I have been reading a lot of threads lately both here and on the blue side.I have been dancing for 11 years. I have to make this statement:
BE a stuck-up dancer.
Why? you say.
Because the line needs to be drawn between dancers and prostitutes.; and drawn clearly with a big black marker. There used to be a line. What happened to it?
(Now, I really have nothing against prostitutes. Think it shoul be legal, really. But that is not what this business is about. Sure, there will always be girls who give it up on the side. As long as they keep it on the DL, who's to know?)
My point is this : Act like a lady. ALL the time.
The girls I started working with in 1994 were stuck-up bitches,but ladies. I was a day girl,and they were the queens of the night shift. Boy, did they look good. They carried themselves like they knew they were the best. And they backed it up with their dancing skill, their conversation, their apperance. They did not DARE walk in without a cute outfit on (just to walk in the door, mind you). The hair was always perfect; the manicure and pedicure done. The makeup was beautiful. The outfits were clean and classy, or cute-never trashy. Etc; etc.( AND THEY KNEW HOW TO MOVE!!)
Most of all, they made you want to BE them. They made you want to walk like you owned the world. I learned not to be ashamed of what I did for a living, because I could tell that secretly all the men wanted to go out with them and all the women wanted to be them.
This is going to soud harsh; but it is true. Women who don't do this job are "civilians". That is not derogatory, just different. The problem came when we tried to say that anyone can do this job. That is not true. To do this job well and enjoy it takes a certian kind of person. I could not be a nurse; I have compassion but cannot handle the realities of people hurt and dying on a 24 hour 7 day basis. I admire ppl that can. Do you see what I mean? You may think it is crazy to compare the two; I am just saying that it is possible that not every woman that walks through that door can do this. Those that cannot will never understand those of us that do. Therefore,they will never really know how to behave or present themselves appropriately in this world or ours.
Nicolina said in a recent post:"Seriously, though...sucking face with some guy cause he buys you a couple bottles of champagne just seems so....civilian, doesn't it? "
Yes; it is. If a guy wants that he can go to the local college bar and get it. We are supposed to be DIFFERENT than your local college bar.That is part of our appeal. Hiring these young (or not) girls that want it just for the thrill and are not serious about learning how to behave is cheapening our clubs and bringing the business into dangerous territory. I know us ladies don't have much control over the hiring; just making a point. Used to be when a girl was hired she was paired with a more experienced dancer who taught here what the "rules" were, both spoken and unspoken. What happened to this? Well, one, managers stopped requiring this,and two; the new girls stopped listening. I think if some of us became "stuck-up dancers" again, maybe we could inspire some of these girls to want to better their performance and apperance. I know not all can be saved, but we need to set a better example. The girls in 1994 did not speak to me until I had earned their respect by proving that I was serious about what I was doing. That made me try all the harder. Now I am one of the older girls in my club, and at least no one messes with me. I am never rude to a new girl, but am very non-commital until I can see that she is truly interested in how to make money but not be the slut of the world.
You can be a lady and make money. It is possible. You can be a lady and be gir-next-door friendly to your regulars. You can be a lady and do extras.I don't like it, but as I said before,if you keep it on the DL and don't be too posessive/interfere with my money, I really don't consider it my biz.(as long as you don't get me put in jail in a raid because of your shit!)
GUYS: I am NOT advocating that we should be stuck-up to you. I AM saying we should act like a lady until it is time not to...which is mostly in the VIP/couch/champagne room. You want a girl who can have fun and not disrespect herself-that is part of my defintion of a lady.You sometimes want a woman who seemes to be unreachable(the "fantasy, remember?) I try to be as friendly and open to gentlemen that come to my club as possible, but I make it clear that I am to be treated in a polite manner and will not take being talked down to. Again, the line. I am not a whore. That is simply not my job. I refuse to act like one to compete with some young stupid girl who won't show enough inishative (sp??) to learn this job the right way. Most guys with money want the chase of a woman who is acting like they might give it to them; but just far enough away (and lady-like) that they might not get it. So they spend more money to see if they can. If they wanted a $50 hooker they know where to go. They aren't there are they? They're right in front of you. Play the madonna-whore to the hilt.
You probably think I am not being realistic. I do not claim to know how it is in your club, or what your personal situation may be. I am not trying to be judgemental; I just think the biz as a whole could use an injection of girls who are proud to be who they are and ACT LIKE IT. Put your nose in the air-you have a right to. You are a beautiful, sexy, sensuous woman who can walk into any topless/nude bar in the world and get a job. And do it well. You can run faster in 5 inch heels than most guys you know.That is something to be proud of. I know you are self-concious. So am I. So are we all. Fuck it. However,this does not mean you look down same nose at others.
Let's make this job sensuous and MYSTERIOUS again. Make it an intitiation process. New girls should strive to reach where you are; even if they are just in it for a few years. Get it?
I miss you old-schoolers. We really aren't that old. Let's show them what we've learned....
Sorry about the spelling; spell-check isn't working.




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