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    Default Ever just get sick of it all?

    I've been dancing for about a year and a half. At first I really loved it, and now Im sick and tired of it. I always told myself i didnt want to end up like one of those "bitter" stripper, but i kind of feel like that lately. I think I got really spoiled with all the money i used to make and when it was new and exciting. Now I think most of the men i talk to are low life's and not worthy of my time. Sometimes I'd rather sit in the corner than talk to anyone. Im not social with the other girls I work with now because i've been dicked over in the past and ironically, i dont trust "dancers" anymore.
    I cant understand why I suddenly feel this way. It really makes me mad that i feel like this. I dont even want to go back to work anymore. Im so frustrated. I thought i needed a change of pace, so I tried a differnt club, and that did'nt work.
    Has this ever happen to you guys? What did you do about it?
    Willlow.....(weeping willow that is)

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    Default Re: Ever just get sick of it all?

    Have you taken a break (i.e at least a week away from work) yet? I am at the same point you are, and am taking my first break in 2yrs, in about 1 1/2 wks. I know exactly what you are feeling, and it sucks. You can hit burn out really quickly. Despite what a lot of people think, dancing can be a very demanding job. So, try taking soem time for yourself, completely away from the club, sometimes thats the best thing you can do for yourself.

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    Willow,

    I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. And I'm going to tell you a quick story, because I think you should hear this.

    I started burning out, right when I met the love of my life, though I didn't know it at the time. I almost lost him, and I stopped making money altogether. Let me guess....You keep trying to push yourself, and you go into work trying to motivate yourself, and then you wind up sitting in the dressing room trying to hide, right? Been there, done that. A break HELPED, but it didn't CURE. You've figured out the ins/outs and pros/cons of dancing. You know what it is all about now, and there is no sugar coating for you anymore, like when you were new, am I right? When I hit this point, I took FOUR MONTHS off, and then came back as a WAITRESS at a DIFFERENT club, and I still couldn't get my zeal back. But don't worry...there's a GOOD point to this...

    So here comes my suggestion/diagnosis....... You're depressed. Plain and simple. I hope you have entertained that thought, and are willing to accept it, because it will make your life alot easier if you have. The business does that to SANE and DECENT people like us. Some girls are stronger than others, and can take a break and be good as new. But I wasn't one of those girls, and I'm o.k. with that. I think some of those girls wind up very bitter and jaded. What did I do? I started taking an antidepressant, and set a goal for myself. I needed something to invest my money into, so I didn't feel like I would be in "this god awful place" for forever. I needed to KNOW that my money was going to WORK for ME at some point. That made my time at the club more worthwhile. The result? I banked like never before, and I was HAPPY again. No BS. Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those people that likes to push pyschological treatment or drugs on people. I was a skeptic myself. And I REALLY did not want to me on "meds". But it is the best move I ever made. Alot of people, especially women, live on the edge of depression, because of naturally low levels of seratonin in thier brain. Then, when you mix that with a traumatic event, or a year and a half of DANCING, your seratonin levels take a skydive, and sometimes don't recover. It's all biological. It has nothing to do with personal will and personal strength. I had to learn that, so that I was not ashamed of taking anitdepressants.

    So I started taking a very LOW dose of Prozac. Each person reacts differently to different meds, so Prozac may not be for you, but there are plenty of them out there that you can try. My relationship improved TEN FOLD, I started banking at work, I didn't feel so antisocial anymore, and I felt MOTIVATED. I'm telling you, from personal experience, you sound depressed, and an antidepressant could change your LIFE. I'm not trying to be melodramatic, but what they say is true. Depression RUINS LIVES. Don't wait til you've hit bottom. Just go and get a generic version of Prozac, start taking a low dose, like 15 mg, and take a break from work. If you don't feel like a NEW person in six weeks, you can personally email me and BERATE me. I will accept your badgering with grace. I can't stress how important it is to recognize depression and treat it IMMEDIATELY. I wasted a year of my life being depressed, and I didn't even KNOW I was depressed. I was in denial. I kept blaming it on my job, which is easy to do when you are a dancer. And I'm sure your job can trigger/aggravate your depression, but your depression can be treated and cured WITHOUT quitting your job. And you can make money again.

    Antidepressants. Try it girl. It will help, it really will. I wish you the best of luck. I hope I was of some service. If you need to talk more, feel free to message me.


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    Vacation, vacation, vacation. Save some money specifically for taking time off of work. Sometimes it's nice to hang around in your apartment for a while. Going to an all inclusive resort for a week on only $500 is nice too. It's easy to get burnt out. Same conversation every night, same girls crying and screaming in the back, same music, etc. Sometimes when I get burnt out and can't take time off, I just use my time to amuse myself. Thinking, "I'm not really making money anyway, I'm just going to make up all sorts of inane shit to talk to people about." Make yourself laugh. Talk about your twin sister posing on the internet, and how your parents are mad it's you because she's in college and would never do it. Give simple honest answers. "What makes you wet?"... "A tall glass of water. Next question." Compliment people on dumb shit, "I like your shirt it looks just like your friend's." Dance to music that makes you laugh, odds are someone else will find it amusing as well. Mismatch your clothes, it's fun sometimes. Play a video game in the corner, it's amazing how many guys love gamer girls.
    Keep in mind you ARE an entertainer. If you can't entertain yourself, how can you entertain others? Make work fun for yourself. A 'fuck-all' attitude saves me more times than not. If you're busy sitting in the corner, you're not making money anyway. Might as well give yourself a good laugh.

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    You're burnt out. You need time off. No way around that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver
    You're burnt out. You need time off. No way around that.
    Sure sounds that way. I think the first 2 years (at least for me) are the hardest. You kinda get bored, the guys are all starting to look and act the same, you're just not happy. Once i got over that 2 year hump, things started loking up. My attitude changed, probably because i saved money, and knew i could make this job work, while building a nice account! I did NOT deal with any dancers in the club while working or off the whole time i danced, was better for me. No fuckin drama.

    I had to look more to the pros than the cons of dancing many times. Then as i bought cars, and dogs, expensive watches etc. i was locked in. So i made the best of it.

    I taught myself it's ONLY a job, and made it work. Now many years later, i am happy i did it, and got out!!!!

    Vacations are SO important! Burn out happens frequently to some of us.

    Good luck,

    Pamela.

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    Awwww...Willow...I'm sorry to hear that. It does sound like you are burnt out...work extra hard...make extra money and take some time off. The nice thing about dancing is that you can go back whenever you want...

    On another note...you switched clubs? Which club did you go to? If you don't want to post it, then PM me...

    Hugs...take some time out for yourself. Stripping really is a "dog eat dog" world.

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    Vacation time!

    I've been there.. many times so I can empathise in a certain way. Yes, it was a mild form of depression however I didn't require meds to get me out of it... just time away from my life. I went to Cairns ( http://www.cairnsinfo.com/ ) for a week. I splurged on a self-contained apartment for that week... and just enjoyed myself immensely.

    I removed myself completely from my life ... it worked.

    Another time I just couldn't afford time off nor could I travel interstate or even within my own state to another club... So I sat down. I realised that I was feeling depressed... my Goji juice helped somewhat there (something in it that makes you 'happy' after taking it) anyway... I realised that I was depressed due to not having any focus.

    I had lost sight of my plans, dreams, goals and so forth... both long and short term. The only way I knew to get myself out of my funk was to re-gain focus again.... first I decided to change my perspective on life (I'm not like this every day however I do this every so often so I don't loose focus)... I would "live in gratitude". I did this by just going over in my mind all the people and so forth in my life I'm grateful for... from my cat being alive, being able-bodied, having a working computer, the sun, etc etc etc.

    Realising that your life is good.. that it isn't "all bad" is a start. Once you staring "living in gratitude"... things will improve... it's just the way the Universe works.

    Re-gain your focus... whether that means a vacation.. or just re-training your mind... re-gain it... remember your big dreams.. what you are ulitmately doing all this for...


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    haha.. i feel your pain...

    Sadly, i feel the same way about other dancers lately.. (except a few) They seem not to be too reliable.. Oh well, no big deal..

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    I just took like a month off myself and it was very relaxing and helped me refocus. Its important to take time for yourself and get out of the club for a few weeks. Refresh, rewind and relax, the 3 re's.
    AmyLynne

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    The 3 Rs for me are:

    Refresh -- pamper yourself someway

    Review -- your plans, goals and dreams.. re-gain focus...

    Relax -- chill out!!




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    Yea, you are depressed. You don't need prozac, however. You need to find a more fulfilling career for you.

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    It happens to most every dancer at some point.

    As the others have suggested, consider taking a break or even another job for awhile.

    Maybe try just dancing a few times a month for additional income.

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    I've gone through burnout a few times during my years as a DJ.

    Yes, it happens to us, also.

    Last year, in early July, I was on edge and all the staff at the club knew it. Then I went away for Paradise Ride 2004 and came back feeling 100% better.

    Paradise Ride 2005 is coming just in time. Right now, I'm feeling the burnout and I'm ready to start decapitating a few of my coworkers and more than a few customers, as well.

    If I dont get away soon, I swear I'm going to explode and take a few people with me.

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    It can happen in any profession. I totally burned out on working in a cubicle as an accountant and I swear I'll shoot myself if I ever have to do that again.

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    yeah im burned out right now too. lasr saturday I just couldnt make myself go in to work and that was my last booking so I havent been in since. I told them I needed time off and didnt want to work more than two days a week and no weekends, because right now I'm also going to school for 20 hours a week, and its fucking summer, but they wouldnt accept that because I make them too much money. I'm not going to have only one night off a week, btwn school and work, so until they let me work when I want I won't go back and I don't really care because I know it will end up happening. I just want to work for another year and get out, I just don't know if I'll be able to...I dont know if maybe this is it right now, get out now or stay forever. I want to save 50gs and i can def do that in a year.

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    Dancing won't be so bad if the working environment was more reliable. That is, in terms of money. All through out my career, (last 4 and half years), always worked as free lance dancer in various clubs, bars, parties, etc. I guess it's the nature of this "profession". Always to be on the go, looking for work, going from one place to another.
    Within the last year, after nearly putting in almost 50 to 60 hours per week non stop for eight months, I was called to get up on stage. I could not do it.
    Yeah, I got cussed at, threatened (like what else ?) and I walked out sat on the curbs in my outfit and just cried. I guess I was approaching a breakdown.
    No, what is needed is a break, a vacation, whatever. And after that to get better perspective on what is more important. Money is always important, but not at the cost to your health. Everything in this world costs, but don't pay that price.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grinew127
    what is needed is a break, a vacation, whatever. And after that to get better perspective on what is more important. Money is always important, but not at the cost to your health. Everything in this world costs, but don't pay that price.
    So true. I danced for 5 & 1/2 years and I can honestly say my heart wasn't in it for the last 3 years. The money was fun, but ultimately I realized I wasn't comfortable with what I was doing and that was reflected in my income at work. It DRASTICALLY declined a few times, and when it did I took breaks, vacations, etc. If you plan on staying in the industry, I suggest a DW seminar. I highly recommend his course (I only took the teleconference) for several reasons: (1) it will change the way you work (2) it gave me a much more positive outlook (towards everything, not just dancing.)

    Like everyone else said, it would be a good idea for you to take as much time off as you can afford. You'll be able to recharge and when you go back to work there should be a significant difference in the way you feel. Good luck
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bunny
    It can happen in any profession. I totally burned out on working in a cubicle as an accountant and I swear I'll shoot myself if I ever have to do that again.
    My dentist burned out too. Entertainers are fortunate in that we can say, "F*ck it. I'm going on vacation."

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    I dunno if I agree with the prozac statement. If you feel depressed, see a doctor.. but, I think mainly, you sound more burned out than anything. Take a break.. a week or more..

    I, myself reached the final burn out stage last year.. try as I might I just could NOT get myself to be nice, to hustle, to dance,etc. I had a shitty attitude, I was just done. I was already finishing school, At the time I was engaged (married now. ) and I just was ready to be completely through with it all...


    I went back a few times between jobs.. and even then, I couldn't even muster enough positive energy.

    Do you have a plan? As in, if you are continually feeling this way, perhaps it is time for you to think about what you want to do career wise. If you don't, set a goal...

    Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon!

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    You guys are all so very sweet and helpful. I was totally burnt out. I think my biggest mistake was switching clubs for a while. I went back to my old club and spoke to a manager and the dj and they all knew where i was. When i went in I felt so sad and missed everyone. I realized i just needed a month to myself. Now i want to be back at my old club, and they may not let me come back. i have to go in and talk to them tonight. Im so upset.
    I get depressed once in a while in this industry, but i also feel so high sometimes too. Oh well. Wish me luck

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