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    Smiley Dating or Married to a Stripper? What is it?

    I have dated many strippers since I have been going to different clubs, most have worked out great even after the dating part was over and we have remained friends. I consider people who work in the club business just like I would consider others. This means I accept people for who they are and not just what they do for a living as some others do. In fact, I was married to a entertainer for a couple of years and our split had nothing to do with the business.

    What is it that attracts some guys to the girls that work in the clubs? I feel when I date someone that has not been involved in this business in some level that I do not have as much interest for some reason. It also seems that most of the girls I tend to meet have or do work in the business. I even met someone I dated for awhile while in line getting my drivers license renewed. Had no idea what she did for a living!

    What is it that attracts some girls to the guys that are in the club on a regular basis?

    Just pondering some thoughts this morning and hoping to create a little discussion.

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    it boils down you want what you can't have.

    the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.

    and nice guys are always attracted to what they perceive as broken women.

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    Default Re: Dating or Married to a Stripper? What is it?

    There alots of reasons:

    Strippers will come up and talk to you while sober. For some guys, they are the only women that will do this.

    Some guys have a thing for artists and performers. When I look at my crushes besides stripper I see actor, writer, musician, web designer, painter/tatooist and stand-up comic. Same reason women like musicians.

    I wouldn't say nice guys like broken women so much as women they perceive as needing emotional support (high stress job,for instance) because they see providing emotional support as the main asset the bring to relationships. These are the same guys who have a thing for peopel in medical fields or cops. This one's pretty common among women as well.

    There's also the feeling that as dancers often spend a lot of time talking with men about fairly private things, they understand men better than most.

    Some guys think strippers will be more sexually adventurous than other women.

    You can get a preview of what you're getting.

    Not all of these will apply to all guys, and probably not all of them are even correct, but I think some combo of these is what motivates most people.

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    Interesting question this one - I've never dated a dancer, but I've formed some strong friendships with several. When it came down to it, we liked each other as people and all that dancer/customer stuff became irrelevant.

    Picking up on the specifics associated with being a dancer - I guess I just find them interesting people than the usual run of the population. They're either studying, widely travelled or have slughtly unusual interests - life's never dull when you get into conversation with them.

    As far as the nudity aspect of their job - I take as much or as little interest as the particular dancer wants. I know one dancer who genuinely likes me to look, another that prefers me not to pay any attention if she's dancing. I'm quite happy to do either - and it's entirely at the dancer's discretion.

    Frankly, I feel more comfortable these days when I'm with them socially, not meeting them at work - and the meeting at work these days tends to be more to give them a lift home, or to give them moral support if they are working in a place they don't like.

    Broadly, the main thing I like about the dancer's I've struck up a friendship with is that they are genuinely nice people. I treat them as well as I know how, and the compliment is returned.

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    This is goinmg to sound like my canned answer, and it probably is exactly that, but i never gave a shit. Women are women.

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    Possibly strippers seem more sexually uninhibited or liberal to you. Maybe because you are attracted to more beautiful women than the girl next door, that is if the ones you date are overly attractive.

    I would not necessarily say strippers are broken women. Due to the relative ease of getting hired in this business if one is somewhat attractive and not overweight, of course a larger amount of "flaky" girls work in this business, but by no means are all of us that way.

    Strippers for the most part have to maintain their weight and appearance, even though some look horrible when not in "costume". The high maintenance aspect of strippers compared to women outside the industry may be a turn on.

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    Default Re: Dating or Married to a Stripper? What is it?

    Quote Originally Posted by TxShooter
    I have dated many strippers since I have been going to different clubs <snip> In fact, I was married to a entertainer for a couple of years <snip> I even met someone I dated for awhile while in line getting my drivers license renewed
    Hmmm...lets see. Youve dated strippers. Youve married strippers. Youve even shared license pics...yummy...thats puts you in the 0.0001% percentile compared to the other guys here.

    Quote Originally Posted by TxShooter
    What is it that attracts some girls to the guys that are in the club on a regular basis?
    That one is easy...money money money

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tina
    Possibly strippers seem more sexually uninhibited or liberal to you. Maybe because you are attracted to more beautiful women than the girl next door, that is if the ones you date are overly attractive.
    Tina: Good point. there is a certain sense of expression exhibited by one willing to get on stage in front of others and dance. It translates to the male mind as a open road of communication on all things and that nothing sexual or non sexual phases this girl. Its almost as if you think she can open the lid on your sexuality. However, just cause she's a dancer doesn't mean she's more beautiful than the woman next door. Come visit my neighbor sometime. Rowrrr. I'll let you use my binoculars.

    Quote Originally Posted by Tina
    I would not necessarily say strippers are broken women. Due to the relative ease of getting hired in this business if one is somewhat attractive and not overweight, of course a larger amount of "flaky" girls work in this business, but by no means are all of us that way.
    I agree. Why is there a certain NEGATIVE mentality assigned to the mind of one who wants to dance nude. Yea there is a mindset, but its as equally positive and negative as that of a cashier.

    Quote Originally Posted by Tina
    Strippers for the most part have to maintain their weight and appearance, even though some look horrible when not in "costume". The high maintenance aspect of strippers compared to women outside the industry may be a turn on.
    Well that and the fact that you're humping the girl for free that everyone's paying 20 a dance for and you get to experience it via my first paragraph. I think the ability to toss conventional and conservative thought to the side and get in touch with ones sexuality enough to be a successful dancer shows an open road of communication that married couples don't see in their first 10 years. Outside of that, they are people and have the same quirks in the club as the girl in the cube behind. And they are all equally different.

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    Good questions, from my perspective what attracts me to clubs is a no strings attatched & low maintenance fun time with beautiful women. I have developed true "feelings" other than "just lust" for a few of them over the course of time, but that is usually what complicates matters... I'm sure what attracts most dancers to "regulars" is a steady source of income on a BUSINESS LEVEL, as usually there is very little mutual "PERSONAL" in these transactions outside of the clubs... Although it does happen on occasion...


    Never fall in love with a Stripper

    Part 1-The Encounter

    Never fall in love with a stripper son, she's sure to break your
    heart.
    You'll end up in a coiled web and soon be torn apart.
    Her beauty is amazing, her soul it shines intense, her body is a work
    of art from which there's no defense.

    She'll captivate you with desire; you'll lose your way it seems,
    Her pleasantries engulf your thoughts and permeate your dreams.
    Imagination running wild, each step she closer moves,
    Her eyes enchanting meet yours in fire; she closes on your grove.

    The sensuality extreme, the eros so sublime
    She welcomes you into her world, a fantasy in time.
    She'll placate all your questions, advise you in return,
    "You are the only one for her", your passion starts to burn.

    Enveloped by her glory, enchantedly demure,
    Anticipation takes control and spins a deadly lure.
    The club is closing quickly you realize your fate,
    You better make your move real quick; it's getting much too late.

    You've spent eight hundred dollars, perhaps a little more,
    You need two questions answered before you close the door.
    What is your real name my dear, and what pray tell your number?
    You wait for her polite reply while stifling your "hunger."

    "My real name is Vicki*, my number is right here,
    I'd love to see you real soon, from me there's none to fear"
    "I'll call you in a short time", I state in timid voice,
    "I'll take you out to dinner, and you can make the choice."



    Part 2

    Ouch

    Lunches, dinners, shopping, and times spent tenderly,
    You really feel you love this girl; she fills your heart with glee.
    You've never met a gem like this; you'll never so again,
    She's nice, she's warm, she's confident and soon you wonder when?

    When will her lips and yours first meet, when will the dream unfold?
    When will your bodies meet entwined suffice ecstatic goal?
    You need to know, you need to ask, the fever is unkempt,
    "Do I mean anything to her or should I now repent?"

    And so with courage, truth and hope you pose the query thus,
    Do I mean anything to you and what is all this fuss?
    "Do you mean anything to me? She whispers in you ear"?
    Of course you do you silly boy why else would I be here?

    "I now can pay my car loan, my boyfriend's Visa card,
    I never need go to a store, not even out my yard."
    "You're such a nice and humble guy; you've given me so much,
    And all I ever had to give was skin for you to touch.

    "I thought you knew this business, I thought you knew the game,
    There is nothing of real in this it all is very plain."
    "You mean the world to me kind man; it's ALL by my design,
    I thank you very much my dear, my little dollar sign!"

    Part 3

    Epilogue

    I still recall our moments, illusions manifold,
    and how I let my honest heart refuse to be so cold.
    I thought she really liked me, perhaps a hint of love,
    I used to think she's heaven sent, an angel from above.

    Reality is stark my friend, and sometimes hard to find.
    But one thing that I've learned from this, sweet strippers make us
    blind.
    So take my words to heart; Believe! And stop a sec to think,
    Is what you feel, the real thing, or brought on by 6 drinks.

    Have fun, enjoy, partake of life, be in control of you
    And never let a stripper in, because they are like glue.
    Never fall in love with a stripper son, she'll always break your heart
    You'll always be her ATM at whom she'll aim her dart!

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    laplover.... good poem.

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    Default Re: Dating or Married to a Stripper? What is it?

    wow that poem is so true, i fell for a stripper once lol

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    Not to have a jaded attitude, as I know I have not been on this board for a long time, BUT I have been on every side of the club business. I and do mean everyside. Customer, management, employee and even contractor......

    I was curious of others experience in the business, that was the reason for the thread and to provoke some healthy conversation. The business is a large game. Simply that. Anyone that realizes that is ahead of the game.

    It is simple about one thing and one thing only in employee's minds. That is cold hard cash....MONEY....that talks, bullshit walks!

    Sorry if I have offended some, but it is a simple fact.

    See ya @ the club....still around in one capacity or another.....probably always will be!
    Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, cigar in one hand, scotch in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming "WOO HOO what a ride!"
    ---Sex is like Money, too much is never enough.
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    To quote my wise kid brother, "It's easy to date a woman once you've seen her naked."

    My take on why certain men gravitate towards strippers? Power/ hero complexes. He'll always have "one on her" in that he "found her" in a "dump" (SC) and she should thank her lucky stars he'll keep her. Same deal with cops, a lot of them pick women who come from dysfunctional backgrounds so they can leverage the woman's desire for a respectable life and stability against how the hardships of his occupation will affect her and their kids.

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    Wow, well said........

    Hard to argue that point.................

    Glad to see someone has a REAL point of view
    Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, cigar in one hand, scotch in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming "WOO HOO what a ride!"
    ---Sex is like Money, too much is never enough.
    ---Never argue with seven men when you are carrying a six-shooter.

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    I agree with mad maxine to a point, however not all stripclubs are "dumps" and not all dancers have multiple issues in their private lives, there are decent guys that patronize clubs just as there are decent dancers who work at them. The complexities of seriously dating a dancer you meet at a club are just often more amplified than that of other "relationships". I would say some guys often like the challenges of the conquest of dating a dancer, but this usually ends up in heartaches... Also some of us just like a low maintenance issue free "no strings attatched" type of encounter and that sometimes can be found at clubs also...

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