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    Default Do you tell people that you strip?

    I just recently started dancing (I love it!), and I have told my close family what I do, but when I'm at Thanksgiving dinner or when the check-out lady at the supermarket asks me what i do, I'm at a loss for words! One the one hand, I like my job and I work hard, so I'm not ashamed, but at the same time do people I don't really know need to know that I'm a stripper? I don't care what others think exactly, but when I tell people I'm a dancer, it either turns into this huge conversation w/ a million Q's, or I'm just treated like a ho after I tell them. I'm just wondering how everyone else handles this and what they tell acquaintances and people they are just small-talking w/. Also when you meet a guy, do you tell them upfront, or wait a little bit? Thanks!

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    Default Re: Do you tell people that you strip?

    Tell them you are a Customer Service Representative!

    Or, I usually tell people that I don't want to get into it with that I work at a bar.
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    Default Re: Do you tell people that you strip?

    There was just a huge thread about this called..."what do you do?" or something like that....

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    I don't dance yet, but when I do I'm not going to be telling anybody (except Mox).

    Everyone thinks I'm the "good" one in the family- why would I want to screw that up?

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    Default Re: Do you tell people that you strip?

    Quote Originally Posted by Blueyez
    Tell them you are a Customer Service Representative!
    That's actually pretty good, and technically you aren't lying! It only may become problematic if you are asked for details.

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    Default Re: Do you tell people that you strip?

    Depends on my mood, the situation and if I care about that persons opinion of me. My neighbors and BF's family think I'm a cocktail waitress at a gentlemen's club. Casual aqauintences think I'm a makeup artist (that was my job before dancing) and people that I won't ever see again know I'm an entertainer.

    I could really care less if a complete stranger has any preconcieved notions about strippers so they get the truth. The aquaintences are people I meet at functions like weddings and Christmas parties where I don't think it's appropriate to blurt out "I'm a stripper!" In addition, you don't want someone whispering behind your back the next time you run into them at a shindig.

    As for the neighbors and signifigant others' parents, I need to explain why I keep odd hours and work 3 days a week while living comfortably. In order to make it convincing it needs to be a half truth. I do work in a gentlemens' club, I'm just not a server... I don't want my neighbors to think I'm doing mountains of cocaine everytime I have a cold or fear that I may bring a bad element into the HOA because of my "lifestyle". As much as my BF's family loves me, I don't know too many senior citizens that would be proud that thier son has found himself a nice stripper to settle down with.

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    I tell people I am a nanny. I was until recently, so its easier to lie. People usually aren't that interested so they shut up. I'm not ashamed, but I'd rather not have to deal with the burden of people's stereotypes. Only my closest friends (who think it's cool) and my sister (who's danced for 10 years) know that I dance. Maybe in the future, when I have more to show for my $ I'll come out of the closet to the rest of my family.

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    Family and close friends know what I do. Strangers, not so much. I only get strangers asking me what I do for a living when I go to pay for largish purchases with small bills like 1's and 5's.

    At that point I like to make stuff up to see if I get a reaction out of the person asking. Or if they ask if you are a waitress, you can respond "no, why do you ask??" They will say something about all the 1's and you can say something like: you ask for it like that from your bank because it makes it look like more money.

    I like to say that I pan handle the corner of 18th and Broadway. Then hand over $400 in 1's and 5's to the person saying that yesterday was a little slow.

    They usually know that it is a joke, and don't ask any more questions. Sometimes the person takes me seriously, and gets a weird look on his/her face (probably thinking about how it takes them 40+ hours to earn that kind of money, and this person just holds up a sign for one day???)


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    Default Re: Do you tell people that you strip?

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=26792

    this is that link to a similar thread

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    Default Re: Do you tell people that you strip?

    Another thread that is relevant - http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=44586

    Plus there are various threads about how family and friends have handled each of us 'coming out' to them esp. in Ladies Only. I know I have a thread there (SUBJECT:Is what I'm doing immoral?)


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    Nobody but my husband and other friends that work in the industry know that I dance. I find that most people find stripping socially unacceptable. I usually say my husband own's his own business and I'm a housewife or that I am cocktail waitress. My family thinks the later one. I don't think it's anyone's business personally. I am self-employed as far as taxes are concerned. I don't think one is degraded unless they allow themselves to be.

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    I'm in school so usually the student thing works well..... Someone asked how I paid for it, my reply is schorships ( happens to be my nickname for my boobs )

    I also work part-time at the local ER so noone really questions my hours since I work 7pm-7am twice a week there....

    Honestly though, my SO and my parents know so those are the only people in my life that need to know.

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    I just blurt it out. Only my parents and my school-aged neices and nephews don't know for sure. They think I am a cocktail waitress.


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    I tell everyone. I worked way too long and way too hard at losing weight after high school not to be extremely proud of the fact that I'm finally "good looking enough" to be a stripper. I went from 215 to 150, that's 65 pounds. So yeah I stick my nose straight in the air, give them a once over and say "I'm an exotic dancer." and if anyone is getting treated like shit after that, it's them. Here is another good line to answer with though, tell them you are a "visual stimulation technician" and yeah I agree the 20 questions after you tell someone is definately annoying. I didn't tell my parents at first but eventually they figured it out... you're kidding yourself if you think yours won't, either that or they are really stupid.
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    Default Re: Do you tell people that you strip?

    If you're going to make up a story:
    As the potential guy being told....I think I'd come closest to believing "Late Shift Cocktail Waitress". Why else would someone have to work so late at night. Also, it's probably the least far from the truth of potential story options so tripping up on lies won't be a huge cloud hanging over you. Another idea to explain your odd hours: "I work at a company that has alot of Asian customers" - very true, but they assume you're referring to a -12 hour time difference, not actual physical customers in the joint!

    Re: the impact of telling the truth:
    Obviously depends on who you're telling. If it's a guy like me that, a) doesn't personally know much at all about your industry , b) goes to strip clubs maybe 2-3 times/year, c) has never personally known a stripper (that I'm aware of!), and d) you want to be friends with them, then, from my perspective, and I think that of MY friends: I'd just tell them that you're a stripper. You don't have to squirm around and call it something creative - intelligent people will make the connection quickly. I don't think the stigma with MY friends is bad...we don't know enough about the downside.

    In fact, I met a woman in Paris the other day who really didn't know how to put it...I think she was calling it a dancer - danseuse. I knew exactly what she did immediately. She started explaining that she wanted to get out of it, etc... she didn't have to do that. My honest initial reaction was: "well, isn't that interesting...I'll bet she's alot of fun...it would probably spice up my dull ass a bit." I was going to call her up to go out, but just haven't, and honestly, the fact that she's a stripper hasn't effected my willingness to date her or be friends with her...at all. I think most of my friends would be in that category...highest educated guys possible. One of the reasons I'm here is to find out what strippers are like...what it would be like to date one...their lifestyle, etc...

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    Why not be a librarian? Or an independent contractor? Whatever works...........if you're not my close friend or family, I've learned it's better off not to tell people your business, esp. guys for the simple fact that they'll think you're easy buns and won't see you as a person.
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    I tell everyone what I do. I'm not ashamed. I'm working on a bumper sticker for it. Heeeee.

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    Most dancers I know only tell a small and trusted circle of people what they do. Too many people wanting to be judgemental on too little experience of what dancers do or are really like.

    As to the flip side of the coin...I count several dancers as friends - and have never had the slightest inclination to tell my more conventional friends how they earn a living.

    Two reasons for that. Firstly, as I said above, people can be judgmental and I'd rather people react towards my dancer friends as a person and not based on what they do.

    Secondly, I've always though that it's a dancers privilage to tell, (or not tell), people what they do. I've no intention of pre-empting their decision.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mia M
    I don't know too many senior citizens that would be proud that thier son has found himself a nice stripper to settle down with.
    LMAO!!

    Hm, working at a bar's a good one... Do they usually ask which bar? There's a gay bar next to my club called the "Brass Rail" lol!!! That would be perfect!
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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    I tell everyone what I do. I'm not ashamed. I'm working on a bumper sticker for it. Heeeee.
    You know what they say: the fewer fibs you tell, the less you have to remember...

    which is not meant to be a judgement on those who choose to keep it secret... whatever works...

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    I tell everyone flat out.If they have something negative to say I don't need them in my life to start with and I can weed them out right away.There is nothing to be ashamed of,stripping is perfectly legal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FallenFairy69
    There is nothing to be ashamed of, stripping is perfectly legal.
    And so unfortunately is being a grade A moron willing and able to make idiot comments about stripping when they find out you're a dancer.

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    I told Rhiannon I stripped, and she went all CRAZY on me. I mean started throwing dishes and everything. We tried to work things out but she just never got over it. Every arguement she brought it up:
    <Mast> Hey Hunny, I did the dishes and am watching the baby, I poured you a bath cause I love you.
    <Rhiannon> do you do this for all your hussies? Or is this saved for the VIP room?

    It gets old fast, I eventually just left her when she was out with the kids. I wanted to make it painless... she's handling it ok, but I dunno anymore, I just wish she understood me.

    Well now I'm with AmyLynneJ, and I dunno how she'd take it if I told her. I asked FBR but he told me it was best that I keep it to myself for a while, she's kinda a prude, but thats what I love about her, I dated her back in 97 in kansas, and she hasn't changed a bit. I may pop the question sometime soon, but I dunno how yet.

    In short, its nice having a second identity, like on the internet that only you and a select few know, tell who you think will be mature enough to handle it. It is a shock, because most peope probably would say 'WHOA! I never woulda expected it.' I mean I'm 4'8" 277lbs and I make the most at my club, but I'm shy outta work with my family, so when I told them they where ok, I just lost my first love over it. But thats ok, I'm on to bigger and better legs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FallenFairy69
    I tell everyone flat out.If they have something negative to say I don't need them in my life to start with and I can weed them out right away.There is nothing to be ashamed of,stripping is perfectly legal.
    This is my logic exactly. I don't like to lie, and I certainly don't want to have to explain to my son why I tell people something that is not true. Besides, I woudl feel extremely uncomfortabel with any group of people who I felt, if they foundn out what I really do they would never want to be around me. Better to weed them out early on, like FallenFairy69 says!


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