Wait a minute, didn't you just generalize dancers as "damaged" women who want bisexual rockstar boyfriends that treat them like cum dumpsters??
LOL good point. Not ALL of them, but a great deal of them are damaged by the industry.
I don't know about you, but I wouldn't marry a guy I didn't
love to fuck.
Again, good point. My point is though, that I specifically may date a guy I find a 10 personality-wise but only a 5 or so fuckable-wise. That only means that initially for a one-night-stand sort of thing I wouldn't be interested, but since I love him so much in other ways, I would love to fuck him. Initially, I don't necessarily choose to date guys I would love to fuck. I may date them for money, or because they can meet certain needs I have, or because we have so much in common and I genuinely like them. I have found in my experiences that the guys that are 10 in looks and fuckability are usually low on the personality and marriage scales, so it has to be a happy medium.
Okay, while I suppose it does depend on the customer, ET has a point here.
As I've said elsewhere, the dancer-customer relationship is a somewhat adversarial one, and dancers learn through experience that it is best to avoid any attempt to transform that relationship into something healthy and nurturing and real OTC. It just doesn't translate well.
Any dancer who survives beyond her first year or two in the business learns that it is a piss-poor idea to mix business and pleasure by seriously dating guys you meet in the club. I did fuck a few customers for free OTC during my first year...including one with whom I had a 3-year relationship (total trainwreck, of course...) After that, I just didn't view customers as viable options anymore. I could think to myself, objectively: "He's pretty hot. I'd do him." But I'd still steadfastly refuse to give him my number, or to call him if he gave me his. I just had a block about it.
However, this mentality applied
only to customers I met ITC. When it comes to guys I meet anywhere else, I actually
prefer to date men who have some experience with the Industry--preferably as casual customers (though a Junkie past doesn't necessarily rule them out

). I have trouble in relationships with guys who are clueless about the sex industry. They tend to get freaked out when my Stripper Self rears her ugly head.....
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