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    Default customer says "i don't do that"

    i've reached a problem when trying to sell dances. somehow i happen to be finding a large number of guys who say "i don't do that" in a very disgusted way when i suggest a dance. they arent lying either, these are the guys who just sit at the bar and drink, and maybe spend a buck or two on stage. is there a way to spot these guys before spending time talking to them before i try to sell a dance? i also seem to get a lot of the "angry at strippers" men. the guys who about 2 minutes into conversation start ranting about their mom/sister/ex gf/wife or whatever who was a stripper and how they hated it and it drove them crazy and they don't like strippers outside the club and blah blah blah. i don't understand why they even come in, and why the hell they rant to -me- about it. i've started walking away from them, but my manager talks to me when i do this too much. it's even more annoying if either of these types of guys buy me a drink, because i'm supposed to sit and talk with them till i finish it. we're not allowed to get up with our drink and go elsewhere and also are not allowed to refuse a drink, so when someone buys me one i wind up being stuck with them not making any money. i need to figure out how to spot these guys so i don't waste my time or get "talked to" for walking away from them too quick.

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    Default Re: customer says "i don't do that"

    What type of club do you work in? In some clubs, especially small ones, you have regular customers who come in several times a week, and sit at the bar. The girls who work a lot know that and don't waste their time on them.

    What kind of drinks are you ordering? Are they the non- alcoholic variety that you can down quickly and leave the customer? Do you use a code drink with the bartender or waitress so she won't give you alcohol? Or are you working at a juice bar?

    I don't particularly like clubs with drink minimums. Every customer is not at the club to spend money, and you have to be free to move around to find one who is receptive to company and use that as a determinant to sit longer.

    How busy is your club? At one time, how many customers and dancers are on the floor? Do girls walk around asking for dances a lot, or is there more sitting than table or private dancing going on?

    If a club has momentum, it is easier to sell dances and guys will buy because they see other guys around them constantly buying. It sounds like this club is somewhat slow and dances are relatively hard to sell period.

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    Do you get bitched at if you down the drink? I worked at one of those clubs. I used to down the lady's drink and say, "Thanks! I was so thirsty. You're a God send! I'm going to do a quick round and come back to you. I'd love to hear more about your girlfriend, but I have to give a dance or two first." Try to keep it positive when you bolt. If they refuse in a disgusted way, I normally look at them and say, "Awww, Sweety, I wasn't trying to force anything. I'm just required to ask. It's okay if you don't want one. Because this is about what YOU want. Why don't you give me a smile since the scenery is beautiful, and I'll be out of your way!" If they don't like strippers outside of the club, I normally say "Lucky for us, we're inside the club!" The sell gets frustrating. Try to stay positive and force a smile. I force a smile even if I'm bitching out a customer while twisting his balls off because he tried something that's a no-no. Have you talked to your manager about this? I try to let them know where I'm coming from. I offer to tip them a little extra if they let me slide with table jumping or refusing a drink. Or forewarn them that if a customer get's out of hand, I'm going to try to take care of it without going overboard instead of spending an hour locating management. Or waste my time in any sense. While I appreciate where the club and managers are coming from, my job isn't to make people happy with no money. My job is to smile, move on, and try to give another dance while doing the required stage rotations. When all else fails, "I'm sorry, Sir. I'm not qualified for this discussion." Who can argue with that? Or, "We're not falling inlove, are we? Bummer. Well, I have to go find my soul-mate. It was nice meeting you."

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    Default Re: customer says "i don't do that"

    there are two types of guys that don't do lap dances. Cheap guys and non-cheap guys.

    if it's a cheap guy, who cares?

    If it's a non-cheap guy, you can work with him.

    The way to find out is explain that your time is very valuable to you and while you understand their position and enjoy spending time with them, that you need to make the most of your time at work. This is where they put up or shut up.

    If they give you a n ice tip, then accept their drink.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Underestimated
    Do you get bitched at if you down the drink? I worked at one of those clubs. I used to down the lady's drink and say, "Thanks! I was so thirsty. You're a God send! I'm going to do a quick round and come back to you. I'd love to hear more about your girlfriend, but I have to give a dance or two first." Try to keep it positive when you bolt. If they refuse in a disgusted way, I normally look at them and say, "Awww, Sweety, I wasn't trying to force anything. I'm just required to ask. It's okay if you don't want one. Because this is about what YOU want. Why don't you give me a smile since the scenery is beautiful, and I'll be out of your way!" If they don't like strippers outside of the club, I normally say "Lucky for us, we're inside the club!" The sell gets frustrating. Try to stay positive and force a smile. I force a smile even if I'm bitching out a customer while twisting his balls off because he tried something that's a no-no. Have you talked to your manager about this? I try to let them know where I'm coming from. I offer to tip them a little extra if they let me slide with table jumping or refusing a drink. Or forewarn them that if a customer get's out of hand, I'm going to try to take care of it without going overboard instead of spending an hour locating management. Or waste my time in any sense. While I appreciate where the club and managers are coming from, my job isn't to make people happy with no money. My job is to smile, move on, and try to give another dance while doing the required stage rotations. When all else fails, "I'm sorry, Sir. I'm not qualified for this discussion." Who can argue with that? Or, "We're not falling inlove, are we? Bummer. Well, I have to go find my soul-mate. It was nice meeting you."
    I like this advice--very witty!

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    I've had guys actually show me their wedding ring when I asked them if they wanted a dance.. WTF? Okay so, your sooooooo married that you come in to see naked women.

    It boggles the mind.
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    Default Re: customer says "i don't do that"

    Some guys just like to look, maybe feel a bit more guilty touching. I never bought dances until recently, never felt comfortable with it. I am fairly shy, and still feel awkward at first. I am getting more comfortable, and even have a ATF now who I will get dances from everytime, but that is unusual for me. Oh plus I decided to not be so cheap anymore, spend some money having fun. Its all a mindset.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny
    i've reached a problem when trying to sell dances. somehow i happen to be finding a large number of guys who say "I don't do that" in a very disgusted way when i suggest a dance.
    Try, "That's ok,but there's no need to be rude about it- you are in a strip club after all." and smile then ask them nicely how there day was or even "So what do you do then?" I often find that conversasion flows abit then and this will lead to them to either buy you a drink or give a small tip anyway.

    Choose a drink thats quick and easy to consumme - get the bar person to put lots of ice in you glass so theres less to drink and let themknow not to give you full serves of alcahol so you don't get smashed!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Crow
    I've had guys actually show me their wedding ring when I asked them if they wanted a dance
    When they do this, I show them mine right back. I get a sale about 50% of the time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Crow
    I've had guys actually show me their wedding ring when I asked them if they wanted a dance.. WTF? Okay so, your sooooooo married that you come in to see naked women.

    It boggles the mind.
    R
    Same here girl! I usually just laugh and tell them I didn't want to go pick out curtains; I just wanted to straddle your body with my nekkie one!

    Most laugh, and do a dance later.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward
    When they do this, I show them mine right back. I get a sale about 50% of the time.
    I usually say something like, "Honey, that's not going to protect you. Neither would a cross, garlic or splashing me with holy water. Over time, we've grown immune to all those."

    -Ev

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