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    Lets say you're at a club, you've spent some time with one dancer, you've bought about 200 dollars worth of dance's. Everything has been pleasant, but after the dance's you don't want her sitting at your table, you don't want to be rude but you want to try another girl. What's a tactfull way to do this?

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    "Thanks for the dances. I'm going to try out X now, she looks fun. Thanks again."

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    "Don't feel like you have to sit here with me, I know you are at work and need to make some more money"
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    Dont feel bad, if she is a professional she will not take it as an insult. Sometimes you just feel like seeing a different girl. If she takes it as an offence just apologise and say you will see her next time,
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    "I'm outta cash"

    She'll leave faster than a pack dogs after a three-legged cat.

    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
    "I'm outta cash"

    She'll leave faster than a pack dogs after a three-legged cat.

    Yeah, that'll go over really great when you're still sitting there getting more dances from other gals. Don't think she won't notice.

    Almost everyone appreciates simple honesty. Try it.

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    Default Re: A Tactfull Way

    Body language, facial expressions, generally drop a hint.

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    xxxxx
    Last edited by Candice; 10-26-2008 at 09:42 AM.

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    Azd: all the answers already where covered, I added humor.

    You could always start talking about something REALLY disgusting

    Nice avatar btw, I love Calvin and Hobbes, I have all the books hardbound.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
    "I'm outta cash"

    She'll leave faster than a pack dogs after a three-legged cat.

    This is actually a good test if you like a dancer. Pull the last two bucks out of your pants and look a little sad. If she offers to sit with you a while, you found a gem. Then you can always go out to your car and get another $200.

    If the dancer is just a ride, tell her you need to get dances with X. She'll think you promised X or something.

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    Sports: I thouroughly agree, I'll pay for time no matter what, but knowing that the girl WANTS it to be me to spend more makes it so much better yo!

    My ass is sooooo beat after work sometimes <no thats not insight to what I do> I'd just pay to have someone to sit there and BS with instead of tell me about the late breaking crisis I need to tend to.

    Now, since I *AM* superman I'm going to manually put this train back on track.

    *Note, I'm not super fast in bed. I'm LIGHTNING fast.
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    I have always been honest and told them I was not interested in any more dances from them that night (or day), but make sure and come back next time they see me in the club, or feel free to stop and visit with me at any time. As a regular at several clubs, I always let the girls know when they stop by whether I am in the mood to get dances from them or not. It seems to gain me a lot of respect and most stop by and hang out for awhile anyway if they are not busy. Honesty is a good policy, if they can't take it then that is their problem!

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    Usually after doing a certain amt of dances for a guy (after we are done) I will leave shortly thereafter. If I don't it's because it's really slow, I have enjoyed talking to him, we are having fun drinking or all three.

    Now I am wondering if the times that guys have said, "I don't want to keep you from work," only to have me reply, "Oh don't worry," if they didn't WANT me to leave so they could get dances from someone else. LOL-oops...too bad for them I guess.

    Honesty is the best policy. After getting that many dances from me, I am sure to not be offended and in fact, I am usually not offended if someone tells me they want another girl if they HAVEN'T gotten dances from me.

    Just tell the girl.

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    I enjoyed our time together, "Bunny". I hope you make lots more money tonight. <big smile if you did enjoy it>
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    This can be a problem. For true professional dancers they understand and realize there are other fish in the pond to find and its fine. I have, however, run into two or three dancers that do not take this well, and view it as an affront. This may be part of a pressure sales campaign, or an act, but I find it uncomfortable none the less. The typical reaction is they act hurt and they may be.

    Fortunately in a club I've de emphasized, a dancer who was most possessive, when I've tried to indicate there isn't any chemistry, just got fired. This means I can go there again.
    While I have a moderate thick skin, some dancers do not give up... when perhaps they should go on to a better new sale.

    If a dancer refuses to leave, despite various counter moves on my part, my final counter move is usually to leave the club, which is kind of a lose lose tactic, but at least a final one resolving the problem.

    This is a practical reason why I am very careful about dancers and the ones I sit with.

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    You could just wait till her stage set...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Destiny
    "Don't feel like you have to sit here with me, I know you are at work and need to make some more money"
    I'm with candice and destiny on this one. This is the perfect polite way to excuse yourself. If someone says this to me, I will go. After $200 worth of dances anyway, I've pretty much done a good job and there's probably no need for me to stay anyway (at least not a financial need).

    But girls who do sit with you after you've spent on them are generally being polite. You've been good to them so they are giving you your company's worth, not running off after you've handed them the money and making you feel like an ATM.
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    Sneeze all over your hands...

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    T dlabtot : Rotation slows down as the night wears on, so it could be two hours until
    the next set for the "disagreeable dancer."

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    People always think they have to say someting, make verbal communications, word of mouth. Sometimes, it is better to say nothing and move on.
    When I worked clubs and I began to notice that my customer was running out of "steam", I would just smiile, give him a kiss, make some dumb excuse, mumble, mumble, and move away.

    The customers should do the same. If they feel that they could be better served some place else, they should just move on, get up and walk around. If the girl should follow, heck tell her you are going to the bathroom, going out to the car to get something, etc.

    Go the full mile, be as polite, and when you see the chance to run, grab it.

    Only when she persists, should you tell her, that her time with you is done. Pay her another small tip, shake hands, give a hug, kiss, and depart.
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    From Seinfield... the pick.

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    "Thanks, that was great. Have a nice night."

    If she doesn't leave after the polite dismissal, ask her to go find another dancer for you. that should do the trick. If she is going to cock block, then you will have to do the leaving to get rid of her.

    When someone is being dense or purposely stubborn, there is really no way to be polite. Just be blunt.


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    The walk away gambit only works if the club is big enough to go to another "activity area"
    that is farther away and with some barriers away. If its a real small club its just ackward.
    In general the walk away is a good tactic.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris

    When someone is being dense or purposely stubborn, there is really no way to be polite. Just be blunt.
    I think that's about the best way to put it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by azdd
    Almost everyone appreciates simple honesty. Try it.
    Excellent response!

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