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    OK I'll try to keep this as short as possible but still get all the facts out there. I recently had a birthday party at a local club here and met a girl who I took a liking too. In the course of a lap dance with her I told her my number and to give me a call sometime to hang out but that I wouldn't hold my breath about it. Well the next morning she came calling and we hung out that night and had a good time.

    I wouldn't consider myself all that good looking really and I don't make a ton of money or anything and actually I told her she made way more then me. We have hung out twice in the same week since meeting her and I don't undertand why. I'm sure most people would just assume she is working me over and I would have to agree but I would like to give her more credit then that. She told me the reason she called me was because I wasn't pushy and didn't offer to buy her nice things and take care of her and all that. I did make it clear to her I had no issue with what she did and I try to be supportive of her and offer her advice regarding investing her money for when she gets tired of stripping. I've made it clear both times I wouldn't buy her things and I know everyone is thinking 'yes you will' but really no I won't.

    So basicly - not very good looking guy with not that much money who for some reason this gorgeous woman keeps talking to, spending time with, sharing details of her life with and they are not just lies.

    Is this the greatest con ever or could she actually enjoy my company?

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    it sounds like she really likes you

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    She may really like you or she may be planning to harvest your organs. Either way, enjoy the ride.

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    Isn't life exciting?

    Hey, just cuz you met her while she was working, doesn't mean she's not a person like anyone else.

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    ^^^^right, we're human too

    I sometimes say to myself, "why did I have to meet you here!?"

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    Amazing!

    One thing I do find interesting or strange perhaps is she is beautiful, i'm sure she knows this, I'm sure she hears this every day/night at work but I still feel like she should know but when I tell her part of me feels like I'm just being like all the customers. I don't say cras things like "You have a great ass" but I do say things like "you really take care of yourself and I respect the commitment and effort put into that".

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    Oh I know your human too, I'd like to think that's way she took a chance or gave me shot.

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    that's another thing....I don't mind being told I have a great ass by my boyfriend.

    It's different coming from him. I think guys think we don't want to hear it from them because "we hear it all the time."

    First, I never get tired of hearing it.

    Second, the only person that I really care thinking I have a great ass is the one I want on it.

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    I guess all I can do it play it by ear and try to tune out the little voice in the back of my mind saying "this is way too good to be true".

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    I don't know how old you are or how many relationships you've had, but all the good ones I've had seemed too good to be true at the time...

    otoh, the best ones did cause quite a lot of heartache... no risk, no reward...

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    I'm 29 and I've had my heart handed to me in a doggie bag enough to know better. I agree no risk no reward but this is so far from the normal rules it's really all new to me.

    although maybe I'm just a moron - she doesn't seem to like or want kissing and wants to be drunk when we mess around - perhaps I'm that hideous.
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    she wants to be drunk cuz allot of dancers loose that "intimacy" feeling due to our work... it sounds to me like she actually likes you as a friend, maybe more... the best advice i can give you is dont push yourself on her physically and simply enjoy her company as she does yours. if she wants more than a friendship, let her take it at her pace.


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    Yeah that makes sense I guess intimacy gets taken for granted sometimes

    but does being drunk some how allow her to feel intimate or what?
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    WELL... lol, being drunk sometimes makes sex better. Minus inhibitions!

    I would be a little worried though if she has to get drunk in order to have sex though.

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    hmmm I think im going to tell her no more sex until we know each other better - that should make it pretty clear what's going on

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    ^^^ hmm is right.... why the rush to make it clear what's going on?

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    I'm just gonna leave it be

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    Quote Originally Posted by RayzrShrp
    I'm just gonna leave it be
    Just go with it and take it for what it is.

    If all of a sudden she wants you to buy stuff on her shopping spree's then you know what it is all about. Just walk out and let her take a cab home from the mall when that happens.

    Otherwise - enjoy the pleasure of her company.

    If she is a drinker though, I would be a little worried about getting to close.

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    Why would you worry about getting too close if she is a drinker?

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    I think tampa means that if she needs to drink to be intimate, there is something wrong. Drinking itself isn't the issue.

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    I agree - that's what has me confused. I'm not pressuring her to mess around, she is normally drinking before I get to her house and then she wants me to drink with her. If she isn't attracted to me then why bother?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    I think tampa means that if she needs to drink to be intimate, there is something wrong. Drinking itself isn't the issue.

    Thanks for clarifying that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RayzrShrp
    I agree - that's what has me confused. I'm not pressuring her to mess around, she is normally drinking before I get to her house and then she wants me to drink with her. If she isn't attracted to me then why bother?
    gee it just sounds like she likes to drink, and she likes you... why overanalyze it?

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    If you look at a cross section of the dancers of the world, you're still just looking at a cross section of people. There are all kinds of people who dance. So many different morals, ideals, attitudes, opinions, beliefs, personalities, etc. You have genuinely good people and you have shady people anywhere and everywhere, not just in the strip club. You could find a sneaky chick working in McDonalds as easily as you could at a nudie bar. It IS possible that she is honestly a good person. Dont let the stippulation that she dances get in the way of how you see her.
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    I think you've got a good thing going, based on the facts. It doesn't sound like you were being a real high roller at the sc that night (or were you?), plus you were the one that gave her your number, and SHE was the one that called it, the very next day. If she didn't like at least something about you, she wouldn't have called.

    Now for the real delimma... whether that "something" is your wallet and your gifts. I would advise caution, and distance. The more you get to liking this girl, the less time you need to spend at her SC. Two reasons: First, this gives you a test to use, because if you ever start suspecting that she's hustling you, you can cut off your money completely and stay away from the club for at least a week or two. If she calls you up, you'll know that at least she misses you. If she wants to go OTC with you to the movies or dinner or something, then you're doing good. If she just wonders why you haven't been in the club on your regular night, you may be in trouble. Of course, if you hear nothing - then you'll also know what's up.

    The second reason to stay away is because you'll eventually start to get jealous of her dancing if you're an active participant in it. Someday, you'll be sitting there as her boyfriend, watching her gush all over her regulars (because that's her job), and it will drive you crazy. Smart boyfriends who date classy dancers let their girl go to work on her own and trust her while she's there.

    More importantly, stay away from the club for the rest of us, because nothing kills the mood of a SC faster than the dancer's asshole boyfriend sitting at the bar, glaring at every tip you leave his girlfriend.

    best of luck... dd

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