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    OK you guys...I've had it w/ this girl at my club. Can we say at what club in here?? Anyways, this started about 2 weeks when I just started there. I talk this young guy to a dance and while I'm giving him a LD, here she comes into the room, she's probably the most popular dancer here we'll call her Jersey, she grabs his hand and pulls it away and goes to him "DO U WANT TO TAKE HER HOME TOO!!!" and storms out of the place. The next day when i saw her, I went up to her try to explain or apologize, after all i didn't want a problem w/ her because we had been nice to each other to that point (although I knew she was completely out of line- I know u shouldn't even be getting involved w/ patrons). When i'm trying to talk to her in the dressing room, she ignores me completely and just goes "EXCUSE ME!" so i could get out her way. So, I figured "the girl's really immature, I'm going to leave it like that". Probably that same nite in the dressing room she's talking to one of her friends in front of me really loud and obvious "WELL, I GUESS BITCHES THAT STINK MAKE MONEY HERE, I GUESS YOU HAVE TO STINK HA HA HA". I just ignored it and left. Well yesterday, I'm giving this other young man a table dance, she walks by looks at him and goes "HEY, DON'T GET A DISEASE" then comes back before she's about to walk out and kisses him in the cheek goodbye. I flipped out after that went to the dressing room to vent and all her little friends were staring. So, here she comes in the dressing room w/ the bouncer sayn "yah Ed had to walk me in here because he thinks I'm going to kick her ass". There I turn around and give her a piece of mind, blew up and called a fucking bitch, immature and everything else. She then said she was going to fight me outside the club. The mgrs and bouncers warned me there was absolutely NO FIGHTING going on anywhere around the premises, if not whoever would be fired immediately. So, as Ed is walking me out, there she is w/ her "click" threatening me and even swong on me but Ed was in the middle, so she didn't hit me. I was thinking of working tonight but now i don't think i want to go back. I know she won't try to fight me in the dressing room because she knows she'll be fired, but I'm afraid something will happen to my car or else. HELP

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    Did you consult management about your issue?

    Explain that she is threatening you and saying negative things to customers.
    I don't think any club would want dancers telling customers that they "might get a disease"!!

    If your management isn't dealing with the issue...
    find another club or stick it out.
    Sometimes work environments are unfair.

    Alot of them are "Put up or Get out"

    hopefully you are not dealing that situation...
    But, if she has clout... you might be.
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    First can you get dropped off at work? I have had to do this as my car got scratched bad.

    Second...I know you may know this now, but NEVER get back into a dancers face, it's what she wants. And you have her at you know. It's hard to bite you're tongue, but in the end it all works out, she is jealous, you are getting dances!!! If she walks by again while you are with a customer and says anything about you to him. Just tur to him while she has passed by and say to him that she has been talking about you to all the customers you dance for because she is very jealous. Guys are understanding of this, and most have seen or heard it before. But always clear it up with the customer.

    Put her on EXTREME IGNORE. No hand in the air, no words. She can't touch you inside the club, she is looking STUPID, and if you get dropped off at work with very little clothing and such she can't fuck with you!

    Words really make dancers look stupid. And trust me the customers are going to not want her drama. She is ruining it for herself!!! I LOVE it. Let her fall.

    Keep on hustling, giving laps, and FUCK her...She wont matter in a year or less anyway.

    Pamela

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    I agree, you need to ignore the bitch or tell her you're going to get a restraining order against her, perhaps that way, even though she works there, SHE'S the one who has to be so many feet away from you, so maybe she'd have to move clubs so she wouldnt violate the order (i really dont know if you can do that, but Id try). Also, you need to tell the mgt that she needs to keep her nasty little comments to herself! Who the hell does she think she is, telling customers not to get a disease?? I'd try to sue her too, because she's obviously interferring with your business. But do NOT get into a fight with her UNLESS she comes at you and actually has her hands on you. Even then, it might not be a good idea, if she's friends with the other girls, and they see you beating her ass, they might all jump in on you. Id prolly switch clubs after I told her what a stupid bitch she was. Who needs that kinda drama?

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    Quote Originally Posted by RetiredDancer
    I agree, you need to ignore the bitch or tell her you're going to get a restraining order against her, perhaps that way, even though she works there, SHE'S the one who has to be so many feet away from you, so maybe she'd have to move clubs so she wouldnt violate the order (i really dont know if you can do that, but Id try). Also, you need to tell the mgt that she needs to keep her nasty little comments to herself! Who the hell does she think she is, telling customers not to get a disease?? I'd try to sue her too, because she's obviously interferring with your business. But do NOT get into a fight with her UNLESS she comes at you and actually has her hands on you. Even then, it might not be a good idea, if she's friends with the other girls, and they see you beating her ass, they might all jump in on you. Id prolly switch clubs after I told her what a stupid bitch she was. Who needs that kinda drama?
    yah her friends are backing her up and least one anyways. She told me she'll jump me too if I start w/ her. That's the problem. I'm thinking I'm not going to go back there. Even if she does get fired, which she probably will, I still couldn't work there because she knows many people that could go after me. So, I probably won't go in there. it sucks ...Thanks

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pamela
    First can you get dropped off at work? I have had to do this as my car got scratched bad.

    Second...I know you may know this now, but NEVER get back into a dancers face, it's what she wants. And you have her at you know. It's hard to bite you're tongue, but in the end it all works out, she is jealous, you are getting dances!!! If she walks by again while you are with a customer and says anything about you to him. Just tur to him while she has passed by and say to him that she has been talking about you to all the customers you dance for because she is very jealous. Guys are understanding of this, and most have seen or heard it before. But always clear it up with the customer.

    Put her on EXTREME IGNORE. No hand in the air, no words. She can't touch you inside the club, she is looking STUPID, and if you get dropped off at work with very little clothing and such she can't fuck with you!

    Words really make dancers look stupid. And trust me the customers are going to not want her drama. She is ruining it for herself!!! I LOVE it. Let her fall.

    Keep on hustling, giving laps, and FUCK her...She wont matter in a year or less anyway.

    Pamela
    Thanks Pamela, believe me the customers know already..although in both of those instances she slept w/ them outside of the club, which they admitted to me after her tantrums. I was about to tell her "why don't you write a list of all the customers you've fucked so I won't talk to them" but she probably would've had me on the hit list.

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    Just find another good club in your area. Even if you cant find one closer, you could drive a little ways. But I would suggest doing the restraining order..if she violates it, she goes to jail. If she doesnt, she'll be off your ass anyway. Win win situation!

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    Quote Originally Posted by RetiredDancer
    Just find another good club in your area. Even if you cant find one closer, you could drive a little ways. But I would suggest doing the restraining order..if she violates it, she goes to jail. If she doesnt, she'll be off your ass anyway. Win win situation!
    thanks hon... I know, it's too bad I already have a few regulars and I liked the club! Way to get me out of there

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    Grrr.. why does it always have to be the stupid ones that ruin it for everyone else. This chick that wanted to fight sounds like a crack-head.

    Seriously, don't people like that realize that this sort of behavior only makes them look mental? I am opinionated, this is true but geeze get over it and go back to work.

    I feel your pain, I'm having a same sort of issue just with a man. Gentlemen it looks like your gender is vindicated for the moment! ( I'm kidding!!! )

    Miss R

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    Wow, this is extreme. If you are making good money, the club is making money. Why not go in on an off day, speak with Management about the issue, because one already knows (the parking lot) and see if she will be told to shut the hell up. You need to let management at least know on you're way out that this CUNT will continue to run any new dancer out who she sees as a threat....And the club WILL get a nasty rep.

    I would. Try to make a change, and make sure management knows that they let this shit go on inside their club.

    Also tell all dancers you know, or surrounding clubs that this club you're at does not treat dancers right....It's not a lie. I would.

    What a fuckin shame. Shame on management if it never changes, because customers like new blood too!!!!
    Pamela

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    I would switch clubs. I was bullied at a club because I was the youngest a while ago. It made me miserable for 6 months. She sounds a like a crack head 'queen bee' whom the other girls are afraid of. It's just not worth the stress of having to deal with bitchiness and the threat of physical violence at a club.

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    I still say get a restraining order. That way, she knows you mean business and you would have her ass thrown in jail at the blink of an eye. I would.

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    Get a restraining order.

    If she violates it, she will go to jail.

    It sounds like she belongs in lock up anyway.

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    Anyone here ever see Rashômon ?


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    talk with the management. we had a girl who was like this. our regular customers watched her actions and stood up for us against this girl and spoke to management (most were friends with the manager). what dreamboats they are! i would go with the restraining order and if you can bring some nice girls (and ed the bouncer) as witnesses, it will be a stronger case. there needs to be proof these threats are ongoing. if management does nothing and she tries to harm you physically or your property in ANY way- file a police report against her. it IS assault. but dont lose your temper, stay calm and unresponsive to her. if she says she's going to harm you, walk away. the minute she puts her hands on you and management does nothing- file an assault report. if she ever leaves marks on you or harms your property, take pictures- just keep a small disposable camera in your locker at work.

    stand up! if you dont do something, she'll keep acting this way. she needs to learn this behavior is NOT tolerated, whether by management or the law.

    i would move to another club, but definitely use the law to your advantage in this case. but remember, your word against hers isnt good enough. see if the customers are willing to witness, or management or the nice girls.
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    and if she harms you- DONT fight back. i know it's hard to resist, but if you dont fight back, your case will be that much stronger.
    "RIP THE SYSTEM"

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    I have no idea how club politics are as it's been years since I've been in one, but they are likely similar to a lot of workplaces, perhaps a bit more intense.

    If she were to leave, there would be no problem, but that isn't likely. Several have offered good advice, and you should definitely file a restraining order. Just don't mistake it for a security wall. She can violate it before it's enforced.

    Having someone drive you to work is a good idea, but make sure they are there to pick you up when your shift is over. You might want to consider that even if you move on to another club. She sounds like the type that might want to continue this even if you leave.

    Now that I've donated my two cents of illuminating countenance, I'll express my hope that it all settles out for you.
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    Ack, that Girl sounds like a Springer Ep waiting to happen.
    Avoid her like the Plague. Most custies aren't gonna listen to some snarky bitch's random insults while they have the Dancer that THEY requested entertaining them.
    I know I would think "wtf is up with that woman?"

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    On the bright side, you must be pretty hot if she's so worked up and jealous of you.
    I think she only swung at you because she's fronting in front of her friends and she doesn't want to look bad.
    Start bringing in pepper spray....buy a good one with "stream" spray so if you have to spray, it will hit your target.
    This might help you feel less upset about her: some people suffering from mental illness or drug-induced psychosis REALLY think they see and hear things that have not occured. There's one dancer I know of who is infamous for having psychotic episodes when she comes to work at my club- she got fired but started coming back through a loophole (new management.) As much as she annoys me, I almost feel sorry for her because she doesn't understand why she's gotten beaten up several times, and she doesn't remember all the weird things she did. But, I don't think about her too much 'cause she's on her way down in life, and, well, too bad.
    So anyway, remember this. I suggest you act like nothing's wrong (like it was in the first place before she started running her mouth) and if she gets in your fact, smile and say, "Whoa, you're CRAAAAZY!" That's probably the truth.
    (PS To the custie who put a smart-ass "Rashamon" reference in this thread, can it, you haven't worked in a strip club.........)

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    What the hell did you do to this girl where she is saying all this crap? I just dont understand how anyone can be that evil? Well, i can ... When i was first working in Providence i had this girl walk up to me and ask me why i kissed her customer? wtf? He was the one who tried to kiss me! She was so rude and my jaw dropped on how discusting she could be! She didn't even know me! But anyway... she made me almost cry in the dressing room. If that happened NOW, she would be in for more of a surprise.

    My sound frame of thought would be to go in early and discuss your issues with management. Get dropped off instead of driving for a week or so. And ignore her.

    BUT WOULD I DO THAT? probably not!

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    What a bitch, if she's not kicked out of the club just find another club and let her eat dirt.



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    Trust me, guys don't pay attention to stripper-static unless they are brand new to the scene. The only guys it'll scare off are the timid ones who don't want to deal with it. Watch it, though, a few guys get off on playing one girl against another.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pamela
    Wow, this is extreme. If you are making good money, the club is making money. Why not go in on an off day, speak with Management about the issue, because one already knows (the parking lot) and see if she will be told to shut the hell up. You need to let management at least know on you're way out that this CUNT will continue to run any new dancer out who she sees as a threat....And the club WILL get a nasty rep.

    I would. Try to make a change, and make sure management knows that they let this shit go on inside their club.

    Also tell all dancers you know, or surrounding clubs that this club you're at does not treat dancers right....It's not a lie. I would.

    What a fuckin shame. Shame on management if it never changes, because customers like new blood too!!!!
    Pamela

    Thanks Pamela....believe me by now all of management is very well aware and they've had problems w/ her before and she has been warned. She is very popular there and one of the prettiest there (not that it matters), but I'm guessing that's why she has lasted there as long as she has. Even if she does get fired which would be a scandal, she would definitely try to get back at me, she knows many people and her roommate would have to be fired as well as she already made it clear she would go after me "if I tried her girl". I live around 40 minutes away from the club and I don't want anything to happen to my car, I can't get rides to work either because of the distance. That's my main concerned not being attacked or her not be fired.

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    On another note, be careful. If this girl is sleeping with customers than she may be sleeping with management or owners.

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    I just talked to the manager of the club and the girl is fired. He says she doesn't know yet, but next time she comes in, she will be escorted out after she gathers her locker belongings. About the car being damaged in any way, he says there's cameras outside the club (i hope he's just not saying that) and that there's someone out there watching at all times. I guess I will try again to go back. I'm glad though.

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