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    Hi everybody,
    I was at my first strip club the other night and I was wondering...is it normal for the dancer to kiss and start undressing the customer? I had a couple of dances that were pretty standard from what I've heard from other guys (grinding, rubbing their breasts against me, etc.)

    Then, while I was waiting for a dancer who was busy talking to another potential customer, this other girl came up to me and asked if I'd like a dance with her and dragged me off. She was one of the most beauftiful and down to earth women I've ever met - and apparently, we live in the same condo. Anyhow, I digress...she gave me the most amazing lap dance. First she started gently kissing me all over, then she unbuttoned my shirt before playing with my nipples. Is this normal???

    I've been so confused ever since that last dance. The first two dances I got that night were arousing, but I know that I was just another customer to the dancers - which is totally cool cuz they were just doing their job. But that last dance felt so much more personal - it felt...almost real. Part of me knows that I'm just another customer on any given night, but part of me likes to hope that a girl like her would actually be interested in a guy like me. Am I losing my mind? Or was it just one great lap dance?

    Btw, if I go back to the club, would it be rude to tell the other girls that I'm waiting specifically for one girl when they ask if I'd like a lap dance? Also, if I see her around the condo, should I just pretend that we don't know each other at all? Or is it ok if I say hi to her.

    Thanks!

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    Default Re: Unusual for a lap dance? I'm confused...

    You're in Miami. Par for the course from what I hear That last girl was just doing her job, same as the others. She just does it differently if you get my drift.

    If you want dances from a certain girl when you return, it's not rude at ALL to tell other girls that when they approach. In fact, we appreciate it because it saves us trying to sell you when you already know who you're looking for. Politely tell any girl who approaches who you're waiting for, and she might even tell her you want dances. At minimum most will move on without hassling you

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    Default Re: Unusual for a lap dance? I'm confused...

    kissing.... well I’ve never danced in Miami, but if this is normal there then I’ll be sure to not work there!


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    Default Re: Unusual for a lap dance? I'm confused...

    Just some advice... I never have a problem if I am alone and a customer comes up and says hello, but if she is with other people don't acknowledge her first, if that makes any sense. I also appreciate it when customers tell me they're waiting for a certain girl that saves me time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by orthodoc
    First she started gently kissing me all over, then she unbuttoned my shirt before playing with my nipples. Is this normal???
    It's called the girlfriend experience (GFE), and an increasing number of dancers do it well. Extreme GFE can be a creepy mindfuck if you don't understand the game.

    Quote Originally Posted by orthodoc
    Also, if I see her around the condo, should I just pretend that we don't know each other at all? Or is it ok if I say hi to her.
    Tell her you're cool with dancing, but you won't ever tell. If anyone asks, you can just say you met at the condo pool.

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    hmm...i'm not sure about this. In a way i would find it very odd that she's kissing and undressing EVERY customer, but who knows. Next time you go, why don't you watch how she dances w/ other customers from afar? You know what? nevermind, i doubt you're the only one. Just stay away.

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    LOL. Could we confuse the PL a little more?

    Seriously. Just remember that she's doing her job. If you like it and are not worried about getting the germs of a few thousand other guys that she kissed, go for it. You give her money and you'll get along famously.

    Don't read emotion into anything unless she proves it outside of the club at no charge. Well, other than dinners, movies, jewelry, etc... LOL.
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    Default Re: Unusual for a lap dance? I'm confused...

    Thanks for all the replies...just wondering, what's a PL?

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    Well, when contact lap dancing, I have unbuttioned a guy'ss shirt to play with his chest, but not to the extent you are getting.
    Confused? No, consider yourself lucky. Remind yourself that she's just doing her job and that is all. Good luck.

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    Default Re: Unusual for a lap dance? I'm confused...

    Quote Originally Posted by orthodoc
    Thanks for all the replies...just wondering, what's a PL?
    Pathetic Loser

    As to your initial post, dancers pretty routinely unbutton my button down oxford cloth shirt and play with my nipples. Some will rub their bare chest against mine. Strangely enough, I find this a turn-on. Go figure.

    Good luck.

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    Default Re: Unusual for a lap dance? I'm confused...

    The GFE from that last dance just threw me for a loop...thanks for the reality check. :-)

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    Default Re: Unusual for a lap dance? I'm confused...

    I was at my first strip club the other night and I was wondering...is it normal for the dancer to kiss and start undressing the customer?
    Been known to happen...and I'm slow to complain, generally.

    A journey of a thousand PL laps begins with a single dance (that seems out of the ordinary, but isn't).
    As always, JZ's sagaciousness sums it up succinctly.
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    PL = Pathetic Loser

    We use the term to describe just about any customer, in the most loving way of course

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette
    PL = Pathetic Loser

    We use the term to describe just about any customer, in the most loving way of course
    I resemble (oops, I mean resent) that remark!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by orthodoc
    Hi everybody,
    I was at my first strip club the other night and I was wondering...is it normal for the dancer to kiss and start undressing the customer? I had a couple of dances that were pretty standard from what I've heard from other guys (grinding, rubbing their breasts against me, etc.)

    Then, while I was waiting for a dancer who was busy talking to another potential customer, this other girl came up to me and asked if I'd like a dance with her and dragged me off. She was one of the most beauftiful and down to earth women I've ever met - and apparently, we live in the same condo. Anyhow, I digress...she gave me the most amazing lap dance. First she started gently kissing me all over, then she unbuttoned my shirt before playing with my nipples. Is this normal???

    I've been so confused ever since that last dance. The first two dances I got that night were arousing, but I know that I was just another customer to the dancers - which is totally cool cuz they were just doing their job. But that last dance felt so much more personal - it felt...almost real. Part of me knows that I'm just another customer on any given night, but part of me likes to hope that a girl like her would actually be interested in a guy like me. Am I losing my mind? Or was it just one great lap dance?

    Btw, if I go back to the club, would it be rude to tell the other girls that I'm waiting specifically for one girl when they ask if I'd like a lap dance? Also, if I see her around the condo, should I just pretend that we don't know each other at all? Or is it ok if I say hi to her.

    Thanks!

    Confused Newbie
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