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    About to close the deal! Need Advice...

    My wife and I are 24 and have been married for three years. This year, we have become steady regulars at our local SC. Recently, we’ve “adopted” an ATF dancer who loves it when we come in because she seems to have a big crush on my wife. She always gives us way more attention than we pay for when we go, (as in RUNNING across the club when we come in to hug and kiss her), and she gives us incredible LD’s that could probably get us thrown in jail here in Minnesota.

    At first, I thought that all this attention was just her being charming, but a few more trips definitely proved we were getting special treatment that she doesn’t give to anyone else. Last month, this girl went and bought a double-egg vibrator at the club’s toystore. Now, she keeps it in her car and gets it out when we come in, to use on my wife, inside her pants. They use it together during our dances, but also when we’re all just sitting together, sometimes for hours… she also gives over-the-clothes oral sex and kisses to her nearly every LD, (on her nipples, thighs, and crotch).

    When we’re not there, her and my wife exchange friendly phone calls and text messages… and we have also seen her outside the club (not a sexual date, but it was a daytime barbeque party with lots of kids around).

    Here are some of my questions so far: From what I’ve read from people on here so far, this seems like really special treatment, especially since we can’t and don’t tip her as much as some of her high-roller regulars do. Am I right about this? Or is it just a normal tease? Sometimes it’s hard to deal when her big-money regulars come in, and she has to be with them instead – but then she comes over and apologizes every chance she gets. So we don’t get too jealous about that.

    More importantly, can we expect this to go any further? She’s only 20 and seems pretty naïve. She also has a regular boyfriend, but I really think she would come home with us if the opportunity presented itself. Of course, we don’t want to be all creepy and keep pushing for it or but we also don’t want to miss out on a great opportunity by not giving the right invitation.

    Finally – I think she would go to regular dance clubs, bars, or other stripclubs with us on a date – but she’s only 20! The club where she works is the only one she can go to without a fake id! We can buy the booze for her, of course, but not in public. Any good ideas about an alternate plan?

    Help me out and wish me luck!!! Dirrtyd.

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    Default Re: About to close the deal! Need Advice...

    I'm courious; Do you want to stay married?

    Crossing this line opens a door that may be bad for you. Turning fantasy into reality my not be what you expect. What if your wife falls in love with her and leaves you.

    This has happened many times. It's very easy to think; She would never to that. But she may.

    Good luck,
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    i think your doing the right thing right now. Take it slow. if she is honestly interested in the two of you, she might just ask to join the two of you OTC. If she has a vibrator just for your wife and her, then i would say she's interested. Have you thought about asking if she was interested in hanging out OTC more often? Keep us up to date on what happens
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    If she is interested in anything outside the club, then she has already shown it. A vibrater that the dancer spent her own money on? Just be careful

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    Damn I though I was the only one who writes letters like this. I over analyze everything, I figure every nice look is genuine, every thank you is sincere. However, this does seem to be more. Sounds like every mans fantasy to me. Is your wife cool with asking her home, for a threesome I assume, or just a girl-girl thing? I'd leave it up to your wife to invite her over, do all the talking, set the boundaries. It might also be time to start looking at a swingers site and not a strippers site. There is a swingers site setup much like this one. Good luck! And remember, if it does not work out, you've already had more fun than 99.9% of guys will ever have.

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    Just let her take the lead... it certainly does sound like more than the regular ss... and a lot of fun... you certainly don't want to ruin a good thing...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rick1
    I'm courious; Do you want to stay married?
    Yea, no shit. I can't think of a faster way to get divorced.

    In the coming years you can expect arguments to include "that slut you brought into our relationship" and then she will sit there with indignation on her face even though she was in on it too. Of course, she would have been "tricked" into it by your "controlling manner."

    Sooner or later those arguments will move out of the living room and into the lawyer's office and there you will be. Talking about threesomes and all kinds of crazy shit to a judge who will decide how to divide up everything you own.

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    Why would a threesome automatically mean a divorce? My boyfriend and I go for group play on a regular basis. We used to go to swingers' clubs but everybody there was always fat and old or just there to gawk and giggle, so now we just take what we can find, but it certainly doesn't create problems between us. In fact, I think it strengthens our bond and we have more fun together.

    My ex-husband and I are divorced now because of his blind obsession with monogamy. He wouldn't even notice if a gorgeous chick walked by and got annoyed if I did. There were other reasons too, but I just got BOOOOOOOORED with all that silliness. Life is way too short for monogamy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah
    We used to go to swingers' clubs but everybody there was always fat and old or just there to gawk and giggle,

    Ain't that the truth, lol..

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    I don't know why it's that way, but it is. Occasionally we'll find an attractive woman but her bloke is usually awful. We went to a new one in SF last weekend and found the only other attractive couple there, and she and I fooled around some, but she wasn't comfortable with anything beyond making out and it was obvious he'd dragged her there. Bummer.

    I say go for it, but let her lead you. Nothing but innuendo on your part or you risk scaring her off for good and ruining the good thing you've got going now. Just flirt and keep it all under-the-radar, and definitely let your wife do most of the talking since that's who she seems to be most interested in. Good luck!

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    a side note about swingers clubs....there are some for "pretty people" and "everyone else."

    the only thing is that the pretty people aren't going around telling everyone about it. You have to have an "in" and they are invite only type things.

    I would never go to a swing club again. If I ever did that type of thing, it'd be one of those private parties.

    now, back to the topic...it sounds like she wants your wife, not you. I think you should stay out of it.

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    Thanks everyone for your fast replies. I LOVE this site!

    A lot of your replies made sense. Although, at this point, I'm not really too worried about my wife leaving me or anything, although I will be careful about that. She always shares the text messages with me and she only talks on the phone with her when I'm in the room. Plus, this dancer is much younger and much more immature than us, and she has way too much drama for us to even be close friends with her.

    I think this is really just a phase for my wife, where she enjoys the same-sex attention, and it's a really hot fantasy for us that we'd like to at least keep alive - if not take it further.

    Let me touch on this reply from cpeters1:

    Quote Originally Posted by cpeters1
    Good luck! And remember, if it does not work out, you've already had more fun than 99.9% of guys will ever have.
    I must absolutely agree, and thanks for the advice! When I first found these groups, I spent the entire first week, up all night, browsing everyone's posts trying to answer this question: Why are so many SC's so rude and unfriendly to couples? It was so frustrating to us to sit there with tips showing, and hundreds of dollars in our pockets, and have to beg for LD's in some clubs, or otherwise be totally ignored. The lesson I learned (and you can see how it worked ) is that you have to find a club that seems to welcome you, and STICK WITH IT! We've kept up a twice-a-month schedule at our local SC, and so we're established regulars there. The owner nearly always comes by and welcomes us when we come in, and everyone is polite because they know my wife is comfortable to be there and we're both there to be part of the fun. They know I'm not dragging her around like a cavewoman, forcing her into my lewd fantasies.

    We've discovered that everyone at the club pays WAY more attention to her when we come in, and hardly ever me. And so her attitude indicates whether we're BOTH having a good time or not. So, couples: It's soo important that your lady dress, act, and look, and TIP like she's really having a good time, or else she just looks pitiful, and you look like an asshole for bringing her there. If she really is uncomfortable - then just stay home and watch a porn together or maybe just go to a regular dance club.

    You also have to be patient. I think that establishing yourselves with all the dancers takes at least a few weekend trips.

    By now, I think the bartender is about ready to name a drink after us.

    Best of luck to all other couples in the same boat, and thanks again for the replies...

    dd

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    Why are so many SC's so rude and unfriendly to couples?
    A lot of guys drag their wives/gfs to the club when she doesn't really want to be there, she sits there scowling or whatever.... that is probably more common than a couple like you two who are actually both going in expectation of a good time...

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    hahah never heard of anything like this before.........is ur wife bi?

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    Good point on the couples thing. A good tip I picked up the last time my guy and I were at the club... the girl hung out talking to us, flirted with me a little, then looked over at him and asked, "Can I give your girl a lap dance? She's so pretty." He was more than happy to fork over the money to watch that. Good selling technique! The dance was $20 and I tipped her another $20.

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    wait, you come in with hundreds to spend on dances?

    this changes things. In your original post, it sounded like you don't spend that much, but a customer spending hundred is someone I would act like that for.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    wait, you come in with hundreds to spend on dances?

    this changes things. In your original post, it sounded like you don't spend that much, but a customer spending hundred is someone I would act like that for.
    no, not with our ATF. We usually get one, maybe two ld's from her and then give her some stage tips, but nothing extravagant. "The hundreds" part was when we've gone out of town, to other clubs, and are often ignored because they don't know us. OUR club is different - much better.

    I'm very sure that our ATF isn't just looking for our wallets, becuase she doesn't ever hustle us. Ever! We're always the ones who keep asking for 'one more, one more'!

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    Quote Originally Posted by dirrtyd
    to use on my wife, inside her pants. They use it together during our dances, but also when we’re all just sitting together, sometimes for hours… she also gives over-the-clothes oral sex and kisses to her nearly every LD, (on her nipples, thighs, and crotch).

    When we’re not there, her and my wife exchange friendly phone calls and text messages… and we have also seen her outside the club (not a sexual date, but it was a daytime barbeque party with lots of kids around).

    is it just a normal tease?
    Ummm, I don't think this girl is teasing.

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