-Hi everyone. Please bare with me on this.I really appreciate the opinions of both females and males.
-I casually date a guy that I met off of "American On Line" last August. I am 21 and he is 23. Unfortunately we finally met a week before he went away to school in Michigan.(His parents live by my hometown of Philadelphia ) From that time until now, we have only gotten to see eachother 3 times.(During his breaks).We talked on the phone, but talked online more often when we did not see eachother. We debated alot and it did not seem like anything I really cared about, nor did I think he cared much.(Debates piss me off)
-This past month and a half, he started to call more, and open up a little more about feeling a connection.(Saying he missed me and was always excited to see me) I also started to open up because I have had some feelings that had been slowly developing as well the past few months.( I have no clue how though)
-I was excited last week when he told me he might come home on Thursday(that just passed) and invited me to a barbecue with his friends.( Told me he was "serious"about this bbq) Last Wed, he never mentioned it online that he would not be coming to his hometown... and then i did not hear from him that whole week until Monday night when he called.(on his way back home at the airport)* PLease note we are not on a daily phone chat basis, so i have no clue why he would decide to call THAT night,right before he boarded a plane.
-My questions are:
1.Was I out of line to confront the fact that he invited me somewhere, was in the state, and did not bother to call me until he was in a Chicago airport on his way home.?
2. I understand that it is only a casual thing... but i am now starting to get more feelings. If a guy really looked forward to seeing a girl, do you think it is too much to atleast TRY to see me, some how,since he traveled to Pa?(He stayed 3 hours away from my hometown on his trip)
3. 2 months after we met ,he came home for xmas break ,but i did not see him. He never confronted me about it, nor brought it up to me. Do you think I still have a right to be mad if we did not have as much "supposed" feelings back then?
Sorry this is so long. Basically, my conclusion is that he really just is not into seeing me that much. If he has the chance to fly home and see his buds, he would rather do that.
Ladies would you be mad if this happened to you? Men would you have found a way to see a girl ,that you really wanted to see, if you were in the exact type of situation?
Should I just end it so i do not get more feelings? (I am emotional)
Or accept the fact that it is still very casual,and just play it by year each time he comes. Does it sound like it can develop?
Thank you



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You need to learn how to express what kind of behavior is acceptable without ripping his insides out. But, allowing someone to continually do things that you are not comfortable with only causes problems.



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