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    Some of the other posts have made me think about asking this question here to get some feedback.

    Over the years I have had many a customer say this to me. And by looking at them...well, I just wonder how many of them were just regular customers with the fantasy that they were "dating" (I know we sometimes build friendships with these customers where we hang out, go to dinner, shopping etc)

    Some of them realistically could have dated a dancer but I kind of have felt that it is not as they directly imply.

    What is your opinion when you hear a less than attractive male custy telling you they used to date a dancer?

    Or maybe I am the only one who hears this quite a bit?

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    laugh silently and know its probably bs. Unless they paid for it they probably didnt get any.
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    a less than attractive male custy...
    What does attractive have to do with anything? We ought to know how fleeting that is, and an asshole will still be an asshole when he's fat and balding.

    Yeah, most of them are lying/exaggerating, though they may or may not know it. Those are the guys who pull out the whole, "What's your REAL name? Don't play that stripper gig with me; I'm on to you, cookie, and I believed my mom when she said I was special."
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    Yeah, I was kind of reluctant to put the whole "less than attractive" bit in there as it really doesn't have a LOT to do with it...but when I thought honestly about it...I have had different opinions when the guy was more attractive. But the truth is, I myself have dated men who wouldn't be considered attractive to everyone and certainly not in ten years! So...

    by stating that, I just made the question a little more refined I guess...if that makes sense. Feel free to take it in any direction ...

    i.e. conversations with customers that actually DID date dancers etc....(which is cool because they understand the business.... and tend to not be the weirdos of the bunch....)

    Sorry if the original post sounded shallow....

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    Default Re: "I used to date a dancer!"

    Instead of less than attractive we also have: loser, dirtbag, criminal or felon, and about 30 other words that fit. LOL
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    Default Re: "I used to date a dancer!"

    Quote Originally Posted by cassidykarma
    Some of the other posts have made me think about asking this question here to get some feedback.

    Over the years I have had many a customer say this to me. And by looking at them...well, I just wonder how many of them were just regular customers with the fantasy that they were "dating" (I know we sometimes build friendships with these customers where we hang out, go to dinner, shopping etc)

    Some of them realistically could have dated a dancer but I kind of have felt that it is not as they directly imply.

    What is your opinion when you hear a less than attractive male custy telling you they used to date a dancer?

    Or maybe I am the only one who hears this quite a bit?
    lol

    Alot of guys use this line!!!!!

    Just my opinion.

    But its just a way for the custie to say"I know the secret handshake,im ok,let me in."


    Just another angle.

    But when i hear a custie say it,if its a pretty boy,Im thinking he hit quit a few and its going to be drama.
    If its not a pretty boy,chances are,his "dates"cost him money.

    Either way,its just a pick up line IMO.

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    Default Re: "I used to date a dancer!"

    Sounds like another pick up line to me. Oh well,

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    I feel foolish for not thinking that it was some sort of pick up line....lol...and I have been dancing for nearly 11 years! I have never gotten that impression (as they don't try to pick me up per se after using it). I suppose it makes sense though that it's an in for them...as in ...I am the safe guy... your "friends" have trusted me etc.

    Ha!

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    Yeah some guys are clearly bulshitting. They're the ones who say it with emphasis and wait for your reaction, and/or when discussing certain biz details they're clueless.

    Some of those guys really have and they don't make a big show of informing you.

    However I think in most cases it's still a line or at least an attempt to make you 'relax' more around them for whatever reason. Some of the real mccoys may not have any ulterior motives for mentioning it, but most are trying to get somewhere with it...

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    Default Re: "I used to date a dancer!"

    Here's another good one I get from time to time.... "You look so much like my ex wife/gf!"

    LMAO - and now sorry for the shallowness in it....but um....I have to think most times .... "FUCKING WHATEVER? Did she have blonde hair too?!?!?!?"

    Anyone else ever get this one?

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    Default Re: "I used to date a dancer!"

    My kid's mom was a Dancer (when i met her), but i certainly didn't know any 'secret handshakes' or any inside info other than very, very basic stuff (I.E. she used to use the term 'Dancer-Mode' to describe how she was at work). Honestly, before i started reading on SW, a line like that wouldn't have gotten me very far because i wouldn't have been able to back it up... Really the only thing i knew that most guys wouldn't was that she hated dressing up or dressing sexy unless there was an 'occasion', because she was stuck doing it all night. Other than that it was just like any other gf i ever had. Well, other than the fact that she had more money than i did, that is.

    I don't think i ever mentioned it to anyone in a SC, but i've never really thought about it before. I can think of better lines to use, anyway.

    Later on, around 1997, i dated this one girl who danced bikini, but she didn't do it long (I can't remember if it was even two weeks). Deceptively similar to any other relationship, I guess that aspect isn't one that bragging over ever occurred to me.


    P.S. Whoever heard of using an X-gf as a line, anyway? Isn't talking about exes frowned upon in the first place?

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    If they seem to know alot about the business, and the exact club you are working in,
    including who's dating who amoung the staff, and operational issues.... they probably did date a dancer. Many of the operational and details about SC are obscure to most customers. If they seem to understand the business, where did they get the information and knowledge?

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    What is 'dating'? '.... I've certainly had my share of relationships but I haven't done much 'dating', if any... isn't that something people used to do back in the fifties?

    That said, if I used to date a surgeon, and I met a surgeon, I would probably mention that I used to date a surgeon... it just seems like a natural thing you would say....

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    "What's your REAL name? Don't play that stripper gig with me; I'm on to you, cookie, and I believed my mom when she said I was special."

    ROFLMAO! OMG that is soooo true, I hate that shit. Too funny! Whenever I get hit with the "What's your REAL name" b/s I always make up a real sounding name and it's too funny to watch them crack a grin like "Now we are getting somewhere!" even though it's still a b/s name. Men can be so fucking stupid!

    "What's your real name?"
    "Samantha."
    "Well Samantha... I'm sooo glad to meet you"

    It's like hey asshole they ain't my real name either but just because it isn't "Foxey" they believe it. Retards! Why can't they just respect the fact that we have stage names for a reason and knowing our "real" name doesn't change shit.
    In a black light trance, then go go dance...

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    Default Re: "I used to date a dancer!"

    or ask them "whats yours" back and when they tell you ask them for their real name.
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    Quote Originally Posted by amylynnej
    laugh silently and know its probably bs. Unless they paid for it they probably didnt get any.
    Right, cause no dancer in the WORLD would date a guy you find unattractive.

    Quote Originally Posted by BigGreenMnM
    lol
    Alot of guys use this line!!!!!
    Just my opinion.
    But its just a way for the custie to say"I know the secret handshake,im ok,let me in."
    Just another angle.
    But when i hear a custie say it,if its a pretty boy,Im thinking he hit quit a few and its going to be drama.
    If its not a pretty boy,chances are,his "dates"cost him money.
    Either way,its just a pick up line IMO.
    Pickup lines are all about timing. He could have just been trying to start a conversation one of the few ways he knows how. He may have dated a dancer, doesn't make him a cunning linguist.

    I chuckle because maybe 50 out of 100 custys know how the whole thing works. There are those Nieve customers *cough*me*cough* that went to a club before going online and assumed the hype was true, dancers are soulless prostitutes, but I tried it, and I learned, but let me tell you how awkwardly uncomfortable my first convo was.

    By the way, opinion 100% changed. Dancing is an awesome job imho.


    Quote Originally Posted by amylynnej
    Instead of less than attractive we also have: loser, dirtbag, criminal or felon, and about 30 other words that fit. LOL
    God you're abrasive, its kinda sexy, but you left out 'CoWorker'
    sorry, there are more people in the world stereotyping you as a piece of shit because you'll take your clothes off for this 'Loser, Dirtbag, Criminal, or Felon' for a small amount of money. What really makes you think you have the upper hand, or that you are any different than the lady down the street with her kids who says all dancers are hookers?
    Not my opinion, but you seem to be very 'I'm better than anyone who walks through that door'-ish I'm just curious as to why it as to be a catorgorization anyways? Maybe he's just a guy who was dating a dancer. Or maybe he was using it as an in. Either way, if he's a Felon, and he's true, one of you dated him!

    Quote Originally Posted by Foxey
    "What's your REAL name? Don't play that stripper gig with me; I'm on to you, cookie, and I believed my mom when she said I was special."

    ROFLMAO! OMG that is soooo true, I hate that shit. Too funny! Whenever I get hit with the "What's your REAL name" b/s I always make up a real sounding name and it's too funny to watch them crack a grin like "Now we are getting somewhere!" even though it's still a b/s name. Men can be so fucking stupid!

    "What's your real name?"
    "Samantha."
    "Well Samantha... I'm sooo glad to meet you"

    It's like hey asshole they ain't my real name either but just because it isn't "Foxey" they believe it. Retards! Why can't they just respect the fact that we have stage names for a reason and knowing our "real" name doesn't change shit.
    Hah BEFORE coming here, I thought that was polite, to ask a real name. Again I had the image in my head that the profession was based on depression so I thought I was being polite. I admit my lack of education and now I never ask. However one of my most recents told me her real name and said the dancer name was for everyone else. Like I've always said, if there is something there out of the work requirements, you'll be the first to know. But what do I know, I'm a self admitted "Total Loser" *head shake*. EITHER WAY, Men can be SUPAH stupid, but that doesn't mean its intentional. I am sure my first few visits are referenced in a post here somewhere, I was BAD. But thats another thread. I ALMOST did the flowers thing, thank god I found this site.

    I wasn't in love or anything, but I >love< to make people smile, and with my uneducated opinion that all dancers are working off some form of depression, I did enjoy sitting moreso than dancing, I just had to read a few posts here to realize that 9 time out of 10, its Jackson/Grant/Franklin making her smile not my charm.

    My point is, yea their in there to have a good time one way or another, I just can't believe ever sentence from every PL is one more sentence closer to asking for an OTC session.

    OH! I meant to add that Foxy handled it perfectly, I'm sure it gets annoying, but don't show it. I can only imagine how many dancers rolled their eyes secretly when I said 'Is that you're real name?' 'No Its Shanikanawannaloopy' 'Oh, which do you prefer to be called?'
    I was an idiot

    My 2 cents

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    Because I am different than they are. he is paying me to see me of course, not the other way around. and while I may wear skimpy outfits at clubs, malls etc I dont show for free so in essense yes I am different than a skank who puts out for free. Ive been dating the same guy for 3 years and hes the only person I have sex with not that its any of your business.
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    I'd own up to being friendly with several dancers - enough that we go round each other's houses, have meals, etc. Have I slept with them? Nope - they're just fun friendships.

    Worst that happens is when I take one of them out for a meal; that tends to end in a kiss or two - but that's because the relationship is very affectionate and that's just the way we feel about it. (There are one or two reasons why neither of us will let it go any further than that.)

    I will go to meet these dancers towards the end of their shifts - more normally because I'm giving them a lift home. Because the dancers and I tend to behave affectionately towards each other, (preferably out of sight of the bulk of the customers), I sometimes get asked by the other girls on the shift what's the nature of the relationship between dancer "X" and I - that's good old female curiosity at work.

    I've also heard my dancer friend being quietly asked about who I am. On being told that I'm a friend I find I tend to get treated differently - no longer a customer; more as a man safe to talk in normal conversation.

    In both of these cases there is no possibility of bluffing about the friendship: my dancer friend is there to be asked by the other girls - very possibly out of earshot of me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by amylynnej
    Because I am different than they are. he is paying me to see me of course, not the other way around. and while I may wear skimpy outfits at clubs, malls etc I dont show for free so in essense yes I am different than a skank who puts out for free. Ive been dating the same guy for 3 years and hes the only person I have sex with not that its any of your business.
    There you go again assuming on
    'He said that he dated a dancer'
    That he's ugly, and a loser, possibly a felon, and probably paid for sex. Then in this post you assume the 'Dancer' is a skank and that if he did in fact bang her it was for free.

    I just dunno how your catagorizing him seperates him from your boyfriend?

    But you're right, its none of my business and I really don't want it to be. But check it out, you're pointing out no one on the blue site mentioned they wanted to have sex with you, you bash every patron in the world on assumptions, here's an assumption of my own.

    Quote Originally Posted by amylynnej
    I am different than a skank who puts out for free. Ive been dating the same guy for 3 years and hes the only person I have sex with not that its any of your business.
    Chances are he's jobless, unsupportive, and cheating on you. I bet he's a ditch digger, and all his money goes to another club down the street where he's telling the dancer there that he used to date a dancer, you, so that he can get in and possibly extras.

    You know what? Its not true, I'm sure it isn't. Not mocking you, but I bet you're better than that. you don't need to tell me, you know nothing of this guy from this post, like I know NOTHING about your boyfriend. Yet you're ready to call him a felon simply because he said he used to date a dancer. I guess to be more fair in my assumption I should say you're boyfriend is probably in jail now.

    Sheesh, whats worse is I bet you're a nice person in reality too.

    You said once you're just a little more brutally honest. There is no honesty in your comments, just raw, drab, almost borderline racism-like hatred towards these people.

    Honestly, tho amlynne, I wont address it anymore, not being a prick, but this isn't the place for it anyhoo ya know?

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    woah. lol. you couldnt be further than the truth on any of this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
    Right, cause no dancer in the WORLD would date a guy you find unattractive.
    Most dancers wont date a guy the OTHER dancers dont find attractive.

    Most guys had better be rich,or really fuckin purty,or they are just a custie,maybe a reg,but a custie non the less.

    even guys like me,with super human penis membranes,dont rate except for the occasional bootey call.

    Guys should just figure it out,if they aint pretty,deal drugs,or look like bradd pittb playing the pauper,you stand the same chances as a snowball in hell.
    Actually,I think thats where the phrase was coined,in a strip club.

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    if theyre drug dealers theyre losers anyway so how does that help them.

    lol
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    Oh yeah, my response to this line is always, "yeah, and...?" Usually shuts them up cuz they see I am totally unimpressed.

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    Dancers date drug dealers! DUH!

    Big Greeny: Yea, I know. I just can't imagine there are no exceptions to that rule.

    Seriously, how many dancers on this board are dating a guy that isn't loaded, they met them in the club, and are blissfully happy? Oh and which do they look like? Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise?
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