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    I can't, will not, refuse to dance for Mexicans who can't speak English anymore. Fucking asshole tried to actually rape me in the lapdance room. I couldn't even scream I was so scared. I was crying and shaking and had to go home early. I was at my record for dances too, I almost beat it. But I just got so scared. I don't know what happened. He wouldn't let go. He just wouldn't and I couldn't get him to go away. He kept grabbing me and he shoved his finger in me and it hurt really bad. The bouncers told me I should have just kneed him in the groun the first time he tried something but he grabbed me so tight I couldn't get away.

    I feel so violated... and disgusted.

    Has this happened to anyone else?

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    Default Re: A custy tried to rape me! :(

    He didn't try to rape you... he DID rape you. I hope something happened to him.

    I'm so sorry this happened to you. :-(

    Next time go for the eyes, hair or ears. Kick the shins maybe and learn spanish for stop... "parada"?
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    Oh, honey, I'm so sorry...

    This happened to a colleague of mine, too. It's horrible.

    Were the bouncers understanding and helpful? What do you mean they told you you 'should have' done this or that? If it's what it sounds like, they are ignorant ASSHOLES.

    Do you know if he used his CC in the club? Maybe you can press charges (if you want to).

    I'm so, so sorry.

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    I'm so sorry that happened to you! My bf has a friend that used to dance and she quit because she got sick of guys trying to stick their fingers in her pussy and nobody coming to help when she screamed. I'm not sure which club it was but that is pretty scary to me. I can understand how you'd be so freaked out you'd be scared to defend yourself and not see it happening until it's too late.

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    No wonder guys have a hard time dealing with their SO being a dancer.... I'd want to track that guy down if you came home and told me that story...

    Seems like a woman's self-defense class would be a good investment for a dancer...

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    My bouncers were really good about the whole thing and apparantly punched the man in the face and kicked him out of club so hard he landed on his head! O_O The DJ (which is also one of the bouncers) held me and told me all the things I should do next time that happens. Like scream and kick and kill the mother fucker like the asshole he was.

    Was is rape if he only got his tongue and finger in me? Isn't that more of molestation. He fucking grabbed me and stuck his tongue in my pussy and I tried to pull away and he wouldn't let go!

    I was crying when he handed me $100 for the two dances. I felt so dirty, like I was being paid to be a whore and I'm not!

    I'm going to be looking around for self-defense classes in my area.

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    This is so sick! I feel bad that you even had to go through this. Please take some kind of self-defense class .... something like that will help you feel 'in control' enough to go back to work and be confident. I would think that it was rape, but I think laws vary by area. It is sickening though. I hope you are OK. What a sick f*ck

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    Yes, it's rape. Rape is oral/vaginal/anal penetration of any kind. Since he did it forcibly there may be some bruising etc...maybe you could get it checked out, just in case you decide to do something about it? And of course even if there isn't any physical evidence, doesn't mean that the authorities won't believe you.

    I'm glad the bouncers were good and helped you- that's so important.
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    Yup, it's sexual assault here in PR as per the new Penal Code. It's digital penetration.



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    Wow, I'm pretty used to that type of behavior. Its not a glamorous industry to be in, like many of the whippersnappers think. I hope you never do get used to that, like I have.

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    And customers wonder why clubs have bouncers patrolling the lapdance areas THIS is exactly why we need them! I don't care what kind of industry this is, THIS crap shouldn't be happening!

    I'm really really sorry this happened to you.

    And yes, as far as I know, in most places in the US that would be considered rape legally.

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    I count my blessings that THIS sort of situation hasn't happened to me however I have been in situations where I felt violated ... many times.

    One reason I can't go back to one of the clubs here on the Gold Coast to work in ever again is 'coz I'll be reminded of a horrible incident where a guy overpowered me.... and I was in such a state of shock.. that all I did was go limp, not scream.. not draw someone's attention to the a-hole... just go limp... I felt powerless.

    Unfortunately, this is the big HUGE downside of the industry. Learning self-defense is a start. Then bury the memory of this deep down in the dark recesses of your mind.. if you want to continue in this business.

    I can empathise to a certain extent. Know that there are real people behind these SW aliases that do care.... take some time off and pamper yourself ...

    I personally wouldn't be able to go back to the club.. I'd switch clubs. Being in that club (for me) would be too traumatic.


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    I feel terrible this happened to you. Keep in mind in Mexico, strippers ARE hookers, there's no dividing line like in the US. So "border brothers" expect more.

    Ladies, in this situation, eye gouging works....if you are unable to kick or bite. I promise you you won't feel bad about it.

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    This is the kind of sh*t that makes my blood boil.That's the problem with men from third world and/or foreign countries.Women are second class citizens there and God forbid you do this for a living according to them.I am very sorry this happened to you.I hope you will feel better soon.

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    I hate people like this! I wish you would have kicked him in the nutz! Mexicans who can't speak english should not be allowed to go anywhere with out someone who can.
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    Quote Originally Posted by big_daddy
    I hate people like this! I wish you would have kicked him in the nutz! Mexicans who can't speak english should not be allowed to go anywhere with out someone who can.
    WTF? Let's not use this girl's misfortune as your political soapbox....

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    I would have definately given him numerous hard kicks to the balls, to get him off of me and as a deterrent to repeating this with other girls. I've done it before with very nice results. What have other girls found to be effective?. Could be a helpful topic.

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    I am so sorry to hear about this situation, and I hope you find a way to deal with it that helps you heal.

    I have danced for many many Mexicans who couldn't speak English and never had this happen--but in Texas we are doing our dances out on the floor. Private booths put you in jeopardy. Period.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    WTF? Let's not use this girl's misfortune as your political soapbox....
    Has nothing to do with a political view! I work with them, live next to them, and shop around them! When you can't go next door and tell them that their kids are steeling the golf courses golf balls and throwing them in your yard, because they don't speak English, is more what I had in mind!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    I feel terrible this happened to you. Keep in mind in Mexico, strippers ARE hookers, there's no dividing line like in the US. So "border brothers" expect more.
    This isn't Mexico or any other Third World country. If they cannot learn/follow our laws, then they should not be here. Period.

    Honey, you should contact a Rape Crisis Center. They have more information than they know what to do with. They would be able to help you find someone who'll listen to your story and help you do what needs to be done.

    I'm sorry this happened to you.

    Take care of yourself.


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    ohhhh HELL NO!

    I WOULD HAVE decked him!

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    This is awful, you should never have to just "accept" that kind of behavior as a part of the job. Oh sweetie I hope that if you can find a way to prosecute this ignorant f*ck, you will. Hopefully one day you will be able to look back on this and know that it made you stronger, I dont know, I guess I always try to look for some kind of silver lining, it's difficult to see it here though. Ohhhhh, people are so messed up...

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    I have been in the same situation so I now how you must feel. I remember feeling guilty because I had a little too much to drink. You should definitely do what VG said, and go to or call a rape crisis center. You need a professional on this one. I am so sorry, and I'm glad the bouncers punched the creep in the face. I think every club should have a special weapon for situations like this, a big black ex-con named Pinky that likes to butt rape little men. That would stop the pervs from taking advantage of us.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    Was is rape if he only got his tongue and finger in me? Isn't that more of molestation. He fucking grabbed me and stuck his tongue in my pussy and I tried to pull away and he wouldn't let go!

    I was crying when he handed me $100 for the two dances. I felt so dirty, like I was being paid to be a whore and I'm not!
    Im very sorry this happens to many girls in this industry.As a man,its shamefull and im embarrassed for us everytime i hear about it.

    Im also sorry you reacted wrong,understandable,but wrong none the less.

    Im not a lawyer,but imo,the fact you didnt scream,didnt fight to the point of notice and then took the money just lost you any case you could have had against him.(maybe some of the lawyer types will chirp in here and help)(pro bono of course)

    As long as females are doing this,men will try to do this same thing.
    Females must have a well practiced,knee jerk reaction to this personal invasion.
    More and more VIP rooms come with doors now,entertainers MUST have a way of alerting the protection from this,standing only feet away.

    The door guys from your discription did only one thing wrong imo,they took your word for it,after the situation was over,they didnt see anything,they didnt hear anything.
    They assaulted a custie,bottom line,can you now say REAL LAWSUIT?!?!?!(bet that guy learns to speak perfect english when talking to his lawyer the next day)
    Not saying this is the case here,but you could have made the whole thing up because a custie offended you some other way.(like promised you the stars for something but only delivered 100 bucks)
    It happens every day!
    If what you say happened,they should have held him till the police got there,if this involves him tripping into doors a few times before they get there,KEWL!!!
    Then a report should have been filed by you.

    What that guy did was wrong,your reaction was wrong,the doorguys were wrong,and the club was wrong for having a rapist in its noose,and then letting him go.
    If you dont belive me,ask one of the lawyer types here.
    They will tell you that this guy stands NO chance of going to jail,he stands a better chance at a counter suit against the club and the doorguys.

    Im very sorry this happened to you and I hope a lesson is learned by you,the girls that were there working that night,and every entertainer reading this.

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    That makes me feel so bad for you and every girl that it has ever happened to. Unfortunately, some guys think girls are just things to fuck and have no respect for them and then when they're around dancers they just assume that it's ok to disrespect them. There is nothing disrespectful about dancing, we are making money with hard work! I have choked a mexican on stage in front of everyone and said horrible things to guys who say or try to touch me badly. In lap dance rooms I've walked out, I just don't deal with it. In no way was that your fault. Mexicans just can't realize we don't treat women like shit and beat the fuck out of them because they're women. I hate countries that are horrible to their women, thank god for living in the US for that reason. Take a couple days to chill out and if it would ever happen again, punch the person (for real) and tell them straight up how it is.

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