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    Default For those who came back ...

    ... after a break/leaving/retiring.

    - Were things different?

    - Did you have more success that second time around?

    - Did you change your mindset?

    - Were you able to overcome the things that caused you to stop in the first place?

    What's your story?

    Its been nearly 5 months I think ... you know how it is when the going gets tough, the mind begins to wonder...

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    Im having a much better outlook on dancing and better money stragedy. Before I really didnt know what dancing was about and what for other than support myself from month to month. I was so negative towards men and now I see them and wierd little creatures that dont need to be understood but satisfied.

    After doing some reading on here I was able to overcome the things that were dragging me down. Also, I looked within myself to truly ask if I could do it and what would happen if I was to start again. Before I came back...I was absent for almost 2 years.

    I would think about how dancing would be a positive choice in your life right now.
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    Default Re: For those who came back ...

    Thanks TM ... there for me as always

    Yeah a lot of stuff going on right now, I am beginning to think about how it could be a positive choice (it would mean travel again though...) and how I could use the situation a lot wiser.

    I will set with it a bit longer before I decide, and of course what to see what the other lovely peeps round here have to say

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    -Well, I can answer.. if I changed my mind -set, and was I able to overcome the things that made me stop in the first place. ( I am about to go back in about a month)
    -Over this summer, I have been giving myself some confidence boosting. I have been working out...spending time with family ...cleaning.... reading...sleeping... and just doing things that make me feel good. I am learning how to look at the brighter side of things.
    -One of the problems that got me down, and led to me leaving my dancing job, was major stress. I had a breakup that led me to procrastinate with school work, sleep badly, and put off other house hold chores that needed to be done. My life became very un-organized.
    Now, I am sleeping good( atleast 8 hours a night), I dance in my room if a problem starts to bother me, and I think of the positive things that I am looking forward to in my life.(For excitement)
    -My new schedule and motivation techniques should help me when i decide to go back to dancing, and help me in my life in general.
    One other dilemma, that I did NOT ovecome( but planned to before going back to stripping) was to tell my FATHER. My mother and other close friends and family know, but not him. I really wanted to clear the air and tell him so he does not find out some other way. I currently still did not get that courage up yet =/
    I help him part time at his Veterans club bartending as of right now...

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    So far I think I am much more successful the second time around.... I went through a lot of changes both physical & emotional before coming back... I use to be a 6 and now I'd give my self an 8. I'm making twice the money easily that I was making before...

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    I've been on an involuntary break and can't wait to get back- I'm going to rip money out of stripping with my bare hands and teeth. Some dancers go back with an enlightened attitude but I realized where I made mistakes in being too easygoing and disorganized before. Not to mention too trusting.
    This is MY take on this business- This is not a nice business. The fact that women devalue (to MEN) with age will get shoved in your pretty face every night.
    IMHO- you are entitled to this money. Any pretty lady is going to have to deal with rude horny men. At least you can profit from this injustice.

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    Default Re: For those who came back ...

    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    IMHO- you are entitled to this money. Any pretty lady is going to have to deal with rude horny men. At least you can profit from this injustice.
    Every newbie should know that one. I feel entitled as well but dont mind working for it and very thankful when I have a good night. As much as we deal with on a night to night basis the money (when its good) is worth my time and emotional energy.
    To add...Ive gotten tougher. Im not so nice anymore..."hehe dont touch my coochie"....more like "touch it again and snap your fingers off". Im not violent I just dont need to be walked on.
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    I took about a year off and it was the best thing for me. I came back more in shape, much happier and more educated on how to go about my job (I did not have as much motivation and hustling skillls as I do now). I needed the break badly because I was burning out.

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    I took 6 months off in 2001. From August until February 2002. I guess my timing was pretty good because of 9/11, and I worked in a bridal shop, and after 9/11 people were more in a marrying frame of mind, so business was brisk.

    Why did I come back to dancing? I needed the money. Also I noticed that working in Bridal retail was just as hard on my body as dancing was, but it didn't pay as well. Those dresses are heavy, and I had my arms over my head a lot of the time causing me upper and lower back pain. So even though I enjoyed the work, my savings was rapidly dissappearing and I just needed to earn more money per month to make ends meet.

    The break was good for my mental health. I was back into dancing more and had a lot more tolerance for the jerks out there (expecially after spending 6 months dealing with Bridezillas!).

    As a side note, if you need some flashy jewelery for work, bridal shops can't be beat!


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    5 months is not a long time. you should be perfectly fine!

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    It's been only 2 months since I stopped dancing (I was REALLY burnt out) but I'm already considering it again. I'm still a student and I really dislike the idea of having a full time job to cover my bills while trying to finish up. Towards the end, I really disliked it. I kept zoning out at work and thinking about how disgusting I found the men. I was a megabitch to anyone who tried to touch me or say anything remotely perverted.. my b.s. tolerance went from decent to zero. But that could be because I was working so much. Who knows? I just remember that when I was focused, I did very well. Not having money sure makes dancing look good. I keep having an internal debate with myself on whether I should go back or not...
    "She believed she could, so she did." -unknown

    **Rachelle**

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    I went back after a six/seven year retirement, I did better than I thought I would.. of course, I was a dancer in the late 80's in L.A., I made a lot of money when I was in L.A.. (the time of the hay days of rock and roll and strip clubs).. but, that set aside, I did do better than I thought I would even in a smaller environment. I went back in 97 after moving out of L.A in 93, then in 98 decided to retire, then I came back in 2004 for only a year..


    I came back after I had been downsized from my corporate job and after visiting a good friend of mine who was dancing at the Crazy Horse II in Vegas.. was kinda in a slump trying to figure out what I was going to do, where I was going to work, whether I was going to finish school (and I did)..

    I have officially retired. I dance only at home.


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