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    Default Can't keep regulars

    It's my experience that the so called regulars i've had are a hassle and get very annoying. It's to the point that i rather have no regulars, just make my money from different customers and go home. Everytime i build one of these, they want more and think money will buy extras and it's just not like that with me. I feel like i just have to sit there and put up w/ their begging on wanting to date me and I almost feel like I owe something because of the money spent. So, i rather not accept the money and move on to those that want to have a fun experience and get out. Anybody else feel that way?

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    Default Re: Can't keep regulars

    I feel the same way about dancers trying to cultivate me as a regular. They start to expect that I came to the club just to see them, start asking a lot of silly questions when I talk to or get a dance from another girl, and generally expect me to hang on them like a puppy dog who will go away when told.

    It's especially annoying when it is someone that I have not really shown any interest in, but who knows I'm a relatively big spender.

    Sorry, but no. If they want to be friends or something, fine, other than that, let's keep it a more simple and professional relationship.

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    I know a lot of dancers who don't want to keep "regulars" for a variety of reasons; while they enjoy the consistent and steady source of $$$ they often supply them with, it's often that these "regulars" grow to expect more ITC or OTC whether it be just sex, or an exclusive meaningful relationship...Some of the dancers I know have mixed emotions about this topic, but continue to 'play" and "string along" their "regulars" under the often false pretenses that they might get what they are looking for someday from them; while their sole intentions are to keep them STRICTLY as a steady source of $$$ whether it be ITC or OTC.

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    Alicia, I think you'll find lots of dancers feel the same as you do.
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    I like "regulars" (guys that come in to see me), but I like guys that come to the club on a semi-regular basis and buy dances off me and other girls more.

    Those guys are cool because you know they will spend money on you, but are not going to try to monopolize your time and take it "to the next level"

    I have worked at the same club for 3+ years, and I practically work every night, and naturally I have a lot of "regulars". I don't like the guys that are into just me, but they can be nice too because you can ignore them half the night and they are chomping at the bit to spend money on you when you give them time.

    My all-time favorites are the out-of-towners (or sometimes locals) that come a few times a year and are happy to see me as a familiar face.

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    Default Re: Can't keep regulars

    I've had favs (sometimes more than 1 at the same club/times) that were NOT jealous/stingy enough to get catty with my money; they complimented me on spreading the money around at the club, at least after it was clear to them that I would always spend some their way. This was when the clubs were doing better here.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    Default Re: Can't keep regulars

    When I'm working at a really busy club I don't like regulars because I find that they are a waste of time when you have a constant flow of customers. However, at a slow ass bar (such as the one that I'm at now) regulars are worth their weight in gold. I have found that dayshift regulars are worse than nightshift regulars. In my experience dayshift regulars are the ones who want to talk to you for three hours and hear your entire life story and then make unwelcome suggestions on improving your life and then buy 1 lap dance. Fuck that! Night shift usually has a wider variety of just-passing-through customers that I totally prefer.
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    Ya... regulars never last... Unless you've found a good one... and even they don't last.
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    Default Re: Can't keep regulars

    Regualrs aren’t made to last forever.. as dancers aren’t made to last forever… some may stick around for a long long time if there is actual chemistry there. You cant fake a “regular” relationship for long. The ones that tend to last for a while are genuine to some level. Either way, enjoy it for whatever it may or may not be .


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    I never cultivated regulars due to stalker fears and working all over the place. I still did OK.

    Just start fibbing about "having a boyfriend." Some people/ custies actually prefer trying to poach mates from committed unions because they figure, Hey, she's already good enough to be someone's girlfriend. I want her.
    Men enjoy the chase and "faking" a boyfriend is a good way to keep an arm's length distance to the Regular relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alicia0033
    It's my experience that the so called regulars i've had are a hassle and get very annoying.
    The motivation for many custy's to buy dances, whether they are a regular or not, is the thought that they might just be able to make a "connection" with you and see you OTC. "Dating the dancer" is very much a male fantasy - never underestimate the power of that fantasy as a factor in selling dances.

    The problem is compounded by the fact that you are indeed selling a fantasy - it's how you earn your living. You are going to give these "regulars" the impression you like them because no custy is going to buy a dance from a girl who makes it clear that she's just doing a job and $$$'s are her main incentive.

    Quote Originally Posted by alicia0033
    I feel like i just have to sit there and put up w/ their begging on wanting to date me and I almost feel like I owe something because of the money spent.
    Why should you owe them something? They're paying for lap dances, and you are providing them. You've met the letter of your "contract" in full. If your custy's want to pursue an ulterior motive and spend money to that end; that's their problem, not yours.

    Quote Originally Posted by alicia0033
    So, i'd rather not accept the money and move on to those that want to have a fun experience and get out.
    Why not try introducing potential regulars to the concept of the "ITC friendship". Tell them that you don't date customers, but that you'd very much like them as a friend inside the club.

    Tell them that's it's far nicer to dance for someone you like, and indeed it's far nicer for you to come into work knowing [customer name] will be there to meet you and make sure you have a nice time.

    Make sure you make him feel valued; try and acknowledge him as soon as you spot him, always call him by name, remember some personal facts about him to show you are treating him as a person.

    Professionally, try and show him he's getting value for money. Make your lap dances slightly longer for example. Ok, you're making money as a slightly slower rate, but at least it's guananteed income. A couple of regulars a night that'll spend $60 on you is a fair start to having a good night.

    What's he get out of it - the boost to the male ego from knowing you like him - (and providing you can train him not to ask for OTC dates, you might just find you do like him.) He'll also get slightly better for value dances from a dancer not totally after $$$'s and a little bit of friendship as well.

    Ok - this might be a slightly utopian view of the dancer/customer relationship; but remember these custy's are coming in with their own ulterior motives - why don't you try and "condition" them to your point of view for your ulterior motives.

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    I wish more girls i worked felt this way about regulars becuse girls around here depend on it and if the guy they think is there regular even dare to talk to anthor that girl is hearing in the dressing room how she is cutting in on someone elses money. Sad fact.

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    I don't maintain regulars I don't like. There are plenty around over the years who I eventually would avoid even though they were guaranteed good money. Either they were too needy or they wanted the extras.

    There are plenty of nice cool guys that deserve to be your regulars. I am really bad about keeping a schedule, so I will sometimes just call up the cool ones and chat for a minute on my way in. You don't need to do more than that if you work at a high volume club.

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    I used to be a regular for a few girls. I dont go to strip clubs much any more but when I do, no matter what club I go to there are usually one or two girls that recognize me and come over and say hi. I always tried to take care of everyone - would usually hang out with my favorites and let them tip the girls with my money. It was fun for awhile. Then the last one went OTC - I didnt ask her - she asked me. That didnt work out. I am smarter now so I just stay away from the clubs except on rare occasions. And then I dont focus on any one dancer. I just tip the ones I like.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alicia0033
    It's my experience that the so called regulars i've had are a hassle and get very annoying. It's to the point that i rather have no regulars, just make my money from different customers and go home. Everytime i build one of these, they want more and think money will buy extras and it's just not like that with me. I feel like i just have to sit there and put up w/ their begging on wanting to date me and I almost feel like I owe something because of the money spent. So, i rather not accept the money and move on to those that want to have a fun experience and get out. Anybody else feel that way?
    I echo that sentiment,wholeheartedly.Regulars do suck.I prefer out-of-towners and tourists to generate my revenue.I'll never see them again.
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