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    Hi girls. I have a question, forgive me for being nosy! First, i'll let you know where i'm coming from.

    I recently started stripping at this posh venue in town, and after 4 hrs quit. I regret it because I loved taking my clothes off and felt uninhibited. It was great. However, because of medium contact here in Oz, I felt uncomfortable with that aspect, although is part of the job description.

    My husband said that night when I went to bed after a long shower that he could still smell cologne on me, and didn't want to be close to me, even though he is very supportive of me and has allowed me to make my own decisions. And when I am in close contact with the guys at the club, I feel very unfaithful because the man i love is at home alone without me beside him. And meanwhile i'm up close with another for money.

    Finding a venue where i can be a show-pony would be ideal with just the occasional sitting on the lap and touching the breast. There's no such venue here though!

    Have any of you experienced this and if so, how did yourself and your hubby deal with it???
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    I think your husband was just being pissy. I was married when I stripped, and I still am. My husband never had a problem with it.

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    My husband is moderately jealous of the mysterious "goings on" at work.
    If you do decide to dance it should be agreed that the two of you not discuss it in depth.
    that is what works for me anyway.

    If you don't feel comfortable with the club that you were at last then I suggest trying another one.
    Also wash your hair and everything after work.
    If he can still smell their cologne after that then he is a little delusional.
    and if that is the case you should not persue dancing unless you are willing to risk your relationship.

    I hope everything works well for you
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    I am married and my husband is comfortable with me doing medium contact dances. I don't think he would be happy with any dancing where the customer is allowed to touch my breasts or genitals, and I know he would have a problem if the customers are allowed to be rough (grabbing too hard).

    We even make jokes about "grinding on hard dicks all night". Stuff like that. We are very comfortable with my job, he just wishes I would travel less, but all the clubs in the immeadate area really suck. The closest decent club is about 75 miles away. Then being gone from home all the time is what is the most bothersome to him, not what I do for a living.


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    I met my husband when i was dancing - he was a customer!
    He didn't seem to have a problem with me dancing, he probably thought it meant i'd be hot in bed or something...

    I quit when we started seeing each other, so i was never actually dancing while we were together... But i went in one night before the club opened, so that i could video myself dancing (as a momento of when i was young and hot ). The only people in the club when i did it were a few of the girls who i'd worked with for ages, and they'd all seen me naked more than my husband!

    He went beserk when he found out i'd done that, and threatened to divorce me. He's never seemed to trust me since then, even though i'm completely faithful and wouldn't consider cheating.
    He's even said recently that he thinks strippers are one step away from being whores.

    I'd recommend thinking about it very carefully before you decide to start dancing. If there's any chance your husband will be uncomfortable with it then don't do it.

    Sorry to bring you down, it's just my experience.
    Not all guys will feel this way though, your husband might be cool with it - just talk it through thoroughly first.
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    If what you have with your husband is worth more than what you could potentially get from being a dancer, stick with him. Stripping is an unforgiving and weird industry. There are some exceptions to the scene, but overall "If it's not one thing, it's another...." Potential trouble around every corner.
    The best statement made about relationships & the bar scene is that all the stressors that make couples break up are "in your face" at the club.
    I've had my sour experiences with my job messing up relationships, but I know that I'm better off without those men- they knew what they were getting into.

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    Thanks for your trusty advice. That's why i quit, because i could sense he wasn't 100% sure. Yeah, i think he could've been a little delusional about the cologne incident...his insecurities. When i got the job, it was no longer talk...it was action, and when we were both totally unprepared.

    He's happy though if i'd pose for Penthouse or Playboy, just not sure of those guys at the club. I might think about it a little more. Pitty, i love stripping!!

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    I was married also the last few months while i stripped. My hubby was the same way, even though he was overseas it bothered him that i smelled and touched other men. To me i blocked it all out, it was seriously just a job and when i went home, it was over for the night.
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    i know what you mean. You become the character of your stage name, not who you are in real life. i think where my hubby was coming from was what i could contract with the touching. Like if i had a bit of acne on my breast and the guy had a small open cut on his hand that to me wasn't visible and started playing with my breast.

    Anything to keep him happy i s'pose. I was only getting started and now have to look at other options. Nevermind.
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    Sharee,
    very nice question, I think he should not even ask you about the daily hardness, as he himself had allowed you to work so he should not be upset for the same.
    Last edited by VenusGoddess; 07-14-2005 at 01:58 PM.

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    Gah. Dont pm this guy ^

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    i've been dancing for 7 months, married to hubby for 5 years. he talked me into it so i could save big bucks for my family overseas. we've had a few jealous/ angry nites, but mostly he loves it. he comes into the club a few times a week to watch and party, originally posing as a custy tho now everyone knows we're hitched. they dont care cause he's totally cool and never makes a scene. he really gets turned on when i can dance rite next to him, esp. for a girl custy. our club has a fair amount of contact, esp in vip. he cant go into vip when im there with a guy. one of our main agreements is that i honestly tell him EVERYTHING that happens every nite. it often ends up makin us both wild horny. (im not the cleanest dancer in our club.) he enjoys the sexy details. he also has fun playing with all our friend strippers who treat his table as a safe refuge. a few give him some free halfassed extras. he does insist i take a good shower after to, "wash all that guy lick off my tits and pussy", as he jokes. i guess im lucky cause apparently there are very few guys who can handle this. he says its easier now than before cause he knows i only love him. (he's lots older than me.) but he worries more when he dont come watch, says sitting home alone is pure torture. good luck girl.

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    Thanks for your encouragement. But i've already burnt my bridges with the most decent club in town. They are really pissed with me, and i've got to get the courage now to pick up my pay!!!

    Last night i insisted i give it another go at another club yet hubby is quite ardament. You see, i bought all these clothes for my first night and now i want to pay it off with my own earnings to repair my little stuff-up. He won't let me.

    It's great that so many of you have that kind of support, although it is hard for them. Good luck to all of you.

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    I am still married but seperated and dancing. I honestly don't care what my soon-to-be ex thinks. He says he's okay with it but once when I was talking about it, he asked me to stop because it hurt to hear. Also I said if we get back together, I'm keeping my job even if it's at a different club (we move because of the military).

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    I have been married for 17 years and stripping about 3. My problem was the other way around. He had never been in a strip club apart from checking a few out with me, and didn't want to hear about it. I worried for a few years that he didn't want to know because he thought I was the typical sterotype stripper, and getting up to all sorts of things behind his back. I talk to him about what I do quite comfortably now.
    You may be reading too much into his comment. You need to talk it over and find out for sure if he's happy and your happy with it.

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    I have been married for just under 3 years now. I had danced off and on for about a year prior to getting married and I just went back to dancing on a regular basis about six months ago. After working for minimum wage (which is 5.15/hour here) last summer at the university farm I decided to start looking for a new job. I was nervous about dancing again, but my husband is completely supportive of anything i do. We're both in school and trying our best not to take out loans, so any little bit helps. Plus dancing allows us "play money." which we otherwise would not have. My husband knows what goes on at work, but he will not come in during my shift (I would get distracted.) And he knows the contact level, which he is fine with.

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    It's sounds like it will work out fine for the two of you...
    just don't discuss what happens at work.

    Even minor details can potentially turn into an arguement depending on the level of experience he has with strip clubs.
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