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    I have gone to this strip club 3 times and all 3 times I have had my eye on this one exotic dancer. (I AM A FEMALE)
    The first time I got a dance from her,she told one of my friends that not many women turn her on but i did....while she danced for me I told her how beautiful she was...and she was sexy..we only had small talk exchanging names
    The second time i went in the club she noticed me right away and remembered that I had gone their 2 weeks ago, she came to my table and talked with me a little. now I know that is her job but i sensed a little more
    This last time I went she was flirting and while she danced for other people looked for me and maintained eye contact with me
    While she was on the stage she looked for me and winked etc i mean flirting galore! She was also telling my friends at the table that I was hers and she wanted to take me home.
    So I was bold and left my number on a dollar bill
    I walked up to the stage and told her to read the dollar when she got a chance.
    She later came back and said I read and and I put it away..
    Before the night was over I got one more dance from her and as I was about to pay she told me to put my money away! Now I was confused was she interested?
    doesnt she make her living like this ? Anyhow before the night was over I went to the stage she was dancing on and said good bye ,have a wonderful night, and told her to call me if she wanted..
    Ok was she interested?? or am I just playing into her game to make me come back to the club??is this a lost cause?

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    Being a female doesnt necessarily entitle you to a hall pass. For now, unless you get the phone call for free OTC, I'd assume its SS.

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    What is SS (new to this)

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    Stripper Shit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by linda7170
    What is SS (new to this)
    Sorry about that linda.

    SS= Stripper Shit (in other words working you)

    OTC = Outside The Club

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    oh ok, Thanks for the responce usually I go to clubs and I know that it s just a fantasy etc..Never came across someone like *her*, I was just wondering.
    No biggie just curious cause this is the first time a dancer has actually said and acted that way towards me. Usually they just ask me "why im not a dancer and that I would make lots of money etc."..short and to the point.

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    I am a female customer as well. One of my favorite dancers gives me the same treatment you got on occassion (when I spend lots of money on her). I spent around $200 on her one night, got lots of attention from her during her stage sets, got lots of extra love during our dances and my hot seat on stage, and got chased out of the club to be hugged good-bye. You usually get more "free" attention when you've already been spending on her. She's thanking you for the help on the car payment; and she's getting you hooked (possibly hoping to keep you as a regular). Makes you want to go back for more right? Yes ma'am it does. Also tends to turn on some male customers that she's giving another female lots of attention (they might buy you a dance from her just to see her turn up the action, or get a dance from her because they like bi women). Who knows? It's possible she likes you. You'll know that if you get a phone call. If not, consider yourself a mouse in the cat's game. Please don't get your hopes up, it only leads to hurt. Good luck!
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    linda I think the thing to remember is that dancers dance to make a living. its work just like you and i do every day. in your case, this dancer was "flirting" with you. dancers are by trade actresses and most are quite skilled at it. us guys see it every time we go to the club. perhaps the woman in question actually was attracted to you..perhaps not... but odds are even if you did make her a little wet shes viewing you as part of her income stream not as a potential romantic partner.

    reality sucks doesnt it.

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    Linda, i'm sorry to admit that i find it a little vindicating to hear about a WOMAN finally having to put up with this chick stuff...

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    Thanks its good to hear that someone else has experienced this too.
    Im not going to expect a call but*she was hot* ,although im not lookin Im sure I can find someone who is hotter and not a dancer.
    I just wish she did not say things like im going to take you home etc ...keep the talking to a minimum and the dancing to a maximum ya know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by linda7170
    Thanks its good to hear that someone else has experienced this too.
    Im not going to expect a call but*she was hot* ,although im not lookin Im sure I can find someone who is hotter and not a dancer.
    Actually dancers are statistically more attractive than the average everyday woman you pass on the street. And its OK to lust after them You just have to remember to keep it on a pay-per-view basis and not get emotionally entangled
    Quote Originally Posted by linda7170
    I just wish she did not say things like im going to take you home etc ...keep the talking to a minimum and the dancing to a maximum ya know.
    They cant help themselves...its what they do

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    Quote Originally Posted by linda7170
    I just wish she did not say things like im going to take you home etc ...keep the talking to a minimum and the dancing to a maximum ya know.

    LoL. Then you wouldn't be on the same ship so many of us are. Like FBR said, dancers are actresses. They act like they like you so you'll give them more money so they can provide a nice life for themselves. As a customer, you buy the attention and affection so you'll feel all fulfilled and get a good ego boost. I love when they talk like I'm the stuff, it helps build my piddly esteem. I hope you do get a call. If you do, tell us all about it. I'd love to live vicariously through you. I haven't been able to go to my club in 2 and a half months. Boy I can't wait until the end of this month!
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    see i sooo disagree with you guys. a dancer RARELY gives a GIRL ss. if it was like you said looking for you and eye contact and all that with just a few dances. i think she does indeed like you. i used to only date women and never wasted time with a women unless i really liked her. did she call you? if not ,if you gave it to her on a dollar. chances are she lost it. go back again and dont spend money. you will soon find out whats up. i think you have a chance

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    I agree with that Velvet. There's a girl at the club I go to who will sit and talk with me for the longest. On a couple of occassions I have bought dances from her. The dances are $20 for a timed 4 minutes. While we're in the booth, she'll dance for a while, (sometimes continuing after the timer goes off, sometimes she stops early) then just sit on me and chat about life for 45 minutes to an hour or more after the dance is over. She just likes my company (for some unknown reason ). She doesn't expect money from me (although I do tip her most of the time. I've experimented and she stills comes around no matter what). She tells me I'm her type and all that good stuff, but nothing could happen because she has 2 kids by the man she lives with (she feels comfy enough to tell me about her home life). Sitting back and thinking about the little relationship I have with this girl, maybe she does have a pretty good chance for something more. Hopefully she does, I'm a sucker for happy endings. You do raise up there a might good point velvet mod/godess.

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    everyone is saying that it's SS, but i don't know. She might actually be interested in you. When I met my boyfriend i gave him a free dance and it took me a while to call him but once i got over my shyness I called. Just because we dance doesn't mean we're not looking for a significant other.

    i really hope she calls and wants to see you, but if she calls and says something like "it's a slow day today at work" or says ANYTHING to do with her working the next day...run. She only wants you for your money.
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    Okay - same answer as everyone else. She is probably not really interested. But might be. None of us know her, and none of us know. You don't need strategy - to get the "most" honest answer, ask her out, tell her that she doesn't have to go in order to keep you as a customer and then you'll know. Easy.
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    Ok Im going to go back saturday and give it one last shot ,I appreciate all your comments and my womens intuition tells me that the interest was there.

    Im going to try one last time, I think I will just ask her for a dance and at that point just talk her and tell her that I would love to get to know her better OTC. If the answer is no at least I will have tried.
    I have been with women before and sometimes you just feel that sexual tension /interest and I felt it with her.
    For any dancers out there, when she was giving me those dances she was kissing me on the neck and nibbling on it,and grabbin my breasts. I sensed some strong sexual tension ,is that what you do with your female clients?

    And no she has not called me, I gave her ny number on Saturday

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    i agree with the last thread it is very possible that she likes you go back and give her your number or better yet see if she will give you hers a dancer never gives out personal info unless she has some interest at least i know i never did even for my $$$ men i would always get thier number i would never give them mine i hope this helps if shes not the one im sure you will find some one else and yes it is true dancers may sell a line of bs but not to everyone

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    It happened to me. I fell for a stripper at another club HARD. I spent lots of money on her and she gave me amazing mileage female-friendly dances. I was totally hoping to party with her sometime, since we have a mutual friend. One day at work, I saw her dancing onstage at my home club.

    I was so excited I ran up there with a $5 and a shit eating grin. I gave her a huge hug and waited. She took the $5, said "thanks", and walked away. She didn't even remember or recognize me.

    Hahahahahaha, I hope you boys all feel better about yourselves for a nanosecond. She still works at my club but I won't talk to her. Not that she even knows I'm alive. Twat.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    It happened to me. I fell for a stripper at another club HARD. I spent lots of money on her and she gave me amazing mileage female-friendly dances. I was totally hoping to party with her sometime, since we have a mutual friend. One day at work, I saw her dancing onstage at my home club.

    I was so excited I ran up there with a $5 and a shit eating grin. I gave her a huge hug and waited. She took the $5, said "thanks", and walked away. She didn't even remember or recognize me.

    Hahahahahaha, I hope you boys all feel better about yourselves for a nanosecond. She still works at my club but I won't talk to her. Not that she even knows I'm alive. Twat.
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    Quote Originally Posted by linda7170
    I have gone to this strip club 3 times and all 3 times I have had my eye on this one exotic dancer. (I AM A FEMALE)...So I was bold and left my number on a dollar bill...She later came back and said I read and and I put it away....Ok was she interested?? or am I just playing into her game to make me come back to the club??is this a lost cause?
    OTC friendships between dancers and customers do occur, (personal experience), but if they're genuine, money drops out of the equation fast. If you're a customer, then you're just revenue to a dancer. If you're a friend, they don't want to make money out of you.

    Don't confuse an OTC friendship with an ITC, (inside the club), friendship. All dancers love customers who are friendly, generous, and well behaved - it makes their working environment so much nicer. The pleasure in seeing you is genuine - she's earning money and enjoying herself at the same time.

    Trick is to work out what sort of friendship this dancer wants. If she's genuinely interested in meeting you OTC, she'll soon let you know - not least you'll get HER mobile number. Just remember she's probably being asked for her phone number all the time - don't plunge in without putting a toe in the water first.

    Only way you're going to find out is ask - but don't set your heart on getting a yes. As some of the more cynical posters have pointed out SS is part of a dancer's way of earning money.

    Practical example of SS at work? I gave a dancer a lift to a venue yesterday. As we were driving there she was texting two or three of her regulars. "I'll be in XXX this afternoon - love to see you there", etc., etc. As she was texting she was commenting to me: He's worth two private dances; this ones a bit weird, but I'll get several dances from him....

    Got there and it was big hugs all round when she saw her regs: "I couldn't wait to see you". Five minutes later; "wanna dance?"

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    Quote Originally Posted by DSUsb19
    I agree with that Velvet. There's a girl at the club I go to who will sit and talk with me for the longest. On a couple of occassions I have bought dances from her. The dances are $20 for a timed 4 minutes. While we're in the booth, she'll dance for a while, (sometimes continuing after the timer goes off, sometimes she stops early) then just sit on me and chat about life for 45 minutes to an hour or more after the dance is over. She just likes my company (for some unknown reason ). She doesn't expect money from me (although I do tip her most of the time. I've experimented and she stills comes around no matter what). She tells me I'm her type and all that good stuff, but nothing could happen because she has 2 kids by the man she lives with (she feels comfy enough to tell me about her home life). Sitting back and thinking about the little relationship I have with this girl, maybe she does have a pretty good chance for something more. Hopefully she does, I'm a sucker for happy endings. You do raise up there a might good point velvet mod/godess.
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    I'm glad that someoe brought up the fact that being female doesn't entitle her to free stripper sex! BRAVO! She's playin' yo ass just like she does every guy she talks to!
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    When she starts giving your money back and when she starts calling you up and asking you to go out away from the club, then you'll know she's really interested.

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    it is of my belief that if the answer is yes, you wouldn't be posting about it. I'm sure dancers are often so obvious about it <because they have to be> it hits you like a train.
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