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    Hello,

    I was at the club working as usualy the other day and I ran into a customer that I had never seen before. He started going on about how beautiful I was and how he was looking for someone to have a "mutually benificial relationship" with. He said no sex, because he doesn't want to cheat on his wife, he just wants a pretty lady to show off at dinners and such, blah blah blah.

    What should I think of this guy? Number one, is it illegal to meet customers outside of a club even if its just for lunch if it is predefined by both parties that there will be NO sex?

    Please let me know
    Lilly

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    There is nothing illegal about meeting guys outside of any club. It's just horribly, terribly, disgustingly unsafe. What if he's lying and he just wants a girl to rape and leave in a ditch bleeding to death? Never trust customers. Ever. Men will say anything to get in your pants or hurt you. Manipulative men don't care what they have to say to get what they want. Don't do it. It's safer. Have him come to the club more and get to know him at the very very very very least.

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    One red flag that leapt out at me:

    "He said no sex, because he doesn't want to cheat on his wife, he just wants a pretty lady to show off at dinners and such"


    that doesn't make much sense to me... he's married but he "wants a pretty lady to show off at dinners and such"? it just doesn't add up...married guys usually don't want to show off the fact that they are with a pretty lady other than their wife. I wouldn't trust him if I were you.

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    Some men are that way. One clinet I knew in a club I labored at once invited me to his place where he had a guest house fulll of exercise equipment. All he wanted to do was watch me get sweaty. He made the same mostly identical comments. Told me to come back when he had more guests so they could observe me. I never went back.
    I still get scared thinking about it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    There is nothing illegal about meeting guys outside of any club.
    I must correct this...there are some states/counties in which it IS illegal to meet a customer outside of the club. In Cook County, IL...it is not only illegal to meet them OTC (you'll get a prostitution/intent to prostitute rap on your name) but it is also illegal to give/receive any phone numbers/emails, etc. It's all considered "intent" and if you are caught...you will not only be charged, but you will most likely be fired from the club.

    Know the rules/laws in your state/county before you do anything.

    Now...I would never advise anyone meeting any customer outside the club. Not only can it be dangerous...you're setting yourself up to become "personally" involved within their marital problems. Best to stay far, far away.

    If you DO decide to meet with someone OTC, make sure you have a set, agreed upon dollar amount for your time (no sex) and get paid IN CASH before you continue on your evening. Most men, when you throw a $$ amount at them for your time will walk away and never ask you again. They think they'll get a free date and what nots.

    Good luck.

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    Everything is great... Until his wife shows up on your doorstep. Not worth it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VenusGoddess
    I must correct this...there are some states/counties in which it IS illegal to meet a customer outside of the club. In Cook County, IL...it is not only illegal to meet them OTC (you'll get a prostitution/intent to prostitute rap on your name) but it is also illegal to give/receive any phone numbers/emails, etc. It's all considered "intent" and if you are caught...you will not only be charged, but you will most likely be fired from the club.
    How is this legal? Doesn't the constitution guarantee us the right to peaceably assemble? Haven't the courts held this means we can associate with who we wish? The idea I can hang out with employees of the record store I frequent, but not the strip club strikes as rather ugly predjudice.
    Not to mention the strongly sexist assumptions this law makes about both strip club customers and employees. I'm glad my childhood dream of living in Chicago fell through.

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    A lot of the laws surrounding strip clubs don't make sense. That's just how it is.

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    Law, schmlaw. Don't go. Why would you? If you need the money that badly you are in the wrong club or the wrong line of work.
    truth has a liberal bias

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    Yes, yes. No Sex. Until you get to his place. What happnes after that will be something altogether different. Dont event think about it.

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    Don't fall for it. He was hoping you saw "Pretty Woman".

    I have met a couple friends through club dancing, but this was an EXTREME exception- they were US military personnel, so I felt they were not as motivated to do anything bad to me (the military code of justice is harsher than civilian law, and plus any problems with a woman is a fast way to ruin a military career.) But that was my judgement call.
    IF you happen to go out with ANY man regardless of how you met him, you should bring a cell phone and call a third party right in front of him when you arrive. He NEEDS to know that other people know where you are, what you're doing, and who he is. Check his ID too, you should always do that. I don't care if it seems paranoid. Better safe than sorry.

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    I do meet a number of dancers OTC on a friendly basis, but this only happened after a period of time. They'd got to know me from chatting when we kept bumping into each other. By the time we met OTC we knew we'd get along well on a personal level and that the motivation was friendship - they were sure I was interested in them as a person, and not because I liked seeing them naked.

    Remember that 99% of the guys who you meet at work fantisise about dancers - they are not interested in you as a person, but in fulfilling their fantasies. I'll absolutely bet this is the case if he's asked you to meet him OTC the first time he's met you: what does he know about you as a person?

    I think your fellow dancers have posted any number of good reasons for not meeting this guy OTC.

    Phil.

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    I have one customer I meet OTC. I've known him for a very long time though, and we just go to dinner. It's the whole situation where he just wants to be seen with a pretty girl, plus he really likes my company and the conversations we have. I don't think you should go with this guy though, 'cause of the obvious reason, you don't know him.

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    Be Carful with this one because of entrapment, thats where the cops set it up and take you down when the deal goes through. It is illegal for the authorities to use this tactic in some places but then again I said some.

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