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    Angry Couples! Grrr!

    What's with couples sometimes? I know how to handle them on the rare occassions when one or both get a little grabby, but I had an awkward experience with one last night and I didn't know what to do!

    I'll be brief about what happened. I started my striptease and the lady just leaned over to her guy and started eating his face and massaging his crotch the very moment the dance commenced. I was like ''Ur, em...'' thinking to myself that they'd stop any moment now. But they didn't. So I thought if I tried to dance closer to the couple, they'd turn their attention to me and will stop their PDA, but the closer I got, the lady's body language in particular suggested that they were more interested in interacting with each other. They hardly even looked at me and (for a change) I felt so uncomfortable watching two people getting it on, it was just so out of place. I actually felt like a TV in the bedroom playing porn in the background for ambience. It was truly weird and I didn't know what the hell to do. I know I probably should have said something to make them stop, but I didn't know what to say, especially if it was to be with tact.

    I was pleased when the dance was over. But oh my goodness, if ever I felt like a spare part...

    Have any of the ladies ever had to handle a situation like this or similar to this? Custies, have you ever done this? I want to hear all about your antics!
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    Pretend you're a porn director filming them, LOL! That would be an interesting concept. That sucks though, couples can be tricky.

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    To quote the lovely Vanity from City Limits regarding couples: "Get your swinging asses out of here!" LOL

    I would prefer they maul eachother. I would just air dance. But if you want to, gently nuzzle in towards the female and put a hand on the male. Then tag and release. (Whoops. Forgot I'm not a biology worker anymore. LOL) You get what I'm saying.

    (This reminds me of an old "Sex & The City" episode where Charlotte works up the nerve to try a threesome at a costume party....and her boyfriend jumps on the other girl and forgets all about Charlotte....LOL)

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    these people make me so mad. *(~cute little angry face~)* i'm a bisexual woman and want to take my boyfriend out to strip clubs, but because so many of you ladies have had sore experiences with couples and women who are not ladies, i'm afraid i won't be able to get the attention of dancers, at least until i make it clear that we are both going to behave ourselves, be appreciative without grabbing, tip generously, and avoid irritating others as much as possible. these people ruin it for the rest of us! *(~moans dramatically~)* what's a lady gotta do to buy a glimpse of hot female ass around here, huh?
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    Quote Originally Posted by venusofwillendorf
    (~cute little angry face~)*


    Quote Originally Posted by venusofwillendorf
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    Excessive PDA is really gross, no matter where it is. Makes everyone uncomfortable too. Ive had plenty of people suck face with abandon while bartending. The phrase "get a room" gets murmured around the bar, yet no one says anything to the perps. Often they tongue-lash each other, then wonder why they dont have new drinks in front of them the moment they come up for air. Sorry, I just have a natural tendency to avoid standing directly in front to two Face-Suckers.

    A Face-Hugger, though, like from the movie "Alien" would be cool to see at my bar

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    Smile when they're done and ask them if it was as good for them as it was for you.....

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    Do, you not have a floorman watching dances at your club? At my club if the custy is acting obnoxious during the dance with himself or someone else he or they will get warned. I have had a couple come in with the girl not wearing panties and spreading her legs wide open during the dance. I just stand there for a minute and close her legs and proceed dancing. I have had guys put their hands down their pants to adjust and I just again stand there and ask if everything is ok. This usually makes them feel like a moran.

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    there is one place pda is ok.... a sex party. but i digress.
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    yea, there was this couple who came into rhino a lot and she would always wear a tiny skirt and he'd always go to town on her.
    it drove me nuts cause they'd do it by stage so everyone was like "ooo free show"

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    When I used to go to the club with my ex she used to like putting on a free show sometimes... sorry girls, it was one of the few places she felt safe showing off her assets....

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    so get her a job there, silly

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    my girlfriend was w a couple who started having sex. she was traumatized for days.

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    heh. i have never had couples that act that bad...but if they did i wouldnt care, hell if i already had the money what do i care if they are watching or not?
    i would just air dance and ignore them til the song was over. or ignore them as much as one can while dancing on/near their lap

    edit-that was in reference to the original post. if they started having sex or got too crazy i guess i would be like hello!! and call the bouncer or whoever to nip it in the bud.
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    Sounds totally rude and uncalled for to me. My wife and I go occassionally. I usually get her a dance first, then get a dance or two for myself. I actually get more aroused watching her get a dance than me getting one. Occassionally my wife will reach over and give me a little rub, or caress the dancer, but nothing like you've described.

    One time after the dancer was done with my wife, she comes over to me, sits on my lap, leans over to my wife and says, "Damn he's hard as a rock!" It was true and we all got a good laugh out of it. That was a fun night.

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    I don’t think the behavior wasn't really bad in and of itself, but it was bad here because you didn’t give permission for it and it grossed you out. If you knew these guys, and had danced for them several times, you might really get into it with them and find it incredibly hot.

    I’ve already mentioned on here that my wife and I have an ATF at our local club and things sometimes get pretty wild. We have never taken it quite to this level with the PDA, but I could see where we could probably get away with it if we were inclined, because our ATF is very comfortable with us. The fact that these guys were newbies with you definitely DOES make it inappropriate. You should consider cutting them off unless they're serious high rollers.

    This kind of thing gives the rest of us couples a bad name everywhere. Its already like pulling teeth to get LD’s in most clubs… before long they won’t let us in at all!

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    I think it's alittle rude of them but then agine you really don't have to try all that hard at pleasing them the seem to do very well on there own..then agine other custy's could be watching you give this dance and if you don't atleast try to do your best they may not want a dance from you ....confussing kinda huh!!! what to do?

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    Quote Originally Posted by bikinigirl04
    heh. i have never had couples that act that bad...but if they did i wouldnt care, hell if i already had the money what do i care if they are watching or not?
    Really. I'm thinking, at the level described in the original post, this wouldn't even make my top 20 list of annoying things a customer can do. How much of the problem stemmed from having to view the PDA and how much stemmed from not being the center of attention, aka being a "spare part"? There are nights I'd love to be a spare part for a couple, as opposed to the customer playing mechanic on my engine.

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    That is so gross. That's all I can say. I would be too ashamed and embarrassed to act like that. I'm sure there are more annoying things that can happen, but I'm sorry, that is just nasty.

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    Quote Originally Posted by evan_essence
    Really. I'm thinking, at the level described in the original post, this wouldn't even make my top 20 list of annoying things a customer can do. How much of the problem stemmed from having to view the PDA and how much stemmed from not being the center of attention, aka being a "spare part"? There are nights I'd love to be a spare part for a couple, as opposed to the customer playing mechanic on my engine.

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    It's true, there are worse things that can happen, but is it really approriate?

    I'm am not a prude dancer, I can tolerate many things, but you shouldn't always assume that I am and this is partly the point I was trying to make. People have the right to come into an SC and enjoy themselves, but I just wasn't expecting it and I was definitely not in the mood to get used to it at the time.

    If I had known the couple (as someone was saying before), it would likely have been OK. And although I am a dancer and my primary aim is to get paid, I guess sometimes I do have a little vanity when I'm dancing - is that a bad thing really? Personally I do not think so because I like to think that I am also the reason people are having fun in the private rooms with me.

    Unless something has been agreed to beforehand, you will find that I am a very open-minded person when it comes to customer requests unlike this post suggests.
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    I walked up on a couple sitting in a booth having sex once... quite honestly, I think people have a lot of fucking nerve..

    In that situation Malibu, I would have interrupted and left (but that's just me).. I'm not ANYONE's porn except my hubby's of course! hehehehe.. And I can very well imagine how horrible that felt as they were going at it and you're just "there".


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    maybe you just turned them on so much they couldn't help themselves! you have to always assume the best about these things so it doesn't get you down, in my opinion.

    of course, that's not to say that what they did was appropriate....
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    Put it this way though.. we all know that couples come in for sheer thrills of a threesome fantasy..

    We get told how degrading we are for this line of work, yet in this situation, Malibu was completely ignored while this couple obviously thought it to be no ill will than to let her dance there, and go completely unnoticed, other than a casual glance and use her as a tool to get themselves off..

    Now on the flip side of this... we do this for guys who we dance for, but at least they have the respect of talking to us, having some interaction. The entire purpose of the lap dance is interaction between the person giving it and the person receiving it...

    In my opinion, this couple should have gone to their local XXX video store, picked up a few videos and gone home...

    I find the entire situation quite upsetting myself and would have wasted no time in speaking up if it had been me.


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    As long as they were just making out, I don't see the harm. Plus, if you're getting paid to basically just stand there while they get their jollies, I don't see the problem. It's better than them sitting in the back of the club doing the same thing w/out tipping or paying anyone. Having SEX or as someone mentioned going down on each other, however, is completely out of line.

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    Malibu, IMO that's an example of some of the bad behaviour exhibited by insecure stoopid female custies. They try to act all sexual, open and cool with their SOs, but in reality can't stand the thought of him looking at another woman, so when they get a dance together (even at her own suggestion), the woman does everything she can to make sure SHE'S the only one he's paying attention to and turned on by I think those women also are aware it's probably making the dancer uncomfortable and like that too. Of course, the guys tend not to mind because they're getting all that sexual attention from the chick and most guys are too dense (or don't care) to figure out what's really going on in that situation.

    When I encounter that, I'll usually just finish the ONE dance with my back to them, collect my money and move along. If they're getting too friendly I'll signal a bouncer or just tell them myself that "we'll get in trouble" for that kind of behaviour.

    I hate that too. Stoopid bitches need to learn to say and do what they really feel, rather than what they think their man wants

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