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    I am so stressed out, I don't know what to do. I just finished my real estate class and will be testing for my license in September, and 2 weeks ago I was offered a position as a mortgage loan officer 30 miles away from my home. I saw the job as a great opportunity to get some experience in the industry as well as a way to possibly make good money. The job pays minimum wage plus commission and I was told that typically new loan officers don't close any deals within their first month meaning I would likely be stuck on minimum wage for a while. I work from 7am to 4pm, but it takes me an hour to travel each way, and since gas is so high, it's costing me about $70/wk just to get there! Obviously I have to dance until things pick up at the office but its stressful. I get off at 4pm, get home around 5/5:30, then work from 8pm to 2am, then turn around and wake up at 5 to leave home by 6 and do it all over again! I'm often so tired from working 9 hours/day and traveling 2 in traffic that I don't make much money at night, meaning I have to work more nights to bank. Then I'm so tired from working at night that I can't focus at the office in the day! I'm thinking of quitting but I feel that that may be the weak, easy way out and that if I just keep going and trying my best, this will eventually pay off and I won't have to dance at all anymore. The other part of me, though, feels that if I have to dance every night to earn a decent living anyway, and I'm only getting paid $295 per 48 hrs. of work at the office, I should just quit this phoo-phooey job that is taking all my time, money and energy, and wait until something better (or at least closer) comes along. Help!!!

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    I have 2 jobs as well. I'm now stripping fri and sat and whenever there's a holiday or personal day the next day like tomorrow i'm off and I'm working tonight. That's just because the new club i started working in it's an 8 to 4am shift no exceptions . But when I worked at a club that closed at 2 the mgrs would work w/ my schedule (hopefully they can w/ u?) Like can you work 6- 12am instead or leave a little early?? You have to plan ahead and take your dance clothes w/ u to your day job. Other than that just work on Fri and Sats if you're allowed at your club. I know is stressful and you'll definitely need to make some adjustments because this new job sounds demanding and it's going to require your mental energy. If your club can't be flexible w/ u I suggest you look for another one. Good luck!

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    wow 8 to 4? that's a really long time to be forced to work. you make me feel silly for ever complaining about my situation at all girl! good luck to you.

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    yah...well my day job is 9 to 5pm. So yah, I can only do it if i'm not working the next day. But you're situation is rough. My day job is not too demanding, i can pretty much roll out of bed at 8:20 am

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    I would quit and wait for something closer to home to open up. During this time save as much $$$ as you can so if this situation arises again, you won't be as financially stressed.

    Quitting one job is not the easy way out, it's self preservation. All the stress and sleep deprevation is taking a toll on you physically and mentally. How are you going to be able to excell at either job when you feel like sh*t all the time?

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    Try to work the minimum the club allows, typically in many markets three days. If you can do two or one day, try for it. The danger, (which I have experiened first had with ATF) is that people from work will show up at the c lub, which may not be good for a mortgage loan
    officer job which is your long term goal. I was amazed when I found out that bars in Georgia and in Texas do the 8 to 4 a,m, shirft as the night shift. 4 a.m. closing is insane for those in a 9 - 5 p.m. day job scenario. then I observed first hand the amount of business
    done between 10 p.m. and 3 a.m. Tended to trend down on week nights a 3 to 4 a.m.

    Schedule suggestion. Try to work Friday and Saturday for sure. Give you Sunday to recover and Saturday day to sleep. Try Wednesday night as the week night.

    Try to start early at 6 p.m. Go directly to the club from work or go home quick and shower.
    Eat dinner at the club. Perhaps your costume and makeup and hair won't be as perfect
    Wednesday but thats the trade off. If you punch in with the DJ at 6 rather than 8 p.m.,
    maybe you would be eligible to leave at 2 a.m. or 1 a.m. If its a $20 fine pay it and leave at 1 a.m.

    Try to work the late shift Thrusday at the mortgage company. 10 a.m. to 8 p.m. would be ideal.

    Any combination of this plan will help you out. Thursday during day job will be a drag
    however.

    Most clubs are happy to have some night shift overlap between 6 and 8 p.m. In my favorite club they've even had to hold the day shift over when almost the entire night shift
    shows up late. The day shift dancers do not like this as they have other things to do,
    usually child care or home duties. You could approach management with the plan that on Wednesday you would be helping them as a backup during shift change time.

    If necessary offer to do it Saturday. I would not offer on Friday but thats your business.

    This gives you a straddle position on your income, with your dancer income continuing,
    and your new job in a training mode and minimizes your future risk.

    Comment: Working like this means you will not have a personal life. It will be job one and
    SC job 2 all the time. Get a cleaning service for your condo.

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    You can get into the mortgage business without having to be locked into a 40 hour a week job. You can get your foot in the door working for an independent broker coming in as you want and working on leads. There is a lot of flexible hour work in this business.

    You could PM Venus Goddess and her boyfriend Scorpio, who is a mortgage broker could give you some info on how to break into the business without being an employee.

    That way you could still dance 4-5 nights a week and still be building a career in the mortgage business.

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    Egads do I ever understand what that feels like. I now have 4 jobs.
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    Thank you for all of the advice ladies. You have given lots of wonderful suggestions. Paige, how do you have 4 jobs? That's a lot!

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