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    Hey Y'all,

    A couple of friends and I went to a club a few weeks back, and one of my friends fell head-over-heels for a dancer there. They seemed to get along really well, and now he's convinced that she likes him.

    Not to be narrow-minded or anything, but I think that she is just really good at doing her job and has a nice personality, but she's not interested in him in THAT way and he'll be headed for a broken heartville and brokesville if this continues.

    I want to approach him and talk some sense into him, but I don't want to mess things up if it is indeed a good thing between them. Maybe I should just let'em live & learn... but to see my best buddy crash 'n burn would be also not quite right.

    Such are the complexities of the most basic emotions.

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    No matter what kind of relationship...unless that person is getting physically hurt or emotionally abused then I say stay out of it.
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    I agree...you don't want him to resent you for being the "pushy friend." (Though I can understand why you are concerned- he's your friend, and you care!)

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    Yeah, there's not much you can do really. If he's seeing her often and spending alot of money on her, he may very well be headed for trouble but it's his mistake to make. You might just try planting a seed instead of confronting him directly - ask him if she spends time with him when he's NOT paying her or if she leaves as soon as the $ is gone, and leave it at that. Whatever his answer is, just let it go - if he's got half a brain the seed will be planted and he can arrive at his own conclusion in due time. If you push it any further you'll be risking your own relationship with him and it seems you don't want that.

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    As someone who cares about him, you have the right to ask or say something once. Gently, kindly, breifly make your point. Any more than that and you are risking your relationship and not giving him credit for being an adult. But if you see him heading down a bad path, it is OK to speak up.

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