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    Balancing corporate job & Dancing...

    Okay... i have been reading around these pages for a while now.

    I have a couple of q's though.

    I have a full time boring as hell corporate job and would love to work as a dancer one night or two. I have two week subject left of my degree I was thiking about starting now... and then working until the end of the year. I really want to travel and finding it really difficult to save at the moment with all these huge bills...

    Is it hard to juggle a corporate job and working a couple of nights per week as a dancer?

    Is it common for colleagues from my corporate job to be seen in these sorts of places, I keep telling myself no, as the people i work with a mainly family oriented, they are all a bit older than me, but i would just drop dead if was on the stage and my boss walks in. (i'm his PA by the way...)

    Is it difficult to maintain the energy for a night of dancing after a huge hectic day or week?

    I also live by myself in my own apartment, and was a little worried about the security factor if i happen to have a crazy customer choose to follow me home or such.

    Essentially just worried about the balance between two such jobs and I dont want my dancing to interfere with my day job...

    Okay, I know i just have to take the big HUGE leap and just go and do it... I have been into a few clubs and the girls there are fantastic, there's one club in particular that mostly interests me and the girls gave me the run down last week when i went in there to check it out...

    So someone please just kick me in the behind and tell me to just go ahead and do it!!!

    Thx.

    Missy K.

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    I did both for about a year. It's important that you dance far away from where you work because you obviously want to lessen the chance of run-ins, and it's a lot easier to notice someone following you when you go a longer distance. When I first started dancing, I was doing Fri, Sat and Sunday nights. I was always tired on Monday and it set a bad tone for the week. Then I tried Thursday, Fri and Sat nights and took Sunday off completely and it made me much more productive with both jobs to have a day of rest.

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    With Emilys adivce to dance far away is a good idea still keep yourself safe from stalkers and guy who "just want to have dinner with you".
    If you think someone is following you drive to a police station or fire station or even a 7-11....whatever is open. Most of the time someone will walk you to your car and make sure no one starts to follow you. IMO most clubs are pretty safe although there will be a wierdo at some point.
    Youve already taken the step to go to the club....whats left to ponder? You just do it and go for it...and if you dont like it you can leave. Simple and easy......DO IT
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    Quote Originally Posted by Missy K
    ... Is it common for colleagues from my corporate job to be seen in these sorts of places, I keep telling myself no, as the people i work with a mainly family oriented, they are all a bit older than me, but i would just drop dead if was on the stage and my boss walks in. (i'm his PA by the way...)...
    If all the happily married family men stopped coming, most strip clubs would have to shut down. As far as other people finding out. If you would just absolutely die, or it would totally wreck your corporate career if someone found out, my advice is don't do it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Destiny
    If all the happily married family men stopped coming, most strip clubs would have to shut down. As far as other people finding out. If you would just absolutely die, or it would totally wreck your corporate career if someone found out, my advice is don't do it.
    Ditto. I'll add, that if the "happily married family men" dropped out, the entire adult industry would fold up tomorrow.

    Yeah on the "someone found out" thingie. The answer to that, of course, is to dance at a club w-a-a-a-a-y away from your office job. I've known lots of girls who had day jobs and danced either for the thrills (yeah.... seriously) or for the extra bucks (LOL... yeah, more like it!). Anyway, they would commute a LONG way (sometimes, 100 miles) to stay away from the chance of being seen. ONE CAUTION -- it's not uncommon for dancers to have a couple of drinks on the job. Hey, if it weren't for tequila shooters, I NEVER would have climbed on stage in the first place!!! Well, if you're going to work a full day, then dance at night, think SERIOUSLY about checking into a motel nearby and grabbing a few hours sleep and change before driving into work the next day. $25 at a Motel 6 (or whatever they charge now-a-days) is cheap compared to a DUI or falling asleep at the wheel.

    As for juggling..... a LOT of dancers (me included) danced and attended college at the same time. I maintained a B+ to A average while dancing, no sweat. HOWEVER, ya gotta keep your life organized if you're going to do that. One dip-shit boyfriend, for example, and the whole house of cards comes falling down.

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    I am in the same situation! I work directly w/ my boss - I'm at App Tech for a software company. I deal w/ A LOT of ppl. So why am I doing this? My husband and I want more outta life. Even though we both have great jobs and pay very well, we're also impatient!
    :-)

    The same thing goes for me - the biggest thing is trying to find a balance where I don't look and feel tired. Besides my IT job, I exercise religiously and I have to keep that up. My goal is to get the body where I can compete in an Amateur Figure Competition next year.

    Actually, this Sat is my orientation and my first night and I'm really nervous. I think I found a really nice club - only goes topless, touching policy is great, lots of security, I'll be working mini shifts of 4-6 hours on wk nights and probably a full shift on Sat night. Sun, I will probably be taking off or working early enough to get home and go to bed at a descent hour. Probably won't work Mon nights.

    Does anyone have any pointers or suggestions? I'm still reading threads about "newbies" etc.

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    Actually, don't count on going faaaaar away to be a shield from running into your fellow employees--THEY may be going far away so as not to be seen at an SC!

    True story: I had never run into any fellow co-workers in a SC in my town, but the ONE time when I went OUT OF STATE with my ATF to go camping, as I was swimming in the falls what did I see but a co-worker who had gone there with his CHURCH group! It was just weird running into him like that while I'm there with a hot stripper in a bikini...

    (and for the curious, it was an innocent trip, not a Derek tale, though I DO have some pics of her in her bikini.)

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    I have a day job that I deal with a lot of different people. Some I really wouldn't care if they knew I did it and some I really would rather not have them know. I have found that when I have danced I had a little bit of paranoia about the wrong person coming in and it made it a little hard for me to relax. It's sort of hard to get into the right frame of mind when you can't really let go of the person you are during the day at work. I also found that dancing made me VERY exhausted. I've started in the slow season but so far I've found that if I just try to get extra work through my day job here and there that I make more extra $ than by dancing. Still doesn't mean I won't dance again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Missy K
    Is it common for colleagues from my corporate job to be seen in these sorts of places, I keep telling myself no, as the people i work with a mainly family oriented, they are all a bit older than me, but i would just drop dead if was on the stage and my boss walks in. (i'm his PA by the way...)
    If you dance anywhere in the general vicinity of where you work and/or where your co-workers live (i.e., surburbs), sooner or later you'll wind up getting "outted" at work... bank it. And, given the way "Murphy's Law" invariably seems to function in such situations, odds are it'll be "sooner" rather than "later."

    Just my .02, but I've seen it happen more than once.
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    If you need to hide your stripping job, wear a wig, do heavy stage make-up, work far from home and be a total prude/ dullard / punctual employee at your corporate job. Men always talk crap about women BUT if there's no way to prove you're a stripper, the BS fantasy talk will die down.
    Save up your stripping money in case you do need to leave your job- in today's job market and socal climate, no one would be surprised if you suddenly left any job for a better one. There's hardly any job loyalty anymore.

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    I'm starting a new corporate job soon and I'm not even going to attempt it, especially in light of the fact that NYC clubs close at 4AM. Between heading home and winding down from hustle mode and the loud music, plus removing face/body makeup, I might go to bed at 5:30AM and that's just gonna wreak havoc with my sleep cycle.

    I don't know what area you plan to dance in or what their hours are or if they require you to work a minimum number of shifts or hours. These are all things that also need to be taken into consideration.

    About "outing". Most of of usually wear so much make-up at work and the costumes that someone usually might "think" they see us. Plausible deniability is awesome. Deny, deny, deny. In one case though, when I was dancing in DC, a girl that also worked for a financial company saw a colleague come in, before he saw her. She got permission from the GM to just kind of hide out in the dressing room until he left. It cost her a little bit of money, but she was mortified at what she thought would happen if he saw her there.

    One word about these "huge bills" you have...I don't know how you incurred these bills or what they are (student loans, do you have a kid, just spent too much on your credit cards?) but if you racked them up by just spending too much, stripping will not solve the problem. If someone is a natural spendthrift, all the cash burning a hole in her pocket after a night working in the club will likely be spent on frivolous things like clothes, handbags and eating out. Not to say it's not nice to have those things sometimes, but having a lot of cash on hand makes it a lot easier to keep blowing money.
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    ^ The shopping addiction thing is true. I could kick myself in the butt for all the useless junk I bought just because I was bored and lonely and had extra cash stuffed under my mattress. But that could be said of anyone.
    As for security- get a trust-able room mate (relative, longtime friend, etc.) Once they see you are doing the job for the $$$ and not the lifestyle, they'll "be cool" and probably help you out around the house (do more housework so you can sleep, cover for you during scheduling conflicts or emergencies, etc.) Of course, reward them if they are this helpful and cool. I have had this privilege in the past.
    You NEED to remember these words- if you come from an average suburban-sheltered background, be overly cautious in everything you do. You cannot trust anyone in the SC scene. At least not initially. Your private life & stripper life are two DIFFERENT worlds. That might sound exciting now, but over time it will become a boring or bittersweet reality. Be careful.

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    When I first started I also worked for a Fortune 500 company that is known in every country. I was worried at first and then mustered up the courage after really thinking it through. I chose not to work far away, just at a club that I assumed employees would not go to. I chose a smaller club and not a big name place. If you have that option try there. As for crazy stalker custys, take the long way home and stop at a police station on the way. Good Luck.

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    Hey, its cool.

    There is amatuer night next week, I am going in it and doing a double with my friend. We'll see how that goes, may aswell stick my toes in the water first Then i will do it after that.

    The huge bills i was referring to include my dental work, Univeristy fees, car bills etc etc. I am not a silly person in that sense. I am saving to travel and i just want to make sure i can go when i graduate!

    Oh and the "i would just die" thing was just a figure of speech. The wig thing sounds like a good idea and the club i like is a little lesser known.

    So thanx for the help everyone

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    Quote Originally Posted by pet_rock
    Actually, don't count on going faaaaar away to be a shield from running into your fellow employees--THEY may be going far away so as not to be seen at an SC!

    True story: I had never run into any fellow co-workers in a SC in my town, but the ONE time when I went OUT OF STATE with my ATF to go camping, as I was swimming in the falls what did I see but a co-worker who had gone there with his CHURCH group! It was just weird running into him like that while I'm there with a hot stripper in a bikini...
    However, if someone's going that far to avoid being seen, they really don't want to "out" themself as a strip club attendee -- which they would have to do to "out" you as a stripper, right? I mean, they could say "Oh, someone told me she was a stripper" but then that's rumor, and gets treated as rumor, unless they're the boss and it's an at-will employment state, or unless the boss is a psycho who lets xir employees jerk xem around.

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    I think its all about balance if you are working in the corporate world. Maybe the first 2 weeks could be a little rough, but your body will adapt to change. About not seeing people you know, I would say the farther you go away, from where you work, or even where you know the people you work with live, the better chance you won't have running into them.

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