I have been thinking about getting out of the biz. Any advice?
I have been thinking about getting out of the biz. Any advice?
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Care to elaborate? Any reasons why?
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First of all, do you have enough savings? What sort of career transition are you thinking of? It's going to be tough adjusting in the first couple of months from loads of disposable income to penny pinching.
You may need to move to a cheaper place since regular office jobs don't pay as much and start budgeting. Good luck, wish you all the best.![]()
you may only need a break from dancing, why don't you quit for a while, refresh your mind and then see how things go. i quit dancing just out of the blue, boom got rid of ALL my outfits and after a while i kind of miss it. In fact i want to go back dancing, but ever since i quit my husband says he doesn't want me to go back. let us know why you want to quit, so we can better understand your situation.





It is always there and you can always go back as long as you have your sales skills. But if you want to quit ....go ahead and bid adeu to dancing. Maybe youre stressed out or burnt out? Who knows.........my suggestion is to just have enough savings and a good plan for your money until you find the job you are looking for.
you live like an ivy vine
you can only survive by clinging onto trees
that's your flaw
put down some roots so you can stand on your own
-Kenpachi
How long have you been in the biz?





Don't get rid of your outfits! Just like Candy courtland said, you may want to go back someday, even just to make a little cash for a vacation or something special. I quit for quite a while, and when I went back, outfits were a huge expense that I could have totally avoided.
Take a break, even a looooong one, but keep your options open.
Good luck!
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I agree with Colleen! Keep your outfits. I do this part time a few times a year and every time I've "given it up" I've come back for a few weeks during season, etc.
I've been in the biz for about 4 years. And I want to possibly do some bartend or cocktail waitressing instead. I'm not giving up the idea of not going back ever, but I need a change. I'm just learning about bartending, so I'm not planning to leave within the next month, but I know I'm on my way out. I'm frustrated at the business. And it's not about the money, I'm fine with what I'm making. I just feel that there is more to me than this. I'm also starting to notice, myself changing in a way that is harmful to my loved ones, including my boyfriend. I find that I'm not leaving my frustration for the job at work, and I don't think I will, unless I quit for a while. He loves me and is bothered by the job, but he is not giving me an ultimatum. I'm kinda over dancing, right now. I know I'll probably do it during the holidays or when times are aliitle tough, but I don't want to soley depend on this job for income. i hope you guys can understand.
Happy Birthday......Mr. President.
Best wishes and good luck. Hope all turns out all right.


Getting out was my hardest part. I really couldnt afford the keep the things i had in the long run if I quit. I met my hubby and that changed. He took over my truck payment and I ended up moving with him. If it wasn't for him, I know that I wouldnt have quit when i did. But now i know what i wanted to do when I got out.
he's not ready to be married, but I'm definitely feeling this is unfair to our relationship. I've become selfish, self absorbed, and unattentive. This job has helped me fiancially, but it has a negative impact on my emotional and mental life.
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and that it will have if you let it. You have to learn to let it go and mentally block it out. Try to look into something else. I went from dancing to my mortgage job that I LOVE>>>
Yeah, after a while, I couldn't keep my mind on the ball. And i know my frustration is partly due to that, and when i would get a strong desire to get up and focus again, I lose steam...
How did you manage getting the mortgage job? I'm not interested in real estate, but i always wonder how to deal with explaining your "qualifications" to your next employer.
I have started writing down things i need to settle before i stop..so I have a plan.
Happy Birthday......Mr. President.
to add to my previous post..I don't have much job experience before dancing other than working the counter a photo lab for 2 years.
Happy Birthday......Mr. President.
do what you want ! life is short. go to school, stay in the biz, learn a trade, or move somewhere different. the $ will come just follow your heart and your instincts. you're never too old to make a change.
I just got out of the biz temporaly becuse i needed to. I also noticed negtive changes in my self and scince being out of the biz i feel better both mentally and physicaly my marriage is going better to.(he was never upset about me being in though) I just fell all over better. But i do plan to return to this biz in about 2 years when move to a differnt post and I am going to do things differntly and I am only going to it part time. I would never give up my outfits even if i was never going back. I love them I call my dance bag my toy box i have all kinds of stuff that cost me alot of money and i love it and i would not want anthor girl dancing in my stuff. But thats just me.![]()
Unfortunately, the negative changes has put a real strain on my relationships with people in my life. I lie at work and i've been lying to myself. Obviously I'm not planning to quit cold turkey right away, but I'm exploring other options, like bartending. I want to ease myself out of the business, by working less and less as time goes on and more and more with my other pursuits. I have come up with a financial budget and savings plan incase I decide to throw up my hands and leave the biz cold turkey, because I can't take it anymore.
once again, thank you guys for all your support.
Happy Birthday......Mr. President.





Well, Jessica, you obviously retired in your prime![]()





Have you really got a complete understanding of your frustrations? We all get frustrated with this job. For me over the years I've had family and friends who don't dance treat me unfairly. And dealing with arrogant guys of course gets old.
I've wanted to quit for years, but upon looking at making money and dealing with people outside this business there are still problems and pressures.
I get grumpy from time to time when I get off work, and sometimes get snappy with my fiancee'. He's totally cool about dancing and doesn't have weird jealousies, but he believes it should be a means to an end. I've become more focused on getting something out of this business since being with him as he believes in making money in unconventional ways. If I had been with someone 10 years ago who kept me focused, I would have been farther ahead now.
My thoughts are, to face the fact that every job has problems, and to really look at getting enough money out of this business to pave the way for the rest of your life. If you don't, you will at some point regret it.
What are the reasons deep down that you are so upset? What is happening at work to cause you to experience the emotional problems you are having? if you can't identify and come to terms with those issues now, I guarantee you they will come up again no matter what type of work you are doing.
I think it's cool to learn how to bartend, but I don't think it's an even replacement for dancing. It may give you additional skills to run or own a liquor oriented business down the road though.If you haven't paved the way through your dancing to be able to be more financially secure when you retire than you are now, you may never forgive yourself or have the chance you have now to gain access to instant cash.
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