I've ever met in my life....whatever we can both get out of it is great...
For those who want more details, a different girl called me up today and enticed me to stop by the club, someone else who I just met recently... I had a great time... she's another one in a million if you ask me... when or if the other girl makes it back, I'll deal, and I have a feeling I'll have a great time doing so...
I went through the whole long (19-year) marriage, divorce, mistrust syndrome. And then I eventually found the one in a million, who was my ATF, and plunged into a long 4-year club with 2 years OTC during that. And then she dropped the big one and said "I love you" and implied she wanted to make a go of it. What I got was far from the truth. I told her during the relationship, "..if you don't intend make this real, I'll just go back to the clubs". She didn't. That is what I did.
The total damage was incalculable. Outside of the cost for the things that I bought for her, which was considerable, my newly gained trust for the opposite sex was also in the balance. I'm afraid that bit the dust too. You see, I had at the time always believed that if she ever said I love you, she would mean it. Oh yeah, I did the dental work thing too.
This little spot on the web helps you to find out, among other things, that the games can go way beyond some cruddy little deception in the club. After that experience, I found this place, where I found many who had experienced the same things I had.
SCs are a place to have female interaction, however un-real. And it may even boost your desire to be with one again, which is what I was using it for in the beginning. But that is all. Now it is an addiction.
One of the biggest down-sides is, that you are looking at girls who would be way out of your league IRL and if you met them in a bar, they would probably instantaneously blow you away. In other words, what dance can do to you is cause you to look at girls outside the club that you should probably not even be looking at.
Well, I've reached the rambling point, so...
>>>Sad<<<
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Sad, I hope you at least got to fuck her in the ass for all your troubles...
dl...I don't think you are deluded, and I'm VERY skeptical.....but keep ears/eyes open.....
"Have you ever been to American wedding? Where is the vodka, where's marinated herring?" - GB
"And do the cats give a shit? No, they do not. Why? Because they're cats."-from The Onion
Originally Posted by Mia M
dlabtot, i went thru a similiar point in my life also... from the female stripper side of things!...
i was fresh out of a 7yr "house and car relationship" gone bad... i was bitter, cold, and dead inside. my brain did not even comprehend love or infatuation. i had no hope for the human race. everyone was an illusion to be played, either by consent or by innocence...
then i met this guy... OMG!... and i knew he was a womanizing snake... i knew he was a career player... he had a lifelong reputation in 3 cities, literally!... and i FELL HARD!!!
i knew from the beginning that he would break my heart... my friends tried to step in... my boss warned me... but i knew anyway, i just wanted to enjoy it while it lasted... i knew it would end ugly... and it did....
six months later, after dinners and holidays with his family, after camping trips with the kids, etc... he did it... over the phone... UGH!... my friends kept 24hr watch over me for about a week...
the POINT IS: i will always "love" him because he taught me that I STILL HAD A HEART!!!!... that i COULD love again someday... and he taught me what i was looking for too... and for that, i will always be indebted to him...
that was 3yrs ago...he stops by sometimes, we see each other around town.... i feel NONE of those old feelings for him... but we laugh and get along great as friends...
dlabtot, she showed you that YOU STILL HAVE A HEART.... now her job is done... go out and find a "real girlfriend" to share it with...





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Katrine - you're sceptical... of what? What did I say that you are sceptical of?
sad honey:
first of all, it IS possible that she really did love you and that you really did have a legitimate relationship with her.... we strippers ARE capable of that ya know!.... it could very well be that after 2yrs of serious dating, the r-ship had run its course and she wanted to move on... that happens all the time IRL too!... being a stripper has nothing to do with it....I went through the whole long (19-year) marriage, divorce, mistrust syndrome. And then I eventually found the one in a million, who was my ATF, and plunged into a long 4-year club with 2 years OTC during that. And then she dropped the big one and said "I love you" and implied she wanted to make a go of it. What I got was far from the truth. I told her during the relationship, "..if you don't intend make this real, I'll just go back to the clubs". She didn't. That is what I did.
secondly, if you two were seriously dating OTC... like spending all your time together as a couple... the r-ship HAD to be real, because nobody can keep up a hustle 24/7 like that!... if she had been playing you, you would still be fixing her teeth... hon, she really DID love you... she just fell out of love and let you go...
third, dont bitch about the money and what you did for her.... thats what you do for people you care about, no matter how it ends... in most species, the male of the species takes care of the female, its universal law... and you willingly WANTED to do all those things for her.... cut your losses and let it go... the only person blaming you is yourself.... you didnt do anything wrong.... you took care of the person you loved...




Interesting Silverback....Originally Posted by Silverback
I suppose you are right.
I always have to look behind the Curtain though!
I mean that after all is Life.
If one wants to be deluded there is little anyone can do to stop them...
"may your work like you don't need the money, love like you've never been hurt, dance like no-one is watching, screw like your being filmed and drink like a true Irishman "--anonymous
"GOD is LOVE, but get it in writing"- Gypsy Rose Lee
http://www.myspace.com/screaminpeachez





yeah, but according to you, when you look behind the CurtainOriginally Posted by screaminpeachez
Unless you think this is something that applies to everyone else but not to you...Originally Posted by screaminpeachez
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Ok, I didn't understand the first part...Originally Posted by dlabtot
my reply to the second,
is that it does apply that's how I've come to feel the way I feel about confronting issues.
I'm not saying that You haven't confronted them...
Because, obviously I had no idea if you had or not.
I was simply making a statement about how, as an outside party, we see people who are lying to themselves.
We, as outside parties, can do little about that.
I'm sure other people have viewed me that way...
I appreciate a wake-up call.
I was just thinking out loud.
don't take that personally![]()
"may your work like you don't need the money, love like you've never been hurt, dance like no-one is watching, screw like your being filmed and drink like a true Irishman "--anonymous
"GOD is LOVE, but get it in writing"- Gypsy Rose Lee
http://www.myspace.com/screaminpeachez





Then:
Now:Originally Posted by dlabtot
Well which is it? You’re asking for comments and then you’re telling us that we have no business making comments. Duuuude, you can't have it both ways. Obviously we don't know you and you don't know us. We are not judging you (well, at least I'm not). We are commenting on your situation based on our experiences. That's pretty much the way a chat board works...at least this one.Originally Posted by dlabtot
By the way, you never said that Kat was skeptical. That was her choice of words in describing herself (skeptical and HOT, I might add). You are taking things way too personally here. Every comment of every post is not all about you.![]()





I am? really? gee I missed the post where I told anyone that... could you please point it out to me?Originally Posted by yoda57us
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Yeah, she said she was sceptical, and I asked her what it was she's sceptical about... so? If you are going to try to nitpick you should at least read more carefully so your attempted criticisms make some kind of sense.By the way, you never said that Kat was skeptical. That was her choice of words in describing herself
I am? please, go on, tell us more about what I'm feelingYou are taking things way too personally here.![]()





.Originally Posted by dlabtot
look familiar?
BTW, I'm not telling you what you are feeling, I'm telling you what I'm thinking. Again, that's what chat boards are for.





Yeah, that's what I said.
Again, she said she's sceptical, I'm asking her what she is sceptical of? What is the object of her scepticism?
Are you REALLY not understanding this? It's simple English...
don't drop to insults its not cool
People are not ruled by their memories.





Are you addressing me? The other poster is persisting in misunderstanding what to me seems like a simple English sentence. I don't even really understand wtf he's talking about. Someone said they were sceptical and I said 'of what'? So why is he quoting that as if it's some kind of a 'gotcha'?Maybe you could explain what point you think he is making.
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