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    I am so confused and angry. I recently broke up w/ my boyfriend because he frequents strip clubs. i just started dancing like 3 months ago. He says that is selfish of me to dance and not allow him to go to other strip clubs. Is he right?? I can't help getting angry, after all I'm working. He says he doesn't go to get dances just drinks and that he likes the atmosphere. This makes me sick. I can't help being angry. Should I just chill out? Do any of you have this problem?

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    Default Re: Boyfriend going to strip clubs?

    hmmm...

    well, i can't say i would be happy about being in your situation.
    I see it both ways.

    But, if he's not getting dances I don't see the harm.

    how frequently does he go?
    does he go to your club?
    does he talk to the girls or just go to hang with his buddies?

    do you know any of the girls at the bar he goes to?

    I guess it all depends on the details...
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    Default Re: Boyfriend going to strip clubs?

    I see a big difference.You're there to make a living.He's there to have fun.HUGE difference.He sounds insecure and can't handle the fact that you dance.I wouldn't believe him if he says he doesn't get dances.You said you just broke up with him???Good riddance.
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    Thanks guys...He says he goes about twice a month. He usually goes alone and sees nothing wrong w/ it. He also just told me that if he does get lap dances, it's twice a year and he uses a towel (jeez great for the info!) Anyways since i started i know it's been hard for him to deal. He says it doesn't bother him that i dance but he throws it in my face at times. I know he cares about me but i also know he has a big commitment issue. He just started to want something serious after 5 years of seeing each other on and off.

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    I'm missing something here. Fill me in, if I don't have this right:

    You work in a strip club; you give dances for guys.

    He frequents strip clubs; he (conceivably) gets dances from girls.


    Explain again where the disconnect is? Or is this an example of faux professional indignation?
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    The difference is that I'm getting paid for it, it's a job and I wouldn't be doing it if it wasn't for the money. He's going for pleasure big difference, it's not that I'm ashamed of what I'm doing is just that i get really jealous, I can't help it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alicia0033
    He also just told me that if he does get lap dances, it's twice a year and he uses a towel (jeez great for the info!)
    no kidding!
    yucky!

    i'd be very upset!
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    he should only be allowed to go if you go with him, and leave when you say. Otherwise he shouldn't be looking at other women when he has you at home

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    I'm kind of with CO on this one. I know we are there to make money and they go to have fun, but I kind of have fun while I'm making money. To me, it's a double standard. Yet, not everybody's relationship is the same as someone elses.

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    Sorry, but if you believe this guy when he says he doesn't get dances i have a bridge to sell you...

    As fir the rest, it's a rant and i see things, um, a little differently from that rant, so i'll be gentle and just

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    Wow, my first post. Ok, here goes....

    I just spoke to my husband about this and he reminded me of an incident at my old club. We were doing a promo and my hubby was there. I didn't hit my hubby up for the promo because that's taking money out of our pocket. Next thing i know, i look over and my hubby (Who has a hard time saying no in general) is getting the promo from the friggin Shooters girl! THEN this bitch has the NERVE to look over her shoulder at me, as she was STRADDLING my husband... WINK at me and kiss him on the head! OHHHHHHHHH HELLLLL NO! You wanna talk about FURIOUS?! None of the Entertainers there would have EVER done that to me!

    Let's just say he never made that mistake again. So, after that short story here are my findings.... We are there to MAKE money. If you have a live in BF or husband or WHATEVER... you are making money for the BOTH of you. How DARE he go to a club, even if it IS yours and GIVE that HARD EARNED money to another entertainer! WTF?! Isn't that defeating the purpose? I remember my hubby once saying (Before he learned his limitations LOL) "I don't get it, women can go to "Chippendales" and they get to touch there but men can't go to SC's where you KNOW they aren't allowed to touch?". BAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAH! As If!

    SOME entertainers allow SOME form of touching. My husband would go berzerk if he suspected i let men touch me in ANY way shape or form.

    Enough said

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    he should only be allowed to go if you go with him, and leave when you say. Otherwise he shouldn't be looking at other women when he has you at home
    That is farcical in the extreme, particularly in light of what you girls face when it comes to attracting and keeping men that will accept your profession.

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    Good point CO, (to me at least). I can't believe I'm actually agreeing with a guy for once.

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    Quote Originally Posted by showgirlschloe
    I can't believe I'm actually agreeing with a guy for once.
    Chloe, you manhater!

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    Your better off without this dope. No guy with any brains tells his SO that he goes to strip clubs. ESPECIALLY if the SO is a dancer....
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    For some reason, I see no problem with my man going to a club as long as he's spending his own money and coming home to me. He's not cheating.

    Iunno, but that's just me. >_>

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    Quote Originally Posted by Madcap
    Chloe, you manhater!
    I have the best intentions though.

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    If you're OK working in a strip club as a dancer, you should be OK with guys getting dances.

    If you're OK with guys getting dances, you should be OK with YOUR guy getting dances.

    If it is OK that you're too jealous to let him enjoy that kind of entertainment, it should be OK for him to be too jealous to accept you providing that kind of entertainment.

    At least, that's how I see it; I don't think dancers who think their profession is distasteful but tolerable because of the money should be allowed to stay in the industry.

    ...and I say these things as a married man who goes to strip clubs a few times a year and gets lap dances with his wife's knowledge and acceptance.

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    I'm crying right now, i think i have pms too. I just hate it that he's the type who likes strip clubs. i don't mind working in them for the money, don't get me wrong. I just don't care for men who are strip club regulars. I feel so small right now. I know it's not me, i just hate that he rather lose me than compromise. I mean, is it that crucial? I'm so hurt right now. I can't take it. I'm a different person when i'm working, when i'm not i'd like to be w/ someone that wouldn't lust over dancers or other girls. Call me selfish, but i want a man to myself in every sense. I just talked to him today and it brought all this emotion out. He had asked me to come over for sex of course, i also know he was hoping we could talk again. But after he justified his strip club going, i just lost all desire. Now i'm here alone writing this and I'm so depressed! I don't want to do anything and my night is ruined :-( I hate men sometimes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alicia0033
    I'm crying right now, i think i have pms too. I just hate it that he's the type who likes strip clubs. i don't mind working in them for the money, don't get me wrong. I just don't care for men who are strip club regulars. I feel so small right now. I know it's not me, i just hate that he rather lose me than compromise. I mean, is it that crucial? I'm so hurt right now. I can't take it. I'm a different person when i'm working, when i'm not i'd like to be w/ someone that wouldn't lust over dancers or other girls. Call me selfish, but i want a man to myself in every sense. I just talked to him today and it brought all this emotion out. He had asked me to come over for sex of course, i also know he was hoping we could talk again. But after he justified his strip club going, i just lost all desire. Now i'm here alone writing this and I'm so depressed! I don't want to do anything and my night is ruined :-( I hate men sometimes.
    not to be harsh, but I think you should dump him, and find another job that does not involve regular dealings with people that you don't respect. (strip club regulars) ... it is hard to continually disrespect the people you interact with without ending up disrespecting yourself.
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    I'm sorry but I'm not the only one. Money makes a huge difference. It's not so much respect, i respect everyone. Even though I'm a dancer, I don't understand the man's mentality, especially if you have a woman at home. MOSTLY, i find three types of regulars at strip clubs: lonely men that can't hold relationships, sex addicts and commitment phobes. So, go figure. I just take advantage and make the best of it. Don't get me wrong, I do have fun at times and some men are amusing but it's the just the truth for me. I can't help being very hurt about my relationship failing because my bf thinks it's ok to be at strip clubs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alicia0033
    I am so confused and angry. I recently broke up w/ my boyfriend because he frequents strip clubs. i just started dancing like 3 months ago. He says that is selfish of me to dance and not allow him to go to other strip clubs. Is he right?? I can't help getting angry, after all I'm working. He says he doesn't go to get dances just drinks and that he likes the atmosphere. This makes me sick. I can't help being angry. Should I just chill out? Do any of you have this problem?
    Talk about two people throwing 2 x 4's into each other's eyes!

    BRB as I need a TOWEL to clean up the Dr. Pepper I just spirted through my nose reading this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alicia0033
    MOSTLY, i find three types of regulars at strip clubs: lonely men that can't hold relationships, sex addicts and commitment phobes.
    Is your BF a regular? I can see a chick having a problem with their guy being some dancers reg. I can totally understand that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alicia0033
    i find three types of regulars at strip clubs: lonely men that can't hold relationships, sex addicts and commitment phobes.
    I mostly agree, although none of those three conditions are necessarily permanent...certainly not the first one... if your bf is lonely, then there is a problem with your relationship, if is one of the others it's a different story.

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    About the three types, i know i'm generalizing and my now ex bf goes to strip clubs twice a month and has a membership to Cheetah so i would consider him a regular although it's not Cheetah all the time. Plus while we were together, he sorta took me for granted and the sex wasn't as great or frequent. I know, it doesn't make me feel any better. This sucks.

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